@HHuntforCollege -First of all, my condolences to you on the imminent loss of your mother. I’m sure that this is a very sad and stressful time for your family and is understandably taking a toll on your daughter’s schoolwork.
Regarding her struggles in AP Environmental Studies, you are wise when you suggest that she should speak to her counselor and ask for advice on how to approach the teacher. I can almost guarantee you, however, that the counselor will ask her, “Have you even TRIED to talk to the teacher?” So your daughter should actually do this first. If she’s uncomfortable approaching this teacher quietly before or after class, she could begin with an email asking for a short meeting at the teacher’s convenience. If the teacher says no to the meeting (or disregards the message entirely), at least your daughter will have tangible proof that she made an attempt to discuss her problem with the teacher. Of course, she should be sure to save that email and to also keep a written record of ALL efforts she made to improve in this class, including meetings with the counselor, tutoring (by a peer or a pro, if she resorts to that), etc.
If the teacher does agree to a meeting, your daughter can then explain that she’s struggling in the class and that her success there has been hampered by set-backs such as the illnesses and other situations you described, especially the pending loss of her grandma. However, the emphasis in this meeting should be on asking the teacher for recommendations on how your daughter can do better in the class and not on making excuses for what’s already transpired.
If the teacher does NOT meet with your daughter or if the meeting doesn’t produce any fruitful results, then it’s time for your daughter to talk to her school counselor, and she can begin by explaining that she’s already reached out to the teacher. If the counselor doesn’t seem to have any helpful thoughts, your daughter can ask if it might be wise to set up a meeting with the department head who oversees the Env Science teacher (and hopefully this teacher is NOT the department head).
Your daughter’s goal should be to not only improve her grade (if possible) but also to compile documentation of all efforts she made to stay afloat in this class. So if she can’t improve her grade, she CAN convince admission officials that she wasn’t slacking and that she took numerous measures to do well.
If your daughter ends up with a “C” (or even a C-) in Env Science, it will not likely lead to rescinded acceptances, although it would still be prudent for her to make a “pre-emptive strike” by emailing the admission office at the college she has decided to attend and explain the difficulties she had in the class and the many stresses on her during this spring semester.
If she finishes with a “D,” there MIGHT be repercussions, so it’s even MORE important that she contact the admission office at her intended college to explain the circumstances. BEFORE her final transcript arrives in the admission office. Ideally, her guidance counselor will also email the admission office to corroborate your daughter’s explanation and emphasize that she wasn’t slacking.
I know you’ve got a lot on your plate right now, but it would be helpful if you can continue to monitor this situation (and I suspect that you will) to make sure that your daughter does promptly attempt to meet with the teacher and then with her counselor (if the teacher meeting was unproductive … or non-existent).
Best wishes to you as you navigate the tough time ahead with your mom, and do take some solace in the fact that, whatever happens with this class, you will look back on it before long and realize that, although it doesn’t feel this way right now, it will look like small stuff when it’s in the rear view mirror.