<p>Hello - </p>
<p>Why then, on the Iclicker thread, does she post in the first person - “will I get credit for attendance”?</p>
<p>Because she doesn’t want them to know she’s a parent.
Do you think that a student would be the one responding to these threads? That would be REALLY scary!
Obviously, you haven’t you read this entire thread or “Nightmare at AU”
If you do, you’ll realize that CR is a parent.
You should read it—It’s very entertaining if you don’t have anything better to do!</p>
<p>Hello5</p>
<pre><code> Cornell’s dorm life is ABSOLUTElY managed in a much more professional manner.
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<p>As I wrote earlier an adult couple manages my son’ dorm. The president of Cornell actually moved into one of the dorms with his wife during the first month of school to make sure the kids were happy and acting reasonably and respectfully. This is totally unlike my daughter’s dorm where kids are leaving feces on the toilet seats, making noise, leaving used condoms in front of elevators, panties on the floor of this hall of 65 children… etc… Now, Hello5 and others, you claim my daughter and I are co-dependent. Are you kidding me? You wrote that your kids are broke and not using their meal cards and crying to you about it? How irresponsible and dependent that is. They are so spoiled they can’t even manage the money they’ve been given or the meal plan you worked hard to provide them with for college. My daughter hasn’t called us for money at all, uses her meal card, and is careful to keep within a very restricted budget including utilizing her savings from a summer job.</p>
<p>Also, Cornell very carefully matches compatible roommates based on sleep time preferences, music, everything. The only time kids live in triples are in a large suite or townhouse and not bunched in a tiny space. They actually request a triple and are not in any way forced into it and then stressfully disrupted during the semester to possibly move again to another unknown circumstance. All of this Hello5 can be verified at both schools.</p>
<p>Lastly, both schools cost about the same, full ticket. It doesn’t make sense.</p>
<p>Yes, he spent too much money these first few weeks. I’m sure he’s not alone. What’s he doing about it? Watching his finances and eating more in the TDR. Yes, my son is going out and spending HIS money earned from HIS job (that he’s had for 3 years) because he can actually relate to people and have a life on campus. What is your daughter doing outside of calling you and complaining?</p>
<p>PS Here’s your problem in a nutshell-------They’re no longer “Children”!!!</p>
<p>Hello5 - of course I know G’town is more difficult to get into, and has wealthier students. My d. hated it - go figure - but I doubt she would have gotten in in any case (her one friend who is there says he is miserable, but I expect that is NOT a universal experience.) I do know there are things my d. can do academically at AU that would be very difficult to do a G’town. Just a different place.</p>
<p>‘red thinks I was noting binge drinking rates for her benefit. (For that, I would simply have pointed out that the binge drinking rate and hazing at AU isn’t even close to what it is at Cornell.) I wouldn’t have bothered, since I doubt her d. even exists. More relevant would have been rates of feces on toilets, used condoms in front of elevators (glad they were used!), panties on floors with 65 children on them! (oh, horrors), those falling from 7’-high bed lofts, oh, and yes, the dreaded decibel levels.</p>
<p><a href=“http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/cornell-university/779552-cornells-new-unofficial-game.html?highlight=cornell+drinking[/url]”>http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/cornell-university/779552-cornells-new-unofficial-game.html?highlight=cornell+drinking</a></p>
<p>For what it’s worth, as far as I am aware the only student on CC who ever died of alcohol poisoning (Lucifer) was a student at Cornell. A first-year.</p>
<p>Here’s an idea-- if Cornell is so wonderful, do us all a favor and have your daughter transfer there. I’m not familiar with their art dept. but, Lord knows, it has to be better that AUs.
Why do you post here?</p>
<p>Mini,
Yes, you’re right it is a different place and I feel that many Jewish students and others might feel uncomfortable in a Jesuit school. ( I doubt my son could have gotten in either),
though it’s reputation could well override that.
S (and I) are perfectly happy at AU and feel it has much to offer. He turned down GW and others for the campus, internships, small classes and merit aid that AU offered.</p>
<p>Cadmiumred, i think your problem is that your D did not make it at Cornell like your Son and you are so angry about it that you are trying to make AU looks bad!.. do you really love your D?</p>
<p>That’s it Ginger!!!</p>
<p>Ginger2:</p>
<p>That is ridiculous. My daughter had no intention of applying to Cornell. The way I have been
berated here unjustifiably, my husband and I should taken out to dinner by you guys on parents’ weekend.</p>
<p>Hello5:</p>
<pre><code> The kids have been there a month, not just 2 weeks. They are definitely still children. Many are still 17, a MINOR by law. Would adults act irresponsibly that way with disrespect, blowing money, staying up til ungodly hours. I wonder what the grade averages will be?
