Please allow yourself a moment to savor your outstanding admissions results. You are very sad about the UC result obviously, but be wary of stewing too long in your disappointment. You don’t help yourself and life is full of things that just don’t go your way. That said, you got into UNC as an out of state student, which is huge! Very difficult to get in OOS. And although you lament your southeastern VA location, it provided a regional boost to help you get into UVA. Ask all the NOVA kids about their UVA results and stats, and you’ll see what I mean - super competitive applying from there.
I went to UVA and my daughter just got in EA. I’m biased toward UVA. I think UVA is such a uniquely compelling institution that the only alternative I’d consider for my own children is a small rigorous liberal arts college for a certain kind of kid (perhaps more introverted and nerdy - I do have one of those) who needs administrative support from day one (e.g., student bonding exercises and freshman advising before classes start).
So, regarding UNC and UVA, you can’t go wrong with either. I’m sure both carry the same “reputation” weight and would help you transfer (I agree with others that starting your first year intending to leave is a ghastly mistake). You should attend admitted student days for both. Both college towns are wonderful. School spirit for both is infectious and widespread and continues after graduation. The female to male ratio is greater at UNC (59%) than UVA (54%) and UNC caps their OOS admissions for freshmen at 18%, while UVA admits 30% of their first years from OOS.
Also, regarding universities of this size, the opportunities are limitless and rely on you to take advantage of them. I came into UVA as a “smart” public high school graduate with no prior mentoring. I struggled to find my footing the first semester and didn’t think to reach out to professors or initiate any contact about courses, advising, extracurricular activities or career services. But, after my lowest grades ever first semester (lol), I slowly found my way, sought advice and used resources readily available to all students. I ended up with a top notch career and going to an excellent graduate school. To this day, my UVA education opens doors because of the active alumni network.
The new Dean of the College of Arts and Sciences (Ian Baucom - just came on from Duke, but I won’t hold that against him:)) has an ambitious vision for UVA as a premier public university, which includes hiring the best of the best among faculty and overseeing the implementation of the newly revised undergraduate curriculum. There’s also a new president who will start this summer (I think), who went to Yale undergrad, UVA law, and was a graduate dean at Harvard. I mention their backgrounds because the university is clearly investing in its future (these are not inexpensive hires!) as a leading institution.
Your journey isn’t over. You’ve got more results coming in March. But you should be proud of your current options and rejoice in your heart - many thousands of students would trade anything to be in your shoes. Best of luck with your decision this spring!