<p>My parents wanted me to either go to community college or a private school in San Francisco so I could be near them. But I purposely ignored the deadline of the school so they couldn't force me into USF so they would let me go to a public school instead, but far from them. Now I'm feeling quite bad for not applying to USF considering its location and academics... In this case, should I take a gap year or get into a community college for a year? Plus, what should I say to them?</p>
<p>bump 10 char</p>
<p>go to community college, then transfer but its is up to you, i guess what is better for you.</p>
<p>Ok, thanks any other suggestion?</p>
<p>Did you apply to other 4 year schools?</p>
<p>Yes I did, well they are all public schools (UCs)</p>
<p>Honestly, going to college close to your parents is a bad idea. How are you going to learn to be independent, if your parents can just come check in on you whenever they’d like?</p>
<p>I’m going to say the obvious parent thing: Talk to your parents now. Own the omission and accept that they will probably be upset with you for purposely missing a deadline. Once they cool off (and not while they are still upset), you should talk about why you made that decision and what you can do to help them feel comfortable with you being farther away from home: Call every morning for the first year? Visit home every other weekend for a few months? (I’m not saying this is a reasonable demand on their part, but do what you have to do to demonstrate your maturity and reliability to them. Start right now before you leave home.) We know families that have insisted on driving several hours or even flying out every weekend to sleep on their kid’s floor because they were so anxious about the kid going to school far from home-that usually lasted the first year and then they realized their kids were doing fine and they needed to move on in their own lives. </p>
<p>Of course, if cost is the issue, that’s a different negotiation and you’ll have to respect whatever limits the family budget imposes, including a gap year to work and save up some bucks, and holding a job while at school.</p>
<p>In short, hear your parents concerns and find ways to ameliorate them. And do it before they find out on their own that you blew them off.</p>
<p>Maybe your college counselor or a relative could help talk to them? Is this a cultural thing? </p>
<p>If you will be considering UCs as a transfer, you will have to spend 2 years at a CC.</p>
<p><honestly, going=“” to=“” college=“” close=“” your=“” parents=“” is=“” a=“” bad=“” idea.=“” how=“” are=“” you=“” learn=“” be=“” independent,=“” if=“” can=“” just=“” come=“” check=“” in=“” on=“” whenever=“” they’d=“” like?=“”></honestly,></p>
<p>I swear to god, this can get really annoying.</p>
<p>I would go to one of the other public 4-years you get accepted to and then transfer to the one closer to home if it’s needed 2 years from now. You should be fine.</p>
<p>hmom, you could call it as a cultural thing - my parents are asian after all </p>
<p>But thanks a lot everyone and I would pretty much follow M’s mom advice.</p>