My daughter’s friend went to Harvard. Yes she’s obviously smart…but I don’t see her doing anything that is so outrageous compared to those from lower ranked schools. She spent 2 years doing research and is now working in a small clinic. I am not sure what she does…she was a bio major and has not been to grad school. My D loves her…they have intense conversations…but right now this Harvard grad isn’t doing anything that has any kind of “wow” factor compared to others from “regular” schools, and that’s ok. She’s 25 and enjoying life after college.
I know another Harvard grad who spent 2 years working in a dance school in town after graduation and is now at one of our local state schools getting a degree in education. She’s happy…therefore she’s successful.
My coworker’s daughter graduated from Duke and now works for a nonprofit making less than $35,000 a year (she’s very happy which in my opinion makes her successful). My other coworker’s son graduated from a top LAC (like Amherst) and works in an office while he figures it out. His first job for 6 months was in retail selling sporting goods.
My cousin’s daughter graduated from a top LAC and is still sitting on the couch, not doing anything.
My aquaintance’s son graduated from an Ivy League school. He is finally employed because a mutual friend hired him. He never had any internships.
My close friend’s son graduated HS as #4 (35 ACT) and attends a top university. He almost failed his first year. He graduates in May and hopes to go to grad school for social work.
One neighborhood kid graduated from an Ivy and is working in a lab…right next to somebody from one of our state schools.
Another neighbor’s kid graduated from a top 10 LAC…and then headed straight to one of our public city colleges to get her social work degree.
I am not taking anything away from these young adults. They are all figuring it out, doing what they enjoy, etc. Life after college (and in college) can be challenging in many ways. Many worked their a$$es off in school and need to recharge before making their next move…and that can take awhile.
The schools I referenced are some of the best schools in the world…and I will absolutely acknowledge that there are kids from these schools who are successful (however we define success) straight out of college…and beyond. Did they get a great education? Absolutely!!! Were they exposed to brilliant minds and intellectual discussions? I would say yes! But…there are also successful kids coming out of lower ranked schools…and these kids also had experiences and opportunities similar to those from higher ranked schools. To think otherwise is naive. I agree that there are some posters with HS kids who act like authorities…yet they have not been through the college process, have little experience with different schools, classes, discussions, professors, internships, interviews, research positions, issues that arise during the undergrad years…and life after graduation. (Btw…I am not implying that life at Harvard is the same as life at SUNY Binghamton. It’s not).
We can all learn something from Bruni’s book…Where You Go Is Not Who You’ll Be. My daughter read it in high school.
And now it’s time to take that four year experience and see where it goes next. As for right now …she’s working for a bit next to Yale grads…and kids from Quinnipiac.