<p>Heck no. I’m 18 and I have no desire to be married. I have no money, no job, nothing. It’s just not practical. </p>
<p>This girl I know who graduated from my school last year came home for spring break with an engagement ring. She met the guy at college. Personally, I think she’s crazy.</p>
<p>You don’t need to prove your love with a piece of paper that says you’re married. My parents lived together for several years, had me, and did not get married until I was 3 years old, and only because relatives pushed them to do so. Their love was strong enough so that they already knew that they were not going to leave each other.</p>
<p>Best part, I was the flower girl at my own parents’ wedding!</p>
<p>Clarification: I do not want my position to be construed to mean that I be alright having children before I graduate from college and get a stable job.</p>
<p>Out of curiosity, why don’t some of you want to get married?</p>
<p>I mean, why do you want to get married? </p>
<p>It’s not the lifestyle I want.</p>
<p>i think married people have many different lifestyles.</p>
<p>i don’t know - a very, very high percentage of the living scientists i’ve read about have long-term stable marriages, so i’m guessing it tends to be a good thing.</p>
<p>^ Forget scientists. Marriage is unquestionably more common among the rich, the educated, and the successful.</p>
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<p>I completely agree. I mean, if I found someone who wanted to live the same way as me - in a city, traveling a lot (work and for fun), didn’t particularly want kids, etc. then I would consider it. But in all honesty, I don’t feel the need for a piece of paper to prove our relationship, and I also don’t feel like I should get married while there are so many people who currently do not have their constitutional right to do so (LGBT people). I’m not ruling it out I just don’t see it as a priority. </p>
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<p>correlation =/= causation, especially with a small sample size. Also, I don’t want to be a scientist. lol. </p>
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<p>This, I agree with.</p>
<p>okay i see. you just don’t feel the need - so if you did marry someone it might seem a bit forced. marriage doesn’t necessarily impose a certain lifestyle though, yeah. </p>
<p>also i get it because if you did marry someone then you would have to put up with other people’s responses to your defying the stereotypes of married people, which might be wearisome. </p>
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<p>i actually meant marriage might be a good thing not because married people become scientists, but because scientists marry people :p. and i do think that is the way it tends to go - you know you’re going to be scientist before you marry someone typically. </p>
<p>i just think if scientists marry people then their marriages are the result of an informed decision (i.e not because they are pressured by the preponderance of other educated married people, but because it is a good thing for them).</p>
<p>If he’s a hot guy with a U.S citizenship who i can stand for a year… Hell yeah. </p>
<p>Jk guys. Marriage is’nt for me</p>
<p>I guess I’ve been lucky to be married to a wonderful guy for almost 26 years. We run a business out of our home, so we’re together all of the time.</p>
<p>From an “old person’s” perspective, the main advantage of wedding vows is the commitment it creates. We HAVE gone through a few tough patches, and went for counseling in the late '90s. But we each took our vows seriously and worked hard to improve our marriage. Thank goodness we did, because the last couple of years have been the best ones for us, even with our two teenaged sons being diagnosed with serious illnesses. If we had had only a loose alliance, it would have been tempting to say, “Forget it!”</p>
<p>OK, off my soapbox.</p>
<p>I’d prefer to get married at 22. It’s still young but you have reached a certain level of maturity.</p>
<p>Why would marriage be the best way to maintain a relationship? Doesn’t love, trust, and responsibility maintain a relationship rather than a document? I really don’t see myself getting married until after college, so twenties.</p>
<p>It’s my dream to be a business owner someday. You gotta be able to pull 72 hours without sleep to get things done when you’re just starting out. I wouldn’t want to put a wife in the position that she’d have to put up with me when I’m working that hard.</p>
<p>So, I’ll probably wait.</p>
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<p>this. marriage tends to create a greater commitment. a huge part is love, but I think marriage is just meant to be more than that.</p>
<p>I guess it also makes life easier, since society can clearly see when a couple’s together.</p>
<p>and also, if someone’s so sure in the love and trust in their relationship, why wouldn’t they get married? what reason is there not too?</p>
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<p>only slightly related, but arranged marriages tend to be more successful (at least, there aren’t as many divorces) and some people claim that the reason is that parents are doing the “informed” bit while the child obviously sees whether or not their is a deeper compatibility.</p>
<p>I don’t see myself getting married until my late 20’s/ early 30’s.</p>
<p>Despite the fact that my parents were married at a very young age (my mother was 19) and have remained married now for 28 years, I would still have to say no. I barely know what career I want yet, so I doubt I could handle the responsibility and pressure of building a successful marriage.</p>
<p>Personally in my mind it’d be pointless to get married at a young age. What about college? I’d rather live some before I live with someone else. I’d rather learn to live alone before I learn to depend on others. If I was truly in love I’d wait until I have finished all of my schooling, gotten my Jeep Wrangler Unlimited, and my Akita and then maybe I’ll want to move in with my “love”. But at least first let me be able to grunt and scratch my privates before I bring a man around.</p>
<p>^it was mentioned before, but married people have different lifestyles. it depends on “individual” couples, if that makes sense</p>
<p>I would love to. I see that it’s not practical yet but if I were going to the same college with my boyfriend then why not.
then again, I’ve never met a guy who has made me feel so comfortable.</p>