<p>NJSue says: “Scoring well on a standardized test in and of itself doesn’t tell you much except that a kid is bright, which is not an accomplishment but a trait.”</p>
<p>I don’t completely agree with this. Natural intelligence is one part of the equation that equals a high standardized test score, but it is certainly not the only element. Hard work and studying over years of schooling, as well as time spent specifically on test preparation, are also factors contributing to high scores on the SAT and ACT. There are plenty of smart slackers out there who don’t use their brain power to the extent they could to score well, and there are also those kids who aren’t naturally that bright but who study extremely hard in order to score well. For the latter, and indeed for everyone, it is an accomplishment to get a high score on the SAT or ACT. (Scoring high on an IQ test taken at age 5 is not the same kind of thing.)</p>
<p>That said, it’s best to keep this kind of information to oneself. People tend to take it very personally if they learn your kid objectively did better than theirs at something, because many parents are invested in believing their kid is just “the best!” and are never happy to be presented with evidence to the contrary. The problem is, as was pointed out already, that people do find out these things in a variety of ways. Just a couple of weeks ago our high school held a little award celebration for kids who scored well on a certain exam. The ceremony was held during school hours, meaning D had to get permission to leave one of her classes early. Some students could have overheard D ask the teacher if she could leave class. Secondly, in order to attend the event, my D had to miss the bus to her state track meet which left school early that day, and get taken to the meet a little later by car. Of course she had to ask the coach permission to do that, and he told her teammates who worriedly wanted to know where she was. Later, one of the moms of a teammate made a comment to me about it. Unfortunately, the same day my D also ran fasters than hers, and the resentment was palpable. </p>
<p>I have experienced quite a bit of jealousy from other parents over my kids’ academic and athletic successes, and I can honestly say it was not due to my blabbing or bragging. </p>