My husband went to CMU in engineering and was also an athlete there (quit the team after two years-very time consuming as I’m sure you already know). When it came time to send our own kids to college for engineering, we sent them to our state schools. We did not think that a school like CMU was worth the premium . Of course, we’re also not wealthy, as your family seems to be. You can get a fine education in engineering at many schools. Good luck with the decision.