<p>So this girl and I who are neighbors always seemed to get along great. I really liked her until today. In fact, I liked her for a few months and I'd make efforts to ask her to chill, but she always had a valid excuse. We still talked a fair amount about stuff and were pretty good friends. So, this weekend while she was home I mentioned that I did something on a gym machine that she told me she could do (hardest level on a machine) so I told her jokingly that i pulled it off and that i dont think she could do the same in a joking way. She wrote back a friendly, long answer joking that she was just kidding and that I was making her want to try to do what I did and put a smiley face. So I wrote back a little response (Yeah I figured you were kidding after about 30 seconds on there... We should go to the gym tomorrow if ur back and see who can last longer).... No answer all the next day. </p>
<p>We're in the same class and when I saw her she looked away really fast and talked to someone else.. Then she left for the bathroom and avoided eye contact with me, but after the class she gave a sort of awkward wave and smiled. To those who might think she likes me, I can tell that she doesn't. I think she used to, but I never made a move. She also wasn't as friendly as usual in the hallway today in residence. </p>
<p>The only thing I'm thinking of is that she didn't get the text and that I was acting weird. Another possibility is that she sent something back and I didn't recieve it. Someone else sent something that just didn't come into my phone and they double texted asking if i got their message.</p>
<p>I'm a really big hockey enthusiast and I actually found that when I would think about how much I liked this girl, it would take my mind and energy away from hockey. Today when I played, I was flying on the ice, and I felt happy and not weighed down by wondering if she liked me or not.</p>
<p>Few questions though:</p>
<p>Why would she blow me off like that? That's pretty mean the way she did it. She could have just said she was sick or something (she even is!)... I don't want to ask her about this because I'm over it already. Was just curious if any girls have done something similar when a friend sort of casually asked her out via text. I've asked her to chill in person every other time</p>
<p>one thing i’ve found in college is that girls are crazy. i mean guys are too i’m sure but most of the time, there’s really no point trying to analyze this stuff.</p>
<p>Maybe she was having a bad day or as you stated
. I sometimes leave my phone somewhere and don’t get back to someone for 3+ days. Chill out, focus on hockey, and let her start something if she wants. I doubt that she, out of nowhere, just started hating you. Settle down and enjoy the things you love and continue to ask if she wants to ‘hang out’. Just don’t overwhelm her. Good Luck</p>
<p>I also assume this is the girl you ‘like’ from earlier posts…</p>
<p>This girl doesn’t like you. Never did. That’s why she always had a “valid” excuse when you suggested getting together. But she seems like a decent person, and rather than dividing the world into “guys I hang out with” and “guys I won’t give the time of day” she is willing to be friendly with most, as long as they can figure out the boundaries. </p>
<p>You crossed the boundary. As casual conversation she played along with your amazing exploit on the gym machine, but you couldn’t let it rest and had to turn it into “let’s go to the gym together”. So now she realizes you’ve never understood the message, and now is worried that even worse you interpreted her answer to imply she wants to spend time together (which, BTW, you kinda did). </p>
<p>She doesn’t want to go to the gym with you, just like she politely turned down your previous attempts to hang out together (a “valid excuse” being much nicer than a “Are you kidding me?!! Hell no.”) Unlike previous things you tried to get her to do where a single “valid excuse” appears to have sufficed to take them off the table, the gym is always going to be there and she’s not going to be able to keep coming up with excuses if you keep asking her to go. If she talks with you now she’s worried you’re going to pester her about going to the gym; if not every time you talk, then at least regularly.</p>
<p>My advice is let it go. Be friendly when you see her but stop texting, emailing, stopping by, etc. Don’t apologize; that’s just going to be awkward and make things worse. Let things cool off. If she wants more contact you’ll get it, otherwise chalk this up to misreading the signs. There are a lot more fish in the sea. Many guys have a “three and out” rule; they’ll ask someone 3x to get together, but figure after 3 turndowns there is a message being sent (regardless of how nicely said or “valid” the turndowns seem). In fact I remember one girl who, aware of this rule, was a bit miffed because there was a guy she actually was interested in but that she legitimately had to turn down 3x, and she expected he would never ask again (nor did he).</p>
<p>Hey guys… I’ve understood that shes not interested in crossing that line, but we’ve actually been talking a lot this week just about random stuff and getting along in groups… Girls make no sense, but I’m going to keep my distance and keep talking to her every now and then… Better to have a friend than someone who thinks ur desperate or a creep haha</p>