@carolinamom2boys, point well taken. I would be very annoyed by that too.
I have no doubt OP worked very hard to get where he is, same with his wife. This is how our world works, for the most part.
OP’s D has worked hard too, in her own way. She will get what she deserves for her work, and if she’s lucky, maybe a little bit more than she deserves. If she’s not lucky, maybe a little bit less. It will not be what YOUR son deserves, nor should it be.