Transferring from BC to Emory

Colleges and Universities A-Z Boston College
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I’ve lived in Georgia for all my life and Emory has always been my dream school. But of course, I did not get into Emory because nothing ever works out for me. So I will be attending Boston College. To be honest, I wouldn’t mind attending BC, as it is just as good as Emory academically.

But a girl I really really like will be attending Emory and I just want to be with her :(((( I know this sounds crazy but if I go to Boston, I’ll never see her except during the long holiday breaks… I was never brave enough to ask her out so we’ve always just been friends, but I was planning to ask her out and be the best boyfriend for her once we both get into Emory…

Moreover, my other good friends are going to Emory and I will miss my family so much if I stay in Boston…

Any advice?? What should I do :frowning:

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I’m going to Boston College in the Fall, leaving my boyfriend of 3 years and family in New Jersey. I could have easily stayed in state and gone to Rutgers or something, but I realized that my education is way more important than some guy. And yes, he is some guy. We are 17/18/19 years old, our future should NOT be interlinked with some guy or girl. I get that the appeal of Emroy is unbearable because its close to home and friends and a great rep, but you didnt get in and you have to accept that. Sure, you could transfer out next year, but there is a chance you will not get in next year either. Instead of moping around about a girl, be excited that you got into a great school. Honestly, you should not even go to BC if you are just going to be upset the entire time, go to a community college if a girl and friends are worth the value of a great education. I dont mean to sound harsh and you have every right to be upset that you potentially missed out on a girl, but you have to think long term. Boston College is full of girls and great people. You owe it to yourself to try at Boston College; try to love it. If you don’t, by all means transfer out and try to get into Emroy. But its going to be a long year if you are upset the entire time.

I wish you all the luck in the world, mate.

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Don’t transfer schools because of a girl. Transfer schools if it will be better for your academic goals or personal fit. There isn’t even a guarantee that this girl likes you back. You don’t realize how many people follow their girlfriend/boyfriend to college only to break up and be completely miserable.

What if this girl finds a boyfriend in her first year at Emory? Or hates Emory and decides to transfer to a different school? Are you going to follow her to her new school? Ultimately, you have to transfer if it is best for YOU, not some girl or anyone else.

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What if you go to Emory and she puts you in the friend zone? And if she goes out with you, how long will it last? You’re in your teens - relationships at that age can be very short-lived. As others have noted, pick a school because it’s the best fit for you, not because a girl you have a crush on goes there.

You didn’t get into Emory because nothing works out for you? Wow. Lots of self-pity there. You did get into BC. We have many students on the wait list or that we rejected who would absolutely love to trade places with you.

It’s completely normal to miss family and friends. That’s especially true as a freshman. You’ll probably go home for Thanksgiving, Christmas and spring breaks so that may ease the situation. The hardest is probably Thanksgiving since that’s the first holiday and it’s about 3 months after you move in. You’ll make plenty of friends at BC. The students here are terrific people.

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It is so frustrating that I’m just now finally ready to ask her out but I just cannot due to the fact I won’t even see her… why did it take so long for me to be brave :frowning:

Will I be less sad in BC, knowing that I had a chance to ask a girl I’ve liked for a really long time out but never did, or in Emory next year, say, she rejects me? If you can relate, which case would you be sadder with?

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**given the fact that I like Emory a little bit more than BC

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Chill out bro. If you really like her and it’s meant to be, then you still have 3 months to make it happen. It’s not ideal, but it’s better than moping and being melodramatic about it. Long distance relationships are hard, but I know people that have kept long distance relationships while in college for over a year.

No one can tell you how you will feel if you go to BC with regret or if you transfer to Emory and get rejected. You might not even feel this way in 3 months. What can you do now is the question. You can still ask her out and hope for the best, or you can let it go and be psyched to attend BC in the fall, or you can mope around for a while and feel terrible.

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Ummm, I thought this was a more academically oriented forum…

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@wlsdyd:
What you’re feeling is somewhat normal. But that’s for now. It will be unhealthy for you to hold on to it.

You have a choice:

You can head to BC sulking over being there and wanting to be back in Georgia because of some girl.
Guaranteed you will have a miserable year, making you a lousy candidate to transfer anywhere.
If you are able to transfer back to Georgia, you’ll even be more unhappy when you’ll discover the girl in your dreams will likely be dating lots of guys.

or:

You can shed your pity-party and head to BC with a positive attitude. Go through a 6-8 week period of normal missing home and adjusting. Engage in activities you enjoy. Engage in making friends. Etc.
Follow this path and you’ll discover why so many who go through BC look at their time there as the best four years of their lives.

BC is an amazing school. Feel very fortunate to be going there.

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Let me tell you something.

I’m a rising sophomore at BC, and I couldn’t ask for a greater blessing.

Last year when I was applying for colleges, just like you, I didn’t get into my dream school. Neither did some of my friends or a lot of the people I knew, whether it was the Ivy League or otherwise (even BC, believe it or not.) I was absolutely devastated, and already thought about transferring from BC to Brown, where I really wanted to go. I didn’t have a relationship that lured me there, but nonetheless, it was my #1 choice, similar to your case with Emory.

I stopped moping around over Brown gave it a chance and found out this is an amazing school, like many have said above. It may sound lousy through text, but once you come on campus (which is quite beautiful), experience the academic learning environment, great professors and similarly wonderful peers, I’m sure you’d love it. My best friend didn’t get in and he’s regretting his high school experience. He would have loved to have gone to school here.

What I’m saying is make no doubt you’ll enjoy your experience here, only if you open yourself up to the world around here and know how great of a school this really is. Just have fun and be sure to study, of course. Don’t know if I’m adding much more to what others have said, but the girl isn’t as important as your education. We’re still kids, for the most part, whether the legal system calls us adults or not.

The relationships made now are purely for pleasure and are largely immature. You don’t even know if she likes you back dude–leave the past behind. It’s time to open this new chapter in life, which I think you should be pretty excited about! It’s college!

Enjoy it, enjoy BC, and let me or the other great people here know if you have any questions. What’s your major?

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Thanks everyone for your thoughtful response!

@mg29409 I’ll be majoring in econ and hopefully math too