Turned down my Dream School for another great school. Questions on Quality of Life!

Hey guys, so here’s the scoop,

So I got accepted to my dream school, Duke University and after an incredibly long month of consideration and decision, I decided to turn it down because it was far too expensive.
Fortunately, I received a merit scholarship from Rice University and that is where I chose to go to.

Not gonna lie here when I say that the decision was hard. I had actually spent the entire month of April believing and hoping we would be able to afford Duke (before my FA package came in) but when it came, although we got a significant amount off, my parents and I would have been in roughly 60k + in debt (in bank loans, etc) by my senior year if I ended up going. It literally took till the afternoon of May 1st before I realized that my dream school would most definitely not be worth the ridiculous debt and financial stress, especially since it’s only undergrad.

Although I’m still a bit bummed, I can breathe a sigh of relief knowing that my parents can now pay my tuition rather comfortably (I got $96k for all 4 years from Rice)
Choosing to keep my head up high can be hard sometimes because when I went to Duke’s Blue Devil days, I clicked immediately with loads of people and fell in love with every single aspect of that campus. Now that that’s all said and done, I am ready to see what Rice has in store for me. Now I come to you guys, specifically those who have been in a similar situation to share your story and how it turned out for the better.
Rice and Duke’s academics are fairly similar in strength so I’m not too worried about that at all, but if you have any extra information about how Rice does in the internship/networking/job field then I’m all ears. And since I am going into engineering, I know Rice fares a bit better in that field. So what I am seeking advice on is actually the environment/atmosphere of Rice.

Just a few things, I am a pretty social person and I heard that Rice lacks that in its student body? This is a stereotype obviously but I heard a lot of people come off as “awkward”?
So I was wondering if anyone has any words to say against that? How do socially adept people thrive there? Like I am looking for friends that work/study hard but know how to have a good/funny time, that’s what I saw in the masses at Duke and I would like to know how Rice fares.

I saw the campus, it’s nice (not a Gothic wonderland) but it’s still very nice :slight_smile: the campus is rather small though so I don’t know how I feel about that. But the dining options were EXCELLENT plus we’re in Houston so there’s loads of off campus fun!

And lastly, is the weather THAT BAD? Like every time I hear the about the humidity of Rice, it is accompanied by the word “unbearably” lol. I am from Texas but the region I am from has heat but RARE humidity. So I’m used to the blazing sun, just not the blazing humidity.

All in all, yeah I’m a bit upset that I didn’t end up getting what I wanted. But I know everything works out for a reason, I would rather have to “compromise” (I say that because who knows I may get there and love every bit of it and it turns out to be far from a compromise) for 4 years and coast the rest of my life (bc my undergrad is debt free) than have a pretty awesome time for 4 years and leave with $60-80k debt lol.

Anyways, I’m up for any advice! Thanks so much!

Rice is a great school and when I was down there in the late 80s it did in fact have quite an active student body. The humidity is what it is, but there will be days that are wonderful and if it gets too bad, you and your roommate can make a road trip to Galveston and dive into the Gulf. You made a wise decision overall. Both Duke and Rice are very respectable institutions and when you figure what it would take to make that large of a difference in the financial aid package, you would be talking about years and years of hardship with loans that would be forfeiting those years for a 4 year marginally different experience. (Not even necesssarily better…just different). Have fun and make Rice what you want it to be for you…it can be as great as you make it. Meet people…get involved…Go to the football games…even if they lose a lot…participate in clubs and social events…I’m jealous now…can you tell!

I didn’t go to Rice, but I had friends who did and they thought the social aspect was great. They have the residential college system, which they were all very attached to, and their philosophy was always work hard, play hard. It sounds like you’ll fit right in.

Oh thank you guys so much, I am very enlightened! Much appreciated!

Life is full of disappointments. This isn’t one of them. This is like dreaming of a BMW and getting an Audi. Relax. You made the right decision and everything will be fine.

aww thanks so much! That was a wonderful comparison

You’ll love Rice, and you will have so many more opportunities after graduation without the debt hanging over your head. One of D’s best friends will be your classmate there next year. She is very social and not at all awkward!

Don’t be disappointed…think how awesome is it that you are smart and that you worked hard and got a great school like Rice to help pay for YOU to attend THEIR school! If you paid full price when you didn’t need to, that woudl be dumb. If you are social, you will be able to find those other social people no problem! It is the not as social people who have a harder time finding their “tribe”.

Thanks so much you guys! I’m looking forward to meeting them! Thank you

Join the MOB. I hear it’s great fun.

MOB? What is that?

It’s the Marching Owl Band…you know, the marching band that doesn’t march. No experience necessary. I know a member who absolutely loves it (engineer, too). Look it up on Rice’s website.