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71 or 73 schools ... Good grief! No wonder you joined the couple of dinosaurs who built this place from the ashes of a depressing bulletin board.
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<p>Not nearly as bad as it sounds. That was the total universe of schools whose academics, using a very coarse filter, were in the category that appealed to my D. A few factors--geography, size, and access to high-level ballet (whether on-campus or off)--whittled down the list fairly rapidly. No Texas? There went Rice. Not in or near a big city? There went Grinnell and a host of others. Fewer than 2,000 students? Whups, there went Amherst and Bryn Mawr. No decent ballet? Bye-bye Cornell. Not in the South? Have a nice life, Duke & Vanderbilt.</p>
<p>Getting down to 20 was fast. Getting down to a dozen wasn't too bad. That's where the real work began. Funny thing is, I noticed Smith on the list from the beginning and while no grounds appeared to cross it off, I silently shook my head and said, "That'll never happen." Shows what I know. Having an open mind when defining the universe of possibles is good. If I had been controlling or assertive, I'd have nudged my D into considering Brown or Bryn Mawr or Tufts more strongly despite failing one criterion or another...but you know what? It worked out just fine.</p>
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I also believe that there is an enormous amount of fate and luck involved in the college search. Luck might involve deciding to read a brochure from a school nobody could find on a US map instead of ... tossing in the "inbox."
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I agree. The personality of a tour guide, the social habits of an overnight host, even the weather on a visit and a whole lot of other random factors can affect an attitude. It's an imperfect process, on both ends of the equation. Yet it seems to more or less work.</p>
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As a last note, I also believe we end selecting a school with our heart as much as with our head (read brain) but later turn to the Fiske, ISI, or USNews of this world to find the elusive justification if not vindication of our ultimate decision.
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The process that college search & selection most reminds me of is dating & marriage. There's a subjective element of chemistry that can't be denied, not a superficial "hot or not" but "comfortable or not."</p>
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Good grief! No wonder you joined the couple of dinosaurs who built this place from the ashes of a depressing bulletin board.
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Hey, hey! One of my best friends, Rex, is a stegosaurus.</p>