@coppii - As a mom- I don’t think someone your age should disclosing all this personal info on threads or in pms. You’re upset and it’s all very understandable but try to keep your personal and family business more private.
You need to really think about the BS FA pool… and the kids you’ll be competing against in that pool. Almost all of them have amazing SSAT scores and perfect everything else. You need to compare those kind of stats to your stats. How do you compare? Are you full ride material or do you need to have a candid conversation with your grandfather?
If your Grandfather agrees to proceed…
Study and take the SSAT again. Once you have the results, sit down with your family and discuss the way forward- if it makes sense at that point to move forward and apply to BSs again. Put this past admission cycle completely behind you. Forget Exeter, Choate and Taft- move on- it’s over. But before you choose different schools or do anything else - take the necessary time to reflect and look at the role you may have played in all of this and address what might be glaring on your transcript … because if it’s a fatal flaw ( like a disciplinary action that caused you to withdraw rather than be expelled ) and it can’t be expunged or explained … a stellar SSAT score won’t save you- especially if your other stats remain the same and you’re still applying for ANY amount of FA…
Even if your family decides to go FP for the next round , I’d caution you to be very realistic about schools and the road ahead- especially if you’re unwilling to repeat 10th- which I believe you should strongly consider.
FYI- A hook is not an alum you know… we’re generally worthless when it comes to admissions. All we can do is put in a good word and hope that our letter of support compliments a good fit and a great app. Your Taft alum English teacher should’ve known better and failed you by not adjusting your expectations. I’m guessing she was a young alum… Anyway- "connections " are not a hook… maybe back in the Dark Ages but not now.
If you come back to CC and say that the issue with the other school has been resolved favorably and your SSAT score is vastly improved and your family has decided to look at other schools and we have questions about those schools… then we can help, but not before you tackle all the things that need to be done in order to move forward.