I have had a couple of threads on here throughout the year but I have finally gotten into college! I just hot into wesleyan (early decision). With a huge need based scholarship. Now I’ve begun withdrawing applications from other colleges. The only problem I’m having is with the University of Michigan. Recently somebody in my family passed away. He was really close to my mom and he loved U of M. He always wanted me to go there. Now my mom is adament I don’t withdraw my application. She says it would make him happy if I got in. Would I get in trouble if that application staid open? I dont want my Mom to be upset with me if I withdrsw without telling her. But I also dont want to keep my application open when at last half my school applied to u of m. I would feel bad getting in knowing im not gonna go. I also dont want to risk getting into trouble with Wesleyan.
You answered your own question, you should withdraw your application.
Congrats on getting into your ED school!
If you accept that ED offer of acceptance…then you are REQUIRED to withdraw all other applications. This isn’t optional.
I will. Now I just gotta figure out how to break it to my mom. 
Tell your mom that you risk getting locked out of both of you play that game.
You are supposed to withdraw your applications elsewhere after committing to an ED school.
However, do not be surprised if some school you withdrew your application from still delivers a decision later, since it may not have properly processed the application withdrawal, or, if you applied EA or early rolling, it may have already started the process of giving you the decision before you withdrew your application.
Think of it this way… it will be much easier than breaking it to your mom that your ED school acceptance was rescinded because you didn’t adhere to your ED agreement 
Explain to your mom that making your deceased relative happy comes at the risk of losing admission to Wesleyan AND the scholarship.
Is that the price she wants to pay? No guarantees you’d get a dime at U Michigan if you get in vs. your current, affordable option at Wes?
If you are religious, then you likely believe that he is in a place of ultimate happiness and nothing can increase or decrease it.
If you are not religious, nothing you do can impact him because he doesn’t exist in this part of spacetime.
Either way no impact on him. This is really for your mother and her memories. I would tell her that he already knows the decision and withdrawal it.
You pretty much have to honor your ED commitment – but you could tell your mom that you will keep Michigan in mind for grad school.
Yes i’ve officially withdrew all my aplicatipns now. (Still havent told mom). For the colleges that didn’t offer a withdraw button on my application I emailed. Will they notify me that they’ve officially withdrawn my application or do I just trust that they do?
Tell her your uncle would be proud that you have grown into an ethical person who is true to their word and does not break contracts or collect finite opportunities you have no intention of using.
Talk to you counselor to keep them in the loop and see if they have any other suggestions. Typically, an email should suffice where there is no other option, but save that sent email.
I think my daughter got an email confirming from at least one school without a withdraw button and not from at least one other. No decisions appeared though so they got the message. I think your obligation ends when you send the email.
Happy you honored your ED. You’re going to love Wes - You will know everyone and everyone will know you - Wes has a 8:1 Teacher Student Ratio vs 15:1 at Michigan.