<p>Swimfreak001, if --i write, if-- that were to occur, i know that the desire will be to crawl into a hole and pray that everyone forgets you exist for a while-- but please don’t do that. Your worth isn’t contingent upon the quick decision of a group of overworked men and women. Don’t make it hostage to them.</p>
<p>Yes, it will hurt–maybe even feel humiliating–esp if that #%&*%$# kid in your class did get in – but don’t give the ad coms that power over you–and if you act humiliated, it will be because you did give them the power. The late Boston Globe columnist David Nyhan wrote a wonderful piece that the paper reprints the day after the admissions letters are sent out. He puts it so much better than I can. Please read it, and take it to heart.</p>
<p>Thank you @etondad!!! While I don’t plan on trying to disappear, I do think one night of not being connected to the social media will give me enough time to deal with the decision and figure things out. The decisions aren’t going to change my life negatively if they are negative… So no worries :)</p>
<p>classicgirll: harvard emails us the decision right? the only other ivy i applied is penn which im checking first because i can check at the portal whereas i bet the emails might not be arriving right away in my inbox. check the ones you have to log in for first. =) (just in case the site crashes)</p>
<p>@neorobie:
Yes, I believe so… I hadn’t thought about that. Usually the portals crash anyway though…
I keep telling myself I won’t check the minute decisions are online, but I know I will. Unless I somehow conceive a way to keep myself away from the internet at 5PM.
Thanks for the advice :)</p>
<p>I saw that there is a thread already (this year must set a record for the earliest date) on wait lists --now that is death by water torture–or suspended animation-- the poor wait lister can’t move on bc he or she holds out the thin hope of “the phone call” but for all but a very very few it doesn’t come. </p>
<p>Everyone has to make their own decision, of course, but think a couple of times about staying on the wait list if you got accepted into a college you will be happy to attend. Closure is no small thing, psychologically and emotionally. It also allows you to look forward, not backward, to the next great step in your life. </p>
<p>I wish that colleges such as Harvard and Yale who know with pretty clear certainty what their yield will be, only keep a small number of candidates on the wait list – only those who everyone REALLY REALLY wanted but for some reason or another couldn’t get a yes on March 29th but whom they expect they will admit once the data on yield comes in. It isn’t fair to the others who really are just fodder for the list. </p>
<p>I hope all of you have “fat envelopes” from Harvard–but if not, there will be a “fat envelope” from somewhere fantastic-- and you will have a great time. Trust me on that.</p>
<p>I pretty much am certain I’ll be rejected, for various reasons I don’t have time to list here.</p>
<p>My reaction will probably be a “Ah shyt. Oh well, all those who deserved it got in, and many awesome kids got rejected too. There isn’t space for everyone.” I’d tell my friends who’d ask “lol no” if they asked if I got in or not.</p>
<p>If I get rejected from all the top schools I applied to (5 of them), I’d definately be bummed out for a few days, and think, “well, that’s Ivy admissions for you.” It’d definitely be hard to tell all the family members and friends who thought I’d get in that I didn’t, though. But such is life; as Etondad said, I’ll give the power to myself and take pride in the fact that I’ll succeed anywhere.</p>
<p>Getting a rejection letter from a college or university doesn’t make you a bad person. Unfortunately, some high school seniors see themselves in a less-than-positive light when they read the bad news from a highly desired institution.</p>
<p>Dealing with rejection is difficult. Most high schoolers tend to take being turned down by a college or university on a personal level. They seem to think that the letter from the admissions office is really saying something like, “You are deficient and we don’t want to have anything to do with you.” Nothing could be further from the truth.</p>
<p>The truth is that in a lot of cases some rejected students could have done as well, if not better, than those who were accepted. This isn’t a rationalization or sour grapes. At schools where there is a significantly larger number of applications than seats (schools whose acceptance rate is 50 percent or less), there just isn’t room for all the qualified applicants. This fact is borne out by the so-called Wait List. A wait list is a group of “in-betweeners” who haven’t been rejected but haven’t been admitted. They will be offered admission if the number of enrollments doesn’t meet expectations for the incoming freshman class.</p>
<p>One famous dean of admission said that his institution received so many outstanding applications that he didn’t have the heart to send rejection letters. He noted that placing these fine young men and women on the wait list was his way of saying, “We should have admitted you, but we didn’t have room.” Such is the case with many good colleges. Everyone who is good enough to get in isn’t always offered admission.</p>
<p>Take a little time to feel disappointed about not getting into your most-desired school(s). It’s perfectly natural to feel bad. Don’t dwell on it, though, and, by all means, don’t develop an obsessive attitude about it. Don’t hate that school from this moment on. Don’t view successful candidates as elitist snobs. Accept the fact that you didn’t make the cut–for whatever reason–and get on with your life.</p>
<p>Embrace those schools that have embraced you. Select the one that best suits your needs and prepare to have a great higher-education experience. Yes, indeed; there is life after rejection.</p>
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