I see some people I know with kid-sized kids who post their pictures, names, activities, constantly, including sometimes pretty potentially embarrassing/personal stuff. I really cringe sometimes. It just seems like a decision that shouldn’t be made by someone else, even a parent.
(And don’t even get me started on kid-shaming.)
I mentioned last week that my father had to be warned not to post about the great grand children, and he has remembered about my son’s daughter. Today my niece had her third child, and within minutes of my dad finding out, he posted on FB, tagged the parents, and posted the baby’s full name. As my niece doesn’t post the kids on FB, now all their friends, if they check FB, will know the baby has been born, most likely before they were ready to announce to the world!
I will have to make sure before my daughter deliveries this summer to remind him again about posting as my daughter will go ballistic if he post, especially before she wants it announced.
My S and DIL closed on their first house today, and I got to go over tonight and get a tour. They don’t have to be out of their apartment for several weeks, so they can take their time moving in. Only two more months to wait for baby. Oh, and the best part–the house is only 1.5 miles from mine!
mm, that is really nice. My D and family is not all that far but with the traffic it is 25 minutes or more.
We could be so much more helpful if they were closer. Also, paying for parking at $4 an hour when we go
to help is a pain.
Well, I’m tremendously proud of my S1, new father as of 10 days ago. My DIL had a C section (as I may have posted; who can remember??) but last night was S2’s wedding, in Puerto Rico. S1 came – obviously not his wife and child – performed his best man duties, and was a real mensch. I know he misses his wife and baby daughter a ton, but I’m so proud of him for being here for his brother anyway.
You can untag yourself from FB posts and/or change your settings so that you have to approve being tagged on a post/pic.
It is really NOT OK to post pics of children without consent - even worse when it’s a recent event - like a new baby. No one but the parents should announce that first.
@abasket I totally agree with you on that. In my father’s case, I think he just forgot. He is almost 90 with a tiny bit of dementia and I believe was just excited to let his friends know he had another great grand child. It doesn’t look like my niece and her husband were bothered, and he only posted the baby’s name and tagged the father. The father posted a picture with the announcement about 2 hours later, so I think all is good.
I have decided not to say anything to my dad as it doesn’t matter now. I will remind him when my daughter has her baby this summer as I did when my son had his.
@VeryHappy – that’s wonderful, though I do have to hope someone else was there taking care of the new mom and helping her take care of the new baby!
We had a bit of a scare this weekend. One of our grandchildren had a high temp and a febrile seizure resulted. A night in the hospital and all is well now. The doctors downplayed the seriousness and apparently, this type of seizure is quite common with young children and there is rarely any complication afterwards. As a mom of 5, I never experienced this with them. Now, everyone I’ve mentioned it to has a similar story about someone they know.
@garland, thanks. DIL’s mother lives six minutes away, so DIL is well taken care of.
@alwaysamom My son had a febrile seizure at 15 months after several days of fever which finally spiked to 104. We had been to the pediatrician twice prior and they didn’t have a reason for the fever. I was reading Dr Spock just hours before the seizure and knew it was possible; still scared the you know what out of me! Of course I was home alone as my husband was always at the hospital taking care of his patients when we had problems at home; it has become the family joke.
My son is now 35 and no worst for the wear. I am not sure I took a breath until after his spinal tap and him being totally alert.
My S had a febrile seizure also, around 13 months, and spent the night at the hospital.Longest night ever. I basically never let him get a fever again! He’s totally fine now.
Our older DD never had a high fever. DD2, I found out, if her fever went to 103.5 she would have a seizure. At that time, liquid Motrin was prescription. I had taken DD2 to the doctor a few days before, and doctor had me alternate the liquid Motrin with tylenol. I slept with her and I thought she was just being restless during the night. The next morning I told care of her while H went to work; he relieved me at lunch and I went to work and he stayed home with DD2. He called my office, alarmed that DD2 was having a seizure, so he got instructions on how to cool her down. So we learned that threshold with DD2. Never had a high fever since that time. The liquid Motrin could bring down the fever where the tylenol could not.
Thank you to all who have posted their experiences with kids having seizures. Much appreciated for the support and information that these are more common than I had imagined.
D ( a medical resident) told me that if G’son were to get a temperature within the first few months that he was required to go to the hospital. Yikes! No more baths and cloths on the forehead…
My DIL went to her doctor today for regular baby check. All is well, but she said the doctor told her that people (including family) who plan to be around the baby need to get a whooping cough vaccination because “middle aged” people are carriers and can make babies and old people sick. Anyone else been told this?
Yes, close family members should all have the vaccine before the baby is born. Most people get the Tdap vaccine.
Friend let me know that there are 5 students in her 275 student school with whooping cough. One student was waiting in her class for her test results which were positive. My DPT is less than a year old. I am pretty surprised that students at her school are not vaccinated for this. I also had whooping cough at 6 months old but evidently this doesn’t help me.
Yes, anyone near a new baby should have a whooping cough shot and a flu shot. Cost of getting to be near the cute baby.
I know around the time my DDs were graduating HS (2012 and 2014) the medical community found that a whooping cough booster was needed before kids went to college. I imagine this is due to findings/whooping cough outbreaks.
I agree about great care needed for babies.
Grand-daughter goes to daycare 4 or 5 days a week; since DD works 12 hour nursing shifts and her H works M - F. She has had and has brought home various viruses – parents/grandparents/aunt seem to have suffered more than she has from the effects. So glad when she is able to play and be herself even with a runny nose. GD hasn’t run a high fever yet nor had anything more than common viruses (now 9 months old), but DD had 12 weeks maternity leave (6 company, and 6 personal) and will have the same with GB#2 due in July.
I needed to go back to work when DDs were each 6 weeks old - the extra time out of the daycare cesspool of germs/viruses is very helpful to the young ones. Kids have the cesspool in elementary school too.
Vaccinations are so important - and unfortunately some parents are misdirected about the value/risks. The very young children/babies are thus more vulnerable to extra risks out there.