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Would you choose to go to a university for a girl/guy over the university you really want to go to? If it's for a boyfriend or girlfriend I would understand, but what if it was just a crush? A girl/guy you've liked for a long time and you have no clue what so ever if you have a chance or not with her/him? This has been on my mind since last summer before I even started applying. And it's hard to tell if she/he likes you cause you always get mixed signals, or maybe I'm just overanalyzing things.</p>
<p>Knowing how many of you on this forum think, most of you would probably choose the better university that you want to go to. Oh and here is how I'm trying to rank which school I would rather go to:
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<p>Have you even hooked up with her? I dunno dude, I think you might be better off seeing a therapist if you are actually considering going to a school just because the girl you like goes there.</p>
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Why does our culture put such an emphasis on romantic relationships and going to the ends of the earth for love? I don't get it
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<p>You'll understand one day when you move in with someone how important it is to understand and love them. </p>
<p>Anyway, I let love factor into my decision. I chose UCLA partly because of my girlfriend. However, let me make a few things clear: First of all, we had already been dating for over 3 years by that time. Secondly, UCLA was my dream school to begin with (yes, over Cal and East Coast privates that I got into.) And third, I had no desire to be heartsick for my whole undergrad career.</p>
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I had no desire to be heartsick for my whole undergrad career.
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<p>That's what I'm scared of, but I know I'm not even dating her yet so that's why I'm confused. The whole argument with the all schools have hot girls is dumb because not everyone wants to get with just any girl. Some guys try to get with any girl they can because they want a girlfriend and I've never had that mentality.</p>
<p>There are more of us, but we're usually older. Give yourself about 5 years or so, and you'll be suprised how the men improve (if only incrementally.)</p>
<p>uh....I asked a question....there was never an argument...would you go to U of Kentucky if your gf got in and you got into UCLA? it's a simple question...yes or no</p>
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A superlative and a straw man in the same page? You've got a touch for fallacies!
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<p>Does the use of a superlative constitute a fallacy? Last I checked, such modal operators are applicable to analytic statements, which are nontrivial.</p>
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And yes, you offered a straw man (it's one or the other) question. </p>
<p>It's like asking, "would you kill your wife or let 100 people die?"
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<p>I'm confused. How is this a strawman? A strawman fallacy, in my understanding of it, is when someone attacks the position which assume you will take without you officially taking it. </p>
<p>So, he is assuming that you would not attend the University of Kentucky? Not really. Like he said, he was asking a question.</p>
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That's what I'm scared of, but I know I'm not even dating her yet so that's why I'm confused. The whole argument with the all schools have hot girls is dumb because not everyone wants to get with just any girl. Some guys try to get with any girl they can because they want a girlfriend and I've never had that mentality.
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<p>Well, I'll be honest with you. Had I only just met my girlfriend/quasi-fiancee, I wouldn't have based any decision on her. But, after 3 years it wasn't really that big of a deal to me.</p>
<p>The people on this forum who are saying, "Oh, I'd never let even my spouse get in the way!" are, in my opinion, probably too young or inexperienced to understand how important a significant other is to your well-being. It's one thing to say, "I'm going to break up with my girlfriend of 3 months and move to Japan" and another thing to say, "I'm leaving my fiancee and moving to Japan."</p>
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I'm confused. How is this a strawman? A strawman fallacy, in my understanding of it, is when someone attacks the position which assume you will take without you officially taking it.
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<p>Pfft, straw man, false dilemma. It's so hard to keep track of all those fallacies from high school debate. Besides, you spend a year in Japan and see where YOUR English goes...</p>
<p>The problem with the question is that it assumes that we only got into one school each. It assumes that we didn't have the foresight to plan a bunch of different schools within a reasonable area. It assumes that there aren't alternatives to UCLA nearby (UCSD, USC, Pomona) for one of us to attend instead.</p>
<p>the facts concerning breakups in colleges, and the failure of long-distance relationships in general, coupled with the character of hormonal naive HS girls (and guys) counterweighs any idealist notion of romantic love you may have...I guess what it comes down to is the choice between logical and emotional judgement....if you want to follow your gf to whatever college she wants you to go to (and that is a troubling sign of manipulative behavior in itself) that's fine, thats your choice...but justifying it, where rationality would win anyday, is plain asinine</p>
<p>divorced people (and couples in college, where the average number of partners is prolly between 5-10) were in "love" at one point too lol....so much for the concept of eternal love....in novels and The Notebook these ideals seem fine...but real life is a totally different matter...and love in HS/College is a joke anyway...</p>
<p>You're assuming that one person is coercing another.</p>
<p>Let's say that two people are married. One gets a great offer, but it's in another city. Should that one person divorce just to be able to take the new job?</p>
<p>It's not always about coercion. In this case, yes, there is some involved (and shame on APPREHENSIVE for letting it be that way) but not always. People sometimes make genuine decisions out of mature love. </p>