<p>Mythmom, as a steady, kind, humorous poster on numerous topics, who also takes the risk of revealing your own family's foibles, I think you can be excused for the occasional crank-moment. </p>
<p>I am a lot more offended by Nightingale whose tone is much like a shrill banshee. People who know my posts will be shocked I could ever utter such a harsh word.</p>
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<p>Thank you, NIghtingale. There you stating your ideas in ways that are palatable to me as a reader. </p>
<p>So far, so good. Now, how do you picture me? Am I wealthy mom whose kids attend a private school? Nope. I'm a middle class mom whose kid might have been in the early wave of discovery at Amherst that it was time to better represent the 14% middleclass kids they were missing. He was plucked out of a humdrum rural public high school because of high achievement (despite, not because of, his school) and a humane approach that saturated his essays. He wrote about family moves, his dog, his brother and sister, and a funny experience at a summer job. He had superior SAT's and grades. He took their "most rigorous courseload" (the school offered 2 AP's.). He had not a single connection. We were astonished when they accepted him; plucked him right off the rural mountaintop. </p>
<p>When I asked him about the rich, preppie legacies I imagined (and feared a bit), he said he was grateful to the few around that he met. Without them, he wouldn't have gotten a need-based scholarship. Without them, he wouldn't have cool people to visit on holidays in places we can't afford. They're a handful but they add a lot to anyone...er, don't get me wrong now...FRIENDLY. </p>
<p>Legacy plays a strong role also at some colleges with interesting things going on intellectually, but located in less appealing locations. Oberlin is one. My D attended there. Oh boy, was she "yieldable"! They saw two alumni parents and 2 alumni uncles. She applied ED. She adored Oberlin after visiting it last, having visited 6 other fine LAC's (hoping to avoid the family alma mater). She couldn't help herself; she just loved the place. She also had all the usual qualifications, but more importantly was ready to move heaven and earth to go there. Legacies are loyal puppies and now she's one, too.</p>
<p>We have not much to donate financially, but we have created 3 career internships during their Winter Term, feeding and housing students while they work with us (innercity classroom teaching, and now this year one is coming to catalogue my husband's collection of Biblical Archaeology). I'm a big, sometimes overly enthusiastic promoter for my alma mater. I promised her I wouldn't make a big deal of it while she was there, but now that she's a graduate, I feel free again to sing its praises.</p>
<p>Are you going to bite off my head and hers because she was a legacy admit?</p>
<p>I pick up your sense of social justice and outrage, but I think you have to also consider that a college is a community of learners and a private business. If they admit some who are ridiculously loyal (me) or ridiculously wealthy (not me). </p>
<p>BTW your use of "Daddy's money" is so outre I can't believe it. You are also being read by some serious professional women on this site.</p>
<p>I just can't believe everyone's been so polite to you.</p>