<p>I just wanted to point out that the first move or two may well not be the last move. My husband and I moved ten times before we finally settled down. We’re a mobile society, moving is pretty much a way of life for many people, and especially young people before they marry and have kids. I bet if you asked the posters on this forum where they grew up and where they live now, chances are that it will not be the same place.</p>
<p>One’s first job will definitely influence where graduates go, regardless of whether they went to an in-state or out of state school. My parents live on Long Island and I went to Cornell, just 5 hours away. I planned on finding a job in NYC after graduating but not living at home. As life may have it, though, I received a job offer from a company in Silicon Valley, on the other side of the country. I admittedly panicked because I still didn’t have any other job offers or strong prospects, so I took the job and moved. This was also egged on by many people telling me that this is the time to explore different locations. Even though I found myself unemployed 9 months after moving out here, I’m really glad about my impulsive decision- California’s a pretty amazing place so I have been sticking it out and job hunting here. I can’t say what my plan is regarding how long I’ll stay out here, whether I’ll return to NY, etc, but I do know that there is a lot to experience outside of where I’ve been so far.</p>
<p>I don’t think it really matters whether the school is out of state or in state- it’s more a matter of whether the school attracts people from all over and opens your S/D’s mind to new ideas (and locations).</p>
<p>I went to college in the same area I grew up in, but moved out of state for a job after graduation. My D in college DC will never live in her home area again, she couldn’t wait to leave!</p>
<p>Our older child, S, told us at the age of 16 that when he finished college he was going to move to H’s hometown, in Europe. In 2003, when he graduated, he did just that. He now works for the defense dept. of that country (dual citizen).</p>
<p>D is currently a junior in college 1,200 miles from our home, but spending junior abroad. Though she has been more diplomatic about it, we know she is going to live there as well.</p>
<p>We will retire there to see our kids/grandkids on at least a semi-regular basis. I was born, raised ,and have lived in theMidwest my entire life, but my kids can’t take the winters.</p>
<p>
</p>
<p>This is an odd question. Why wouldn’t they just find a job in that area? Why is the default assumption that they’d “come home”? Part of going to college in another region of the country is to expand your world and options.</p>
<p>Pizza, I was waiting for someone to say what you said. I thought it was an odd question, too, and wondered whether it was a kid or a parent. I just concluded there must be some family dynamic going on that prompted the question.</p>
<p>^^^
So -have we scared off the OP with our comments!!!</p>
<p>Yes, Gr,
Because reading through the thread, not many return home, and I think that’s what she is fearing.</p>
<p>^^^^
Yup - EVERY visit from my MIL (and we’ve been married 20 years) - she mentions how her DS - her ONLY child- went away to college and never returned!!! Let me tell you - moving overseas REALLY gave her stuff to talk about!!! ;)</p>
<p>I’m very disappointed in the high school behavior of so-called “Moms” in this thread. Well, there goes their credibility. The OP has never had a child graduate from college before. She doesn’t know where the kids tend to go. It’s rude to talk about someone else’s personal business here. Take that mess to PM’s. </p>
<p>The people above me ON THIS PAGE are amongst the most ignorant I’ve ever seen. Really.</p>
<p>Check out Leah321’s previous posts. On some of them, she’s a student; on others, she’s a mother with kids already in college. There’s some ■■■■■ behavior on her part. You don’t have to have had a kid graduate from college to know that adults don’t always live in the same town as their parents.</p>
<p>The OP asked us to share stories. We have. </p>
<p>We shared REAL stories - some with students coming back “home”, some with students staying where they attended college, and some with students moving someplace different. And frankly, having a child go to college in-state doesn’t guarantee that they won’t accept a job somewhere else upon graduation.</p>
<p>As a mother, I certainly can understand her worry and sorrow about having a child move away, but that is the reality of life.</p>
<p>“Check out Leah321’s previous posts. On some of them, she’s a student; on others, she’s a mother with kids already in college. There’s some ■■■■■ behavior on her part. You don’t have to have had a kid graduate from college to know that adults don’t always live in the same town as their parents.”</p>
<p>I read through them and she mentioned she lets her daughter use her account. All I know is you’re stooping to a ■■■■■’s level when hurl insults their way. Report it like any mature human.</p>