I think that, in our family, we believed that as long as our kids were “great” students, they would be subject to any scholarships and grants because these children were “wunderkind” athletes and scholars. A lot of people make this stupid, naive assumption.
We also made the stupid mistake of telling our children they needed to maintain excellent grades and then we would pay for wherever they wanted to go. That was when they were in middle school because, at that time, we assumed certain dollars in our accounts, and that things weren’t going to be “crashing”.
We also assumed that they would receive lots of scholarships based on their grades, sports and URM status. ASSUME (When you “assume” you make an A$$ out of U and ME.) Lesson learned, don’t plan with hopeful expectations.
Reality hit in high school, and our investments were tanking, so we told them, things have changed in our budget and you have this much in your 529’s. That’s your budget. See if you can get and apply for scholarships (competitive, extra work laden apps, 1 yr limits, not large enough).
We told them that they could apply for small loans and any on-campus jobs, which they did.
I was basing everything on my campus experiences with loans. My husband’s family paid cash for his degrees and he paid half of his grad school fees with summer engineering internships. He never had to take out loans (except for our mortgage.)
I agree that we shouldn’t say NO to all loans because then, I wouldn’t have attended my universities, received my degrees nor never would have met my husband.
I didn’t have a choice on taking out loans because I could not afford to go to school without them. I was a B average, URM student. I didn’t know that there were prep courses to help increase your test scores to get you into colleges for free. I worked three jobs in college but my full education was sponsored by the federal government.
I worked hard to repay the loans and I am fortunate that my educational costs were not the crazy, outrageous sums that are currently charged. So I lucked out.
There is some educational information out there about having to repay loans.
I was fortunate that my old high school counseling staff gave the kids a “mini” test/rap during college info sessions:
A LOAN-Pay it back! Pay it back! Make it a very short, short stack cuz bankruptcy makes you pack!
A GRANT-I “grant” thee the power to go to school. . be cool. . don’t be a fool! Take it and make it!
A SCHOLARSHIP- You’d better stay a high grade scholar, cuz if you don’t, you’re gonna pay with dollars.
I know, cheesy, right (late 1970s-Rappers’ delight by the Sugar Hill Gang was out.) but it helped us when we received our aid packages.
Yep, not all loans are bad but stupid decisions are worse.