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<p>Mini:</p>
<p>You love to twist the stats and facts. The Cornell freshman who (years ago), died unfortunately, passed away at UVA!!! NOT at Cornell!!! He also had other medical issues. A Northwestern student also died sadly from Alchohol poisoning in the past few years. There are others.
Get your facts straight. Also bragging about whether one school’s drinking
binge rates are less than another’s is absurd. There shouldn’t be binge drinking at all whatsoever. Your credibility is lacking, not mine.</p>
<p>A whole month! That’s a lot of used condoms…</p>
<p>His name was Matthew Pearlstone - you can find his name on the web, and was part of a very heavy drinking set at Cornell (which, apparently, given their massive binge drinking rate, isn’t hard to find.) Hope they use plenty of condoms too. His drinking at Cornell (where he was for 8 months before his death) was so extreme that when he couldn’t find anyone else to drink with, he’d call friends on the phone and have drinking bouts over the telephone. The caring and reliable residential advisors at Cornell, together with the professors living in the dorms, were all over it. Yessiree. The big difference of course is your son (if he exists) doesn’t like to talk to you much about what goes on, because he knows what you do with it, and it’s rather embarrassing.</p>
<p>It’s great to see that Cornell students have invented a new drinking game that is sweeping the country. I’m sure the RAs have been very helpful; maybe they helped them post it.</p>
<p>For the record, my d. stayed up until an ungodly hour (5 a.m.) Friday night, working on an assignment related to global legal issues.</p>
<p>(If the multi-million-dollar-paid President of Cornell had to subject his wife to living in the dorms for a whole month, things must have gotten really, REALLY bad.)</p>
<p>Mini:</p>
<pre><code>Still making my point with the wrong emphasis. You make an argument that no one is interested in: binge drinking rates at one school versus binge drinking rates another. You compare AU and Georgetown, AU and Cornell etc. You are absolutely emphasizing MY point that drinking is clearly a problem at many colleges that needs to be addressed. Those that don’t drink are unfortunately forced to live with the unruly, uncivilized ones. My daughter may absolutely have been an anamoly in being placed on an unruly, uncivilized noisy floor!!! However, there should be methods in place to correct or at least improve the situation i.e. RAs and an RA director. She has rights too. What is the RA for? Exactly??? No one has yet to answer this. Matthew Pearlstone was an anomaly years ago and that is why Cornell is very strict and responsive to problems in dorms. It is also a much, much larger campus than AU. A smaller campus should be able to rectify problems, less kids. This year, there is a moratorium on frat parties at Cornell.
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<p>It is impressive that your daughter works hard late at night. I was talking about the kids who aren’t working hard, playing catch in the halls, laughing very loud, slamming doors. In the room the kids should absolutely respect those with an early schedule. Why should a child become ill from this?</p>
<p>Cadmiumred,
All of us have posted about both the ups and downs that our children have experienced. Both are valuable parts of the college experience. They’ve dealt with crowded rooms, better-or-worse roommates, scheduling difficulties, learning to budget time, money and sleep, etc.They have tried classes, clubs and other activities.</p>
<p>So far all we have heard of your D is the downs. What of her “ups” for example, what clubs or sports has she become involved in? What events has she attended, restaurants has she gone to, friends has she made, etc.?</p>
<p>My other question is , how do you know so much? Are you in constant communication with her? She might just be blowing off momentary frustrations to you and then going on her merry way…fairly common for first year students.</p>
<p>Between the rants of cad, the egotistical comments of mini, and all of us allowing cad to hijack this thread and in fact this AU forum, this has become an embarrassment to the university. Do what you wish folks, but speaking for myself I am done here.</p>
<p>Hey
I am a second year Georgetown student, who benefited a lot from CC during the application process. I return every once in awhile to answer questions and lately have been helping out with essays. I wanted to check AU to see if any one was asking for help and I feel like students have been scared away. I hope for AU, a great school, in the best city that this can all be resolved amicably. Cadmiumred, I feel like your daughter is perfect person for substance-free housing. Going once step beyond dry first year housing (which in almost every school including Georgetown and Cornell is a complete joke), students are committed to refraining from alcohol, drugs, cigarettes, even unhealthy eating. These halls are almost always a lot quieter at Georgetown they enforce longer quiet hours. I am sure your daughter can look into switching if she really is absolutely miserable. If the hall she is in truly has gone animal house and by some chance the RA in charge is truly enabling the behavior and she is so uncomfortable it is effecting her school work, a simple meeting with her hall director should present her with other options. As long as she schedules the meeting, I’m sure something productive would come of it. There is very little that this group of people, online, can do to alleviate the problem.</p>