<p>First, I want to say this isn’t a ■■■■■ thread and I’m not trying to step on anybody’s toes, just trying to understand the perspective. </p>
<p>As I read through the UA CC threads, I’ve noticed that a lot of parents on here are super involved with their students lives, sometimes even to the extent of being involved in the course selection process. When I was growing up (I’m in my mid 20’s now,) my parents took a pretty hands off approach to raising me. They were there for when I stumbled, but for the most part taught personal responsibility and decision making from a very early age. During my first go’round in college, my parents didn’t even have access to my student account (mid 2000’s version of mybama.) all they wanted to see was my end of semester grades, and beyond wanting to make sure I stayed out of jail and didn’t get expelled, I was pretty much free to do as I saw fit and become an adult on my own. </p>
<p>Now, as I prepare to get out of the military and go back to school, and my younger brothers going through school, I’ve noticed that a lot of hands on parenting (some might even go so far as calling it hand holding) and frankly, it intrigues me. </p>
<p>Can someone explain the rationale behind it for me? Did you decide from the beginning that you were going to be as hands on as you are, or did it just happen because of your/your child’s personalities? If you’re the parent that is still very hands in with their child even into college, at what point do you plan on stepping back? My parents are now much more hands on with my brother, but there are unique circumstances there, so there’s no way of telling if those circumstances necessitated a change in their approach, or if societies expectations of child rearing has changed and they along with it.</p>
<p>I’m not trying to ■■■■■, I assure you. This parenting technique is completely foreign to me, and when the conversation came up about possibly starting a family in the near future, I’ve started paying a lot more attention to the way parents and children interact with each other.</p>