<p>Hi! I'm finishing my freshman year of college, and its gone by really fast. I've never kissed a boy or had a boyfriend. I'm not particularly worried about this, and I don't want a drunken makeout session or anything like that. I'm just wondering if it's really weird or if I should be worried/ do something about it. I have guy friends and stuff, but I don't have a crush on anybody or anything like that. </p>
<p>I just feel like its strange.</p>
<p>You have high standards and a lot of self respect which is good. Sometimes boys can be obtuse, especially STEM types. If there’s a particular boy that you like then smile at him. Hopefully, he’ll be smart enough to smile back. GL</p>
<p>BUMP 10char</p>
<p>No, it’s not weird. I met my first boyfriend in the fall semester of Junior year, and I have higher standards, much like yourself. I graduated last year and we are still together! I think it says a lot when you go a while without dating and then choose someone, because you’re not choosing someone just for comfort, but someone you know you click with. Don’t worry about feeling “weird” or “out of place.” Most college relationships are drama-filled and unnecessary anyway.</p>
<p>I met my GF my Junior year. I would not be worried until later on when you’re 30 years old and haven’t found someone.</p>
<p>I graduate next year and I’ve never kissed a girl. And I’m 30. So you still have lots of time!</p>
<p>My first boyfriend (not just a date) was when I was 19, summer session between my sophmore and junior year. If you’re ok with it, then it’s ok.</p>
<p>that can all change with a mysterious drink…</p>
<p>Thanks for all the support! I’m actually fine with it for now, so I’m not worried.
@valeas - I don’t want to do it that way, and that mysterious drink doesn’t have that much of an affect on me!</p>
<p>I think the only downside of not having been in a relationship for me is that it can make me feel very insecure at times. But really I think it has been for the best. I have learned from observation that being in a relationship with the wrong person or before one is ready is both emotionally draining and distracting. I feel that before one starts a relationship with someone, one need to be comfortable with who their identity and with many introverted people, this doesn’t happen until the early/mid twenties.</p>
<p>Come on, the overdramatized romantic way is so lame. it happens in an instant</p>
<p>I’m 20 and have never been, nor am interested, in a romantic relationship. That’s actually the norm in my circles and most of us turned out just fine.</p>
<p>There’s nothing wrong with you at all! As long as you’re happy and fine with your life, that’s all that matters. People progress at their own pace, and by waiting for the right person/time, you’ll be better prepared to appreciate and enjoy that first relationship when it happens. Quite frankly, most college relationships are pretty immature and aren’t worth the drama and hassle anyway, so I think you’re ahead of the game ;)</p>