I’m having a hard time following this story and its logic. @cloudysmom you say that your daughter withdrew all but two of her RD applications, correct? I get that she’s committed to attending Richmond and that she isn’t breaking that part of the ED contract. I also get that it’s out of pure interest that she’d like to know if she ended up getting an acceptance to the RD schools—but if she’s actually withdrawn her apps from them, why would she (or you) be waiting to hear from those schools? That’s where I’m genuinely confused.
The RD schools want to consider and accept viable candidates. They evaluate the entire pool and accept students who will provide the breadth of skills and experiences that form a strong class. Applications that aren’t viable only cloud that process and potentially deny another applicant the chance to attend.
My daughter was accepted by a school that she withdrew from. For another school, she sent the withdrawal notice to a different college with a similar name (d’oh) and received an admission from school to which she applied as well–she immediately sent a new withdrawal message.
@3girls3cats Hi, no, we withdrew all of them, we initially forgot about 2 of them but I called and w/drew as soon as we remembered as I was in a panic that somehow UR would find out & think we weren’t serious about going there.
I think it’s this word “waiting” that’s causing confusion. I am only “waiting” (not a good word, not my word initially but it’s what others have used) in that as I did my part & seem to be hearing from schools anyway, I am curious which ones we get a response from, if there are even any more responses. Things could have caught up by now. For example, now that I know Gettysburg was mailed out, if we don’t get a decision by Thurs or Fri, I will know that our withdrawal was processed. I think it’s fun to find out, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that as we aren’t doing anything with the information, and thank you for saying you understood that, by the way. No way would D go anywhere but UR. We did our part, it’s out of our hands so while I am not “waiting” as that word implies I’m holding back on something while “waiting” on something else, I am only curious where the withdrawal worked & if she got into any of these schools or not.
I’m sorry but I agree with @thumper1 and @wisteria100 . Something seems a little off here based on your posting history:
03/19 for American Univ:
“A mom here, my D is freaking too, please try not to worry, it’s out of your hands!”
Why would your daughter be “freaking” if she has already committed to Richmond?
03/19 for Elon:
“My D got admitted for spring with Presidential $6k scholarship. It said that brings your total aid award to _. It was a blank! D applied 10 mins till midnight on the last day so we figured that was why as her letter also said they gave out all their places for fall 2017. Weird! It did say if she wanted to be on the waitlist she would have priority status, which makes sense. Anyone get a financial aid award detail?”
Why do you care about Elon’s financial aid award? Your daughter has already committed ED to Richmond.
For the 100th time I am curious! We withdrew all her applications, we did our part! Why can’t I enjoy seeing those schools who valued her applications? Why are there so many suspicious people here? And why would I make this thread if I was doing something I should not have? I can’t believe you guys would accuse me of something bad, listen to my responses, decide I am lying. I can’t imagine treating others that way, following them around CC to prove they are doing some bad thing?
I always give people the benefit of the doubt, it never occurred to me I would be treated this way or I never would have made this thread. As you can see from the 1st few posters, others are still getting responses, it’s not just me. We have stopped getting them so I assume the schools have caught up. I am proud of my daughter, if she was offered a scholarship I want to shout it from the rooftops, even if we’re not taking it! I read posts all the time of parents sharing their kids good news and offers, even though they say they will turn it down. This college application process has been stressful, now that she’s in somewhere we can breathe a sigh of relief & have fun getting theses acceptances. At least until you suspicious police decided it was bad! Shame on you!
My D has had crushing denials, it makes her feel better to see these acceptances, now you want to make me feel bad with your accusations. This is really hurtful, I am always supportive on CC and receive messages all the time thanking me. If you don’t have anything nice to say don’t say it. I have requested this thread be deleted, finally after months of worry I can relax knowing she’s in a great school too bad I can’t brag on her & share it without ugliness.
I think this is a situation that you created. Many of the people who responded are the same people who assisted you in the financial aid thread, when you were trying to make UR financially work for your child.
on that thread, you post # 94 you said
Even though you said that you were going to withdraw, now people are calling you on it and questioning your veracity, because originally you did not want to pull the applications. You stated that you were curious and you wanted to “just see”. Even then people told you that you were doing the wrong thing and you should withdraw the applications. Now you are responding on on various threads like you have a child who is actually waiting on decisions, when you know that your child has already committed to a school.
It is really not cool and there is really no right way to do something you know is wrong. It seems to me that you are seeking justification and because you are not getting it, everyone is being mean to you.
One thing about posting threads on a public forum is not everyone is going to agree with you.
@sybbie716 I did call, all of them the day I posted that. I was wondering whether I should call or email. I didn’t realize I had to post back my actions. I also called the ED school to tell them we were getting decisions & they were unconcerned. If they were unconcerned, why is anyone else???
