<p>I think the only viable option here is to begin taunting him</p>
<p>Life is long and good friendships go through ups and downs. I don’t really think that this is going to ruin your friendship, but you can’t expect your friend to celebrate your acceptance right now when she was just rejected. Give her space.</p>
<p>All you really have to do is listen, nod and listen and nod. Say, “I’m not happy about this either. I was really counting on us being there together. It’s not the same for me, either.” That’s it.</p>
<p>It’s not really “all about you” right now. She’ll get over it and you don’t even have to think about yourself in these conversations. Then, after May 1st, everyone has a school and moves on.</p>
<p>and now he just sent me this message on facebook:</p>
<p>“I’m sorry I was so confrontational with you. It’s just hard to accept that you were accepted and I wasn’t”.</p>
<p>Which seems like a start to moving on! :)</p>
<p>And he said it’s okay because he was accepted to WashU, and maybe washu’s a better fit for him afterall. 
I’m really glad.</p>
<p>He has some great acceptances already, to Vanderbilt, WashU, likely to Cornell, and likely to Johns Hopkins, so I think he’ll get over it as he spends the next few weeks growing more attached to these school.</p>
<p>Thanks to everyone for all the advice. I’m glad he’s going to make our friendship unaffected.</p>
<p>Plus, he’s dead set on premed, and the school I got into but he didn’t probably wasn’t the best for premed, especially when compared to WashU and Johns Hopkins.</p>
<p>You might as well just come out and say what school, you know. XD</p>
<p>But I’m glad he’s moving on. (Seriously? Wash U, Vandy, Cornell, and JHU? I’m amazed he could still muster up the energy to care about That University Which Is Comparable to Georgetown and Had a Huge EA/RD Acceptance Rate Difference This Year and Also Is Not Very Good for Premed. Which is not to say that That University is not awesome, just–come on. It’s like that Harvard admit a couple years back who sued Princeton for not letting him in.)</p>
<p>well thats good to hear
I think its a big mistake to “expect” to get into any of the top colleges 
predicting decisions isn’t that clear cut</p>
<p>alright haavain, you got me.</p>
<p>I’m pretty sure you already know what school it is. : )</p>
<p>Why don’t you just say that it was UChicago…</p>
<p>Tell him/her that s/he or whatever that s/he was lucky to even get waitlisted…seriously. There are worse things than getting waitlisted by UChicago. Heck, she still has a chance to get admitted… I got rejected then found out the next morning that my grandma died overnight, my aunt is starting to have serious psychological troubles because of her mom’s death and her dog has apparently become seriously ill (she’s way too attached to her dog), and my other grandma might have some deadly disease. Mind you, this all happened within a 12 hour period… Then, today, I found out that I was one of the first kids from my school to be rejected by UChicago in the past four years and that I was the only one rejected this year. I’m sorry, but, at this moment, I feel no sympathy for your friend. And, if s/he really feels ‘inferior’ because she got waitlisted at UChicago yet got into all those universities, I simply don’t get it. I simply don’t get it…at all. I also don’t get how someone with an obvious lack of rational capabilities could actually get admitted to those places (or even get waitlisted at UChicago), but, whatever, I guess nothing makes sense to me anymore so just disregard this post, I guess.</p>
<p>Hmm, my friend and I both applied EA to one school. I got in EA, she was deferred, and recently rejected :(. We didn’t apply “together” though, since we live in different states. I forget exactly how we ended up finding out that we both applied around the time of EA decisions. . . .But I digress.
She wasn’t mad at me. Not at all. If she was, she did a remarkable job of not showing a hint of it (though that’s probably not too hard on the phone and when you see someone twice a year). Sometimes I feel like I’m more upset about it than she is, thinking “Ugh, how could they reject her?! She’s so much more awesome than I am!” But this is such a small part of our friendship. When I called her about EA decisions, we spent most of the time talking about random stuff and how, in an amazing coincidence, her father and I were on the same plane to Amsterdam in early December. When I called her about RD decisions, we spent most of the time talking about prom and our other friend’s insane boyfriends. As exciting as college applications and admissions are, I don’t think they should overshadow the other important topics in your life, those which you always discussed with friends.</p>
<p>It sounds like your friend is cooling off now, so I think you guys will be fine. I’d just probably avoid talking about how awesome the school (Probs UofC, considering your post date, there existing EA and RD, and the admit rates, which legit gave it away). So don’t talk about Scavenger Hunts, your upcoming meet ups, the common core. Don’t show off your EA scarf or your FB pics from admitted student weekends. When I need to talk about how awesome that college about which I was talking above, I go to my friend who had no great college aspirations, applied to one school, was accepted, and plans to attend. I don’t go to my friend who was rejected. </p>
<p>I get caught in a <em>ton</em> of college based awkwardness because I’m honest if someone asks me where I’ve been accepted. I’ve been accepted to every school to which I applied; while a friend at ballet was waitlisted at her safety. One of my friends was rejected from two top schools; I was accepted at all. One of my friends was waitlisted at a top school which the counselor said was a “sure thing” for me (for the record, despite the fact that she was a great and knowledgeable counselor, I thought that was crazy) long before I was accepted. One of my friends is now increasingly bringing up the fact that she has apparently felt inferior to me since 5th grade, which, tbh, makes me wanna cry. Actually, everyone in my school who applied was rejected at one college where I was accepted. It can get really awkward. I just tell people I got in partially because I have a rare major, because I’m a girl (when talking about techy schools), or I jokingly bring up the fact that I’m failing every physics test, so I must be more lucky than smart.</p>
<p>Just try to be nice. It usually works out.</p>
<p>i would laugh in his face… but im a horrible person so dont take my advice</p>
<p>^I always thought you were a boy Millencad! craaazy</p>
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<p>It can and does happen between females. Often the females are less direct (even silent) about the resentment, but the friendship immediately cools and never resurrects. Happened to my daughter.</p>
<p>If your friend is really passionate about attending U of C - she can do a lot to get herself off the waitlist. And you can help her with that. If she sends letters to the admissions office, keeps on sending updates - in short - indicates up front that U of C is her first choice - she is likely to have her name off the waitlist sooner than later or never. </p>
<p>Better getting wait-listed than rejected!</p>