<p>I'm going to post this on both need/merit threads I have going because I think it's important. You might think so , too.</p>
<p>Two things occurred to me today when I was rehashing these two Need/Merit threads with my lovely D. </p>
<p>Unfortunately I set up these threads poorly where the reader has to read both to get all the info. Duh. </p>
<p>And probably more unsettling, we are really just showing a thumbnail of the process we went through from spring of her sophomore year till the accepted the offer from Rhodes. There were many , many twists and turns on the road. </p>
<p>I can't fix the first one and the second one would take far more time than I can give it...but you can access the travels with your search function. I posted trip reports every time. I posted interview techniques and sources of "training". I posted techniques of gleaning tidbits from the campus "invisibles". Security guards, maintenace staff, cafeteria workers, local shopkeepers (ask the school about drinking or the liquor store owner across from campus? Gee. I think I'll ask Honest Henry the Hooch-Guy.) And so on and so on, through-out the process.</p>
<p>Far more important than my efforts is the fact that our local brain trust chimed in, steered me right, showed me different ways to look at things and ...yes, admittedly boxed my ears more than once. When you find threads started by me you'll find times that I stridently opposed their advice only to read a thread months later where I was now championing the same advice I had been so forcefully decrying. We all have the capacity to learn but sometimes I was a little slow on the uptake. Sometimes it took a two by four or a ball-peen hammer upside my head. </p>
<p>One poster had the gall to suggest that my D retake her 1460 and her 32!!! Whateverthehell for? That's top 1% for females. Were they insane or just plain stupid? No. They were right because my D wanted to go to the best school we could afford with merit aid and at those levels the schools weren't sure to be the schools to which she was applying. </p>
<p>Another set of posters, basically the entire CC list of veterans and Dave Berry hisownself, told me repeatedly D needed to apply to some need only schools if there was ANY remote chance of need aid. Around these parts - we ain't poor. We ain't even middle class - we're "mighty well off". I mean Homecoming Queen is traditionally selected around here from the small list of girls with shoes and a purse to match. The directions to the richest kid in school's house start with "You turn off the paved road." When the Superintendent of schools got a new house they let school out early so we could help take the wheels off.</p>
<p>They also told me that she needed to apply to schools that would strike fear in heart of those merit schools she was applying to attend. I flat didn't get it. </p>
<p>Why would she do THAT?</p>
<p>Well, somewhere along the line it hit me. </p>
<p>It may have been when I stumbled on the idea that FA was a floating number at Bucknell, for example, or that preference was shown by FA at USC to steal away a student from Stanford.</p>
<p>It may have been when I was on college A's website where prominently displayed Student Blank was quoted as saying "I could have gone to Harvard. I just couldn't have taken all of 'me' to Harvard." Or maybe it was the fifth or tenth time I noticed in the scholar profile of Student Bob that "He turned down Columbia and Yale to attend here as a Grand Poobah Scholar. 'The opportunity presented here in the Poobah Program was just too great to pass up.' "</p>
<p>Gee. Now I got it. They might have wanted to put my kid in that photo, but they wanted that same caption.</p>
<p>The vets. Mini and Marite, Carolyn and SBmom, jmmom, Alumother, Soozie, Sybbie, cheers, my goodbestfriend Doc cangel who talked me off the ledge many times, my evil twin TheDad, the boy wonder Xiggi - there are so many giving knowledgeable folks willing to help (and I'm only mentioning a few as I have CRS, Can't Remember Squat disease) - when the vets talked, I learned to listen (but as you'll see if you search- never right off). </p>
<p>So - use your search functions. A lot. There are threads on most any topic you can think of about the process but I wouldn't wander into the Alley or Confidentialia College. Those places are truly odd. </p>
<p>Who do y'all have to thank for my burst of energy? cheers said in a post a while back that some folks had picked up their prize and left. She was right. I hadn't paid my debts. See? I'm still learning from the vets.</p>