Three weeks until my DILs due date! I think it is getting real for my son as he went to Costco today for diapers, wipes, and baby detergent 
We had a discussion about All Free vs Dreft as both were on sale, but he went with All Free as it was cheaper.
D due date is 9-18.
They have asked for food. Lots of food frozen and such.
Spent hours with H last night making 2 dozen “egg McMuffins” and croissant sandwiches all frozen now.
Did this for another “daughter” (not ours but as much as so) and she and her H said best gift they received.
Tired, hungry, pop one in the microwave or the toaster oven and eat.
I do not think we will ever do this again 
as so much work and clean up.
Making a few casseroles and calling it done. Have lots of meatballs made already.
Not sure why, but both really want to know that there is food easily available and delicious.
So that is what our main role seems to be.
Just got my “grandma shot” – DTAP, and it has knocked the stuffing out of me–exhausted, achy, stomach is off, low level fever. Will be getting Shingrix in the near future, but not sure I’ll be able to work with it, so might have to wait till the semester is over, since it’s supposed to be worse.
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I posted it in the “Say It Here” thread, but I’ll say it here as well:
DIL, who is now about 20 weeks pregnant, insists on referring to the baby as “the parasite.”
But then, this was the woman who purposely wore a buffalo plaid flannel shirt to her rehearsal dinner. She seems to enjoy being the contrarian.
I just smile and nod.
I am sure she and DS will make fine parents. She just doesn’t want to let her enjoyment and excitement show, for some reason.
Just enjoyed granddaughter’s first birthday party. So hard to have to leave for home.
Grand boy just turned two. His Thai grandparents are visiting for two months. They are totally enjoying him. We just all do a lot of smiling and nodding. LOL. Nice people.
I have a grandcat as of today! A kitten adopted S2 in Ukraine.
@VeryHappy I wanted to comment on the “Say It” thread about your DIL’s “pet name” for the baby but of course we can’t comment there…but here we can!
I can handle a lot that people say and look the other way - especially when it’s family - but this would disturb me A LOT!!! It’s such a negative word! I hope she grows out of that soon when they start talking about real baby names!
How does your son react to it??
I’m not sure. They live far far away, in a land called North Dakota, so I don’t see them very often. Since their wedding, e has – appropriately – drawn closer to her and away from us. I know it’s a negative word. And the wearing of the buffalo plaid flannel at the rehearsal dinner was also sort of negative. It’s a kind of negating the fun, the good feelings, the excitement that we’re all feeling. Maybe that sort of emotion embarrasses her. I don’t know.
My sister, who is much older than I and has much older sons, said once that it can take a decade or longer to mesh with a daughter-in-law. So I’ll sit back, smile and nod, and be patient.
The most difficult new behavior I have ever had to learn was how to be a MIL.
I never ever comment on anything unless it is a compliment.
DIL and I are doing quite well I am happy to report.
The one thing try to do frequently is say directly to them that they are wonderful parents
and doing a great job. (in the future for you) Not sure anyone else actually says it.
Yes, I disagree with some things–such as 5 year old G’son joining us at the nice hotel for the night at
3 in the afternoon in pajamas or in torn or too short sweatpants. 
I would seriously try to take your DIL as being wry and sarcastic. Rather ignoring the boundaries of
niceness. That said, your sister is correct!. We are on year 6.
@oregon101: Thanks. That is truly helpful. “Wry and sarcastic” – yes, that’s it.
DIL is beautiful, smart, ambitious, very organized, and determined. All good traits. If DS is happy, then I am happy.
Good advice. But I reserve the right to come here and comment.
I feel it’s even more difficult as a MIL to DIL’s because I never had daughters nor do I have a daughter to bounce things off of. I’m on my own. Therefore, I just try to be the very best I can which boils down to pretty much supporting and keeping my opinions to myself unless asked for. I adored my own MIL and my mom is a great MIL so I had wonderful role models. And last but not least, my DIL’s make it easy. They are great.
On my last visit, GD’s fingernails could use a trim, but DD said they would handle. In the past, they allowed me to do. I guess they want ‘ownership’ and setting boundaries. I have a weekend of care of GD coming up as SIL has Army Reserves and DD has 12 hour nursing shift work. Prayers that SIL completes fitness exam (which includes a 2 mile run that has to meet a time criteria) so he can progress on with his military career - going from reserves to FT military. GD begins FT daycare next Monday. Wonderful place. Lucky to be 4.5 months old before going into daycare.
“I have a grandcat as of today! A kitten adopted S2 in Ukraine.”
@CountingDown - congrats to your son! So when the time comes for your son to travel back to the US, page me or thumper. We have foreign-adopted grandkitties, so can offer some tips on importing cats to the US.
Thanks, Bunsen! Kitten and S2 are adjusting well. She showed up at work and latched on to S2, who is a sucker for animals. He carries dog treats in his knapsack over there because so many dogs are left to roam the streets.
@SOSConcern I hope the transition goes smoothly. It’s true that in the U.S. that is lucky. It’s a shame that parental leave isn’t more generous. New parents and children are truly lucky in Canada where leave is now 18 months.
Enjoy your weekend with your granddaughter. It’s such fun to get extended time with them!
Happy to announce that my older adult daughter is pregnant again after miscarriage (heartbeat at 6 wks, then no heartbeat at 8 wks) and then having to undergo an urgent D&C in April. She is over 6 weeks now and hCG levels are double what they should be (11,000 instead of 5,200). She is having a ultrasound this Thursday.
I am at Yale this weekend with my younger daughter, we broke the news to her today, happy tears all around. Please keep us in your thoughts and prayers. This will be our first grandchild. :x
Hoping the best for you and your D. I had a miscarriage at 7-8 weeks & a D&C, then got pregnant with S2. May your family have the same happy outcome we had.
Is that a good thing or a bad thing?
@luckybooth Sending lots of good thoughts and wishes to your D. So many of us have been through this and it’s heartbreaking. Me? Three times. Hugs to you and your D.
Am having such fun babysitting one of my grandchildren all day over the past week. Such a joy but I admit it’s tiring! There’s a reason you have babies when you’re young.