<p>Maybe your father does not realize that schools at that level do not offer merit based scholarships. There is a lot of misinformation and confusion out there among many (adults and students alike). I have seen parents throw out comments like “you’re going to need to get scholarships” in order to motivate kids to do their best without realizing that the Ivies and that level do not award any merit scholarships. Getting in is an acknowledgement of your achievements but aid will based on parental ability to pay.</p>
<p>I recommend an open, non judgemental discussion with your dad. If you have naviance at your HS, perhaps in front of the computer. Discuss your stats and your current school list. Show him how you have worked hard to even have the stats to be a viable candidate for admission. Show him the information from school websites that they do not give merit aid and that both parents’ financial information will be considered. </p>
<p>Also develop a list of schools that has some financial safeties. In state publics, schools with guaranteed merit and some that are competitive merit. Cast a wide net. See if you can get your dad to discuss what he is willing to contribute once he has all the facts. </p>
<p>I do not know your father but I have, on occasion, seen parental ego kick in and once a kid was admitted to a top tier school, they ended up ponying up the money because they then had bragging rights about where their kid was going to school. This may be more common in the northeast but as long as you don’t pin your hopes on it and realize there are many fine school and many paths to achieve your ultimate goal you will succeed!</p>