<p>Cowman - you are right; college is for the education. If the frills, come, they come, if they do not, they do not, but it is not a big thing; that is what these fools fail to recognise on many occasions.</p>
<p>While I had sworn off alcohol, drugs, and partying, I have now sworn off any sort of physical or emotional relationships with women.</p>
<p>OP - I just don’t understand what the problem is. If you have a great social life at home, stay at home and live it. Sheesh!</p>
<p>I would have if I had been accepted to the LA colleges…</p>
<p>there are community colleges in LA if you really just want to stay in your hometown…you can always transfer to UCLA/other LA universities later…</p>
<p>and then swearing off alcohol, partying, and women…I mean, I’m not a hedonist or anything but aren’t those some of the most interesting parts of youthful life? To each his own. I’ll enjoy my life, you can suffer through yours in misery.</p>
<p>There’s so much more to experience after these 4 years. I don’t think it is the best four years of your life. But at the moment, I try my best to make the best of what I can while at my school because honestly, I just have two more years. So I’ll take in all of the football games, late night shenanigans, small house parties with acquaintances, along with internship/study abroad/clubs experiences to keep myself sane.</p>
<p>I’m not going to attack you OP. There’s no need to. Apparently you can’t vent on this site or else people will label you a whiner :P</p>
<p>I understand you are just venting. But really – make the best of your last (I don’t know how many) years at your university. You don’t have to drink, sleep with people, and party just to enjoy your college life. If things don’t go well, then maybe you really should consider transferring closer to home so you can commute or live in an apartment.</p>
<p>I do wish you all the best for the upcoming semester… try and make the best of it.</p>
<p>I would call you a ■■■■■ if you didn’t have 500 posts. Instead I’m just going to call you an intensely boring person who must have a very miserable life. </p>
<p>Calling off any emotional attachment to women…ahhahahahaha.</p>
<p>Oh, and a poor excuse for a man.</p>
<p>I like to ask people this question: </p>
<p>“If you could go back in time and do college all over again, but you’d have to give up the experiences and memories you’ve accumulated during your time at college and start with a blank slate again, would you do it?”</p>
<p>Those who answer NO have almost always discovered something important about themselves during college, and wouldn’t do college all over again because then they’d have to revert back to a time when they still hadn’t learned those lessons.</p>
<p>Those who answer YES are the types of people who didn’t change much during college, and just had a lot of fun. Since there were no revelatory moments that they might otherwise miss out on if they had to do college again, these people answer yes.</p>
<p>I’m the type to say NO, because of the reason I provided. I feel like I’ve changed so much in the past four years (for the better), and I see no reason to go back to my old self.</p>
<p>I think that’s how college should be. You should have a great time because it is truly a unique period in your life. But you should also learn lessons and mature emotionally so that you wouldn’t really want to go back to being your naive and clueless freshman self. </p>
<p>I actually kind of wonder about the maturity and emotional depth of people who answer YES to my question.</p>
<p>I am with cowman on this one with one caveat. The 18-30 females in my area are unusually fertile; one whom I used to frequent even admitted to poking holes in condoms. I would advise, however, that he have a go with someone twice his age to get some experience.</p>
<p>As for the alcohol and the drugs, those are not such bad things to avoid. I drink on occasion but that is it.</p>
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<p>I’ve changed A LOT since first year. I don’t know if it’s for the better, though. I’ve become fairly antisocial and don’t like most of the things that I used to. Life is less nerve wracking nowadays, but also less exciting.</p>
<p>I matured during college, but not because of college. I’d have to answer no to your question. The only fun year was 1st year (and to a less extent, 2nd) and then it got boring since I changed so much and it wasn’t new anymore.</p>
<p>Becoming naive would be both a good and bad thing, but i’m way more capable nowadays than I was back then.</p>
<p>Suprise to read many of the post, all who I came in contact with says their experience improve every year.</p>
<p>College is whatever you want it to be.</p>
<p>I firmly reject the idea of “ought to be” in relation to college. If it fits your goals, you haven’t wasted any opportunity. If you didn’t take advantage of opportunities that would have brought you closer to what you wanted to get out of college, then you did waste some opportunities.</p>
<p>But I don’t think any goal is a wrong or squandering one unless the student and his financial backers/family are in agreement.</p>
<p>I hope college opens up a bunch of different doors for me, career wise and socially. I want to have fun and do things I’ll only have a chance to do in college (and get away with) but I also know that it is sort of an illusion.
Isn’t that the whole point? (Well, besides getting an education, of course 
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<p>College is … amazing. It is not overhyped or overrated. I have changed SO much in my self confidence and ability to understand people. I’ve met some of the best friends I could ever have–I have never felt so comfortable around another human. I’ve let so many walls down since starting college. You have the ability to meet people who have such varied interests – the football team, the gymnastics team, many sororoties and fraternities… knowing people in groups like those brings you the best feeling knowing that you’re making the most out of living on campus. You have friends everywhere. If you want to go out one night to a bar or party, just text a few people, get a cab ready, and go. You have so much freedom.</p>
<p>When I started high school, I was like you. I thought to myself, “I will NEVER drink alcohol, NEVER try even ONE drug, and NEVER EVER hook up, that’s SICK!”
As time went on, those three stipulations did not hold in both the action and the thought. And I wouldn’t have it any other way. I’ve discovered that I matter, and I can be a person who can interact socially while maintaining his grades. </p>
<p>If you’re living on campus and your day-to-day schedule is: go to class, go to the dorm, and study… I feel sick thinking about how sad I am for you. </p>
<p>If any of you sad souls who want to get a degree and go are currently high schoolers or rising freshmen–post again in a year.</p>
<p>Well my first year of college kinda sucked, but that wasn’t college’s fault. I just hope I can enjoy the rest of my time in college, even though I’m commuting this year. I might end up transferring after sophomore year anyway… I hate being close to home.</p>
<p>I have to agree, college changes your life to some point for not for your entire life. The way I see it, its a new school you are going to where you learn to be independent and pay a bunch of money for it.</p>
<p>Steven - what grade did you make in freshman composition?</p>
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A-. Sorry I don’t fervently proofread my posts on forums.</p>
<p>It is not so much an issue of grammar, rather, it was an issue of coherence on account of the lack of a clear thesis and supporting arguments.</p>