<p>I'm a college freshman, and I've also never dated and never been kissed...and I find that I'm not alone. Plenty of girls here were just so busy/high acheiving in high school, they were intimidating and didn't date. However, we're all attractive, interesting girls, and hopefully we'll be able to be appriciated here in college...but just know that you're not alone and it's not weird or pathetic.</p>
<p>Yeah, my mom and other "older" people are always saying that bright girls have this problem sometimes because silly high school guys are intimidated by us...oh well. That just means all the gorgeous, intelligent, compassionate, funny, sweet, and great dressers are waiting for us in the post-school years :P.</p>
<p>Well stay the intelligent and compassionate beings that you are. Don't change just so you can get more of that kind of attention from guys (unless you really want to I guess).</p>
<p>It gets so much better, so don't worry - in high school I always had to date out of my school because guys basically ignored me. But at college everyone is bright, so there's no longer the intimidation factor. Plus no one knows you from before, so there's not the twelve years of prior history causing any intimidation/awkwardness. Enjoy the remainder of your high school years (senior year is awesome) and best of luck!!</p>
<p>I'm a guy commenting here, and the girls never went after me in a romantic way. Instead, they saw me as the "big brother" figure who they could go to whenever something went wrong. I went to a small high school where rumors spread quickly so that is why I shyed away from the dating scene--one rumor and the whole school would know something good or bad in a matter of a day. I'm transferring out of my college at the end of the semester and found most of the girls at that school to be idiots--none of them had any good values. I'm starting to think my best option for finding a date would be to join the singles club at my church. At least people would share the same beliefs as me.</p>
<p>I also think it may be worth noting that the girls I were attracted to in high school were all younger than me by a year or more. Like I said earlier, though, I was kind of the "big brother" to all of them. My good buddy actually dated most all my female friends at some point and he got dumped after three days with most of them. He, by the way, has gone through two week-long relationships at college and has been single for almost two months now.</p>
<p>I'm a freshman in college, and like allie and a lot of other posters on the board, i had yet to have a bf, a relationship, or a first kiss till i came to college</p>
<p>It was quite intimidating at first, after hearing my roomate talk, "oh yeah i *****ed him at orientation" and hear about my best friends in college, and their past experiences. </p>
<p>Over the summer i had this flirty thing going w/ the guy at Orientation. He actually lived like 20 mins away from me, so he came to visit me, which was very cool... but i didn't kiss him till we were at college.</p>
<p>Like he is much more experienced then me and actually asked me, if it was my first kiss. Like honesty is important to me, and if a person u meet in college that u meet has a problem w/ your "inexperience" then he/ she isn't worth your time, because all they really want is sex, and not an emotional relatioship. Anyway after a few few hook ups, i met my first boyfriend. </p>
<p>Even though he has had sex, and by this point i really didn't go pass kissing, he had no problem taking it slow, and waiting till i was ready to do more w/ him. Not to get too graphic on the forum, but if there is something that u want to do w/ him/ her, all u have to do is ask, and he/ she will show and explain to you what they want. If your too embaressed, then maybe you aren't ready for that type of a relationship, which is totalty okay. </p>
<p>If the person doesn't want to be w/ u just because of your inexperiences then he/ she so isn't worth your time... plus u realize that once u get to college, that there are more fish in the sea... if one person is a jackass, your romeo could be just around the corner :)</p>
<p>~alyssa</p>
<p>P.S. once you get to college, and u have a welcome week/ orientation week... well pratice makes perfect. Seeing as i had my first kiss in aug, and now i've been called "a good kisser" well u get the point. </p>
<p>pps: it is always your choice about how much u want to spill. If someone asks u "how far you have gone" you can play it off by saying something like "you wouldn't believe me if i told u" or you can tell the truth. Only one of my best friends in college knows that my first kiss was in college, and that i've never had a bf till college.
To be honest, i wouldn't reccomend lying... i mean whats the point?
just be strong, and don't rush into anything that you aren't ready for... just because others seem to be doing it, or because the person your w/ has no problem w/ going that far....</p>