I am not doing anything I am not supposed to. NOT ONE THING. It’s out of my hands so I am having fun hearing from any schools who are still rolling in. The only thing wrong is that people have decided I must be lying. Wow, that’s a lot to accuse someone of. I can’t imagine being so mean spirited. Yes, some of these people helped me earlier so I am very surprised they now clearly feel I am being dishonest, so much so they need to follow me around and call me out on it. When I then say I am not, they choose not to believe me, that is pretty mean spirited. And what is the big worry here? What is the upshot? That I will reneg on the ED school? There is no way we will do that but it appears no one will believe me, they have appointed themselves judge and jury. Wow. That is really incredible. I have stated many time we withdrew, that I called the ED school & told them, that should have stopped it all but no, people think they know better. All I asked for was support, I never dreamed I’d get trolled and followed around & accused. I cannot imagine treating anyone that way. I sent a message asking this thread be deleted.
It is not unreasonable for people who have gone thru the process to be a bit suspicious. CC is a great community and people want to make sure posts are on the up and up. It’s not just the ED thing, some of your financial aid posts have also raised the radar. Many times you have talked about not telling UR about the ‘rich grandma’, or wanting to show the lower income from your ex. You even said UR called for clarification because they didn’t understand how you could live with the income you reported.
Now this process is confusing and daunting and maybe you just got got up in that, but it is easy to see why people would have questions.
I never thought this would be a thread where people would disagree with me! Didn’t seem controversial at all to me! If I can’t say something nice I don’t say it. I have not done 1 thing I wasn’t supposed to. It’s the ugly & suspicious nature here that is the only thing wrong. You will see next fall when my D is at her ED school that I wasn’t trying to pull a fast one and maybe those of you who think I’m lying will judge others less harshly in the future.
@wisteria100 I am stunned at the suspicion & unsupportive nature I find on this thread. The things you just said about me are out of context. I sent UR my ex husbands 2016 W2’s per THEIR request as the rep said they might be able to use those instead of 2015 and I had my fingers crossed they would as it was lower. I explained all that in many posts. I didn’t tell the school about the grandma when I filled out CSS because she didn’t make her offer then. I asked advice about it & received it. Most told me gift $ didn’t need to be told, as I was prepared to tell them, I think you even said that yourself. Gift $ under a certain amount to the parent doesn’t need to be disclosed. D got a small private scholarship & I called UR immediately & asked them, as I don’t think we can stack scholarships. I am a very honest person, even get made fun f for it. No, I don’t think it’s easy to see why anyone would question someone based on so little information. I thought this was a supportive place, I have never had a rude or accusatory post to anyone ever. I never would. Good grief.
And make no mistake, people aren’t just “asking questions” they are accusing me of lying. If they were just “asking questions” they would read my answers and respond such as: “ok, great, just wanted to be sure you knew the rules! Glad your D is feeling better, I know how crushed she was over not getting into W&M” But no, no one said anything like that did they? You can hide the ugliness by saying people were just asking questions but we all know these were accusations of lying.
What’s the harm? Your daughter’s acceptance means that another kid did not get accepted. So while it might be fun to watch them roll in, I would be emailing even now to withdraw those apps in the chance that some other kid who might need those acceptances will get them. As I said before, my D withdrew many apps, and only ONE decision came in and that was an EA decision that was released the day after she was accepted ED and withdrew all the apps. It is still possible to reach out to those colleges and withdraw. And maybe you’ll make another kid extremely happy when he or she gets into their dream school.
It’s one thing to quietly see if RD colleges accept your daughter if they haven’t withdrawn her applications. It’s a very different thing to giddily post questions and comments in other colleges’ threads about results knowing full well your daughter is not going to those colleges. In none of those posts did you state that your daughter was accepted ED to Richmond and that you were just posting out of curiosity. That’s the part that irks me.
This “suspicious post” stuff is my LEAST favorite thing about CC. I know A LOT of CCers feel this way. It makes posters feel attacked, violated, unwelcome.
I don’t understand any of this! I have called every school and sent a few emails, we aren’t taking any spots. All the schools who accepted her we either called, sent back their card in the mail or emailed AGAIN. Now the schools have several contacts from us. I would never take a kids spot! Those I called were unconcerned, they said it just didn’t catch in the system but they’d put in her file ( or whatever it’s called) that I called again. There is nothing else I can do!
What do you people want? @scholardad So I can only quietly be happy for my D? To publically be proud is bad? That’s ridiculous! If that upsets you then I assume you’re mad at all those posters who apply to 10 RD schools & say they got in but aren’t going, right? You’re following them around making sure they w/draw, telling them they are taking a spot, right? Cause they literally are taking a spot, the schools know we aren’t going. So I need to explain my entire story to a group in order to be fair? They are not interested in all that, they are learning if they got in or not, they are excited & I’m excited for them
I will always defend myself when I have DONE NOTHING WRONG. I am not taking anyone’s spot, as I keep saying, but no one believes me. Every school has been contacted several times. Why not give someone the benefit of the doubt? I cannot fathom treating others so poorly, the crowd mentality I guess, or else there are a lot of negative people on CC. I am being attacked & I did nothing wrong. If I did why would I make this thread? You’re just plain mean.
@thumper1. As I said in this thread, I called the 2 schools as soon as a I remembered, that very day if it was before 5. And have again as we heard from 1 of them. When I said above that I didn’t understand, I meant I didn’t understand all the negative, accusatory comments & jumps to conclusions in what I thought was a friendly, innocuous post.
Yes people in the VA thread & Richmond thread were wonderfully supportive, which is why this thread & its accusers have been so terribly dissapointing, surprising and hurtful.