Daytime, nighttime, level of formality? I know you may have answered these earlier but my brain is mush these days! And thanks…I’ve learned to accept that it will be what it will be. But I still hope it’s what they want it to be!! 
One of those Southern chic barn weddings. Ceremony probably at 4 or so, then happy hour, then dinner and dancing.
What do y’all think of this? I think the MOB doesn’t want a long dress so I should go short or tea-length, too, right?
BTW I forgot to mention re my niece - she and her fiance met on College Confidential!
I think it’s really pretty and could be very flattering - and yes, is a compromise length if MOB doesn’t want long! I also like the color selection. I would check out how the top fits exactly, though; those armpit areas could show chub at least on me, and it’s see-through enough that I’d want to know exactly where it’s hitting me and what kind of bra to wear.
@“Youdon’tsay” looks great! Can compare on azazie
https://m.azazie.com/products/azazie-erma-mother-of-the-bride-dress?color=dusty-blue
Yeah, I saw the azazie option, but the top is a little different, and I think I like the JJ’s one better. I’m a little worried about quality, but the reviews are great and I like that the pictures show the dress on a variety of body types.
I also like this one: https://www.jjshouse.com/A-Line-Scoop-Neck-Ankle-Length-Chiffon-Lace-Mother-Of-The-Bride-Dress-With-Cascading-Ruffles-008179223-g179223/?utm_term=179223&utm_size=06
I like the first one better. It’s really nice!
Be careful with JJshouse, lots of talk over the years that they are a scam site. I only know one person who was somewhat happy, and her dress needed lots of altering. Others had a hard time getting any money back. Make sure you LOVE it and don’t order custom because you can’t return it.
We have lots of experience with Azazie- D1 and both nieces got bridesmaids dresses there. Quality very good, we used the try at home option for $10/dress. Prices were excellent, sizing true to size for most.
Oh MOG dress shopping! Yea! I am not sure these are still a thing, but I read that the “rules” are that MOB gets her dress first, and you can’t wear white (of course), or black (unless black-tie I guess). The bride may have a certain color she would like you to wear, or not wear. My DIL said I could wear anything but navy, which is what the bridesmaids wore. My comfort zone is navy or black, so that made things different. For our two weddings (son 2018 and daughter 2020) I probably looked at 100’s of dresses on line before I found something I liked. Not possible now during Covid, but I made an appointment at Nordstrom’s with a personal shopper and she gave me a lot of ideas of what direction to go. For my son’s wedding I ended up getting a dress from BHLDN (Anthropologies wedding section), and for my daughter I got a dress online (on sale) from Halston. Friends have worn gorgeous dresses from Adrianna Papell. Also, Eliza J, Alex Evenings, Komarov, etc… Given the type of dress and color people on this thread are excellent at making suggestions.
@tx5athome Black and navy are my comfort as well. My D told me I could not wear navy, as that’s what her bridesmaids were wearing. There were Zero pictures of me with any of the bridesmaids. And of course, navy was the only color of any of the dresses I liked. D’s MIL found a dress waaayyy before I did, but kindly sent me a picture and assured me that if I wanted that color she would be happy to return hers. Luckily, it was a perfect color for her and a putrid one for me. 
There are so many beautiful dresses…but most looked much better on the hanger than my body. And I agree that there have been such wonderful suggestions on this thread…
Is this dictating of colors that can/can’t be worn by mothers of the bride and groom a new phenomenon? I don’t remember it when I got married. I can’t imagine telling my mom what colors she could wear.
@doschicos
When I got married (30+ years ago) My mom chose a dress that went with the wedding colors. I told my future MIL what the color pallet was for the wedding – I said she could get any dress/color she wanted but she chose a dress that blended in beautifully. I did not insist on anyone wearing or not wearing a color but both moms seemed happy and felt part of the bridal group. My MIL even mentioned to me that she was grateful that I gave her the “heads up” about the bridal party colors because she would not have wanted to stand out/clash.
My D did the same for her future MIL. Turns out both the MIL and I picked out navy dresses (for their postponed big wedding which fingers crossed will happen NEXT Aug. ) but we spoke and agreed that is totally fine. I don’t think we’ll have tons of photos where we are right next to each other and the style of our dresses is very different.
For D’s small wedding this summer I got incredibly lucky. I saw a navy dress with a flowered jacket online that was a very similar style and by the same designer as a dress I own in black that I love (and have worn to occasions in the past) so I ordered it online…it just arrived and fits perfectly. Happy and relieved to have something appropriate to wear to this summer’s small wedding (again fingers crossed that we can make that happen). And as a bonus the dress was on sale!
I’ve been MOG twice now. The first time my DIL asked both her mom and me to wear navy ( I think we were in two pictures together), which worked for me because that or black are my go-to choices. For the now postponed wedding from last March FDIL told me to wear whatever I wanted but I checked with her mom so as not to clash. She chose silver and blue so I went with, you guessed it, navy, again! Apparently my S wants to wear his custom tuxedo so we will be having a very formal backyard wedding in August, though I think the concession will be that shoes are optional! Pretty sure I’ll wear the same thing next March (assuming it fits ) since the only people who will have seen it are immediate family.
Lots of great formalwear sales are out there… to all MOG/MOB who have yet to find that dress… keep shopping! There will be better times. Hugs.
That is great advice for those that have some clue about what’s ahead, but I am not going to even think about buying anything yet. No idea of date, season, venue, level of formality, and probably won’t know anything for awhile. No point putting the cart before the horse!
@tx5athome that’s what I need … brand names. I ended up staying up to 2 a.m. once @dentmom made me question my choice.
The MOB showed me three dresses she was considering. Now that her dd has the dress and has seen the venue, I think she’s reconsidering and will go with something a little fancier. She told me from the venue that she really didn’t see going long, which is fine with me. I have nice legs. lol I sent her the dress I showed y’all and ask her and her dd which color, and they gave me two ideas on that list, but I don’t feel compelled to stick with that if I find something else I like. And, thankfully, I love the mom, and we have a great relationship … well, as great as you can have from 1,200 miles away!
I’m not sure what selection they have in tea length or shorter dresses but Adrianna Papell has a nice selection of dresses. https://www.adriannapapell.com They always seem to offer 15% off a first order and sometimes do even better than that.
I also like JS Collections dresses. They are available at Nordstrom, Macy’s, Dillards, and other stores.
The kids toured the rehearsal dinner venue and love it. My work is done.