We didnt care what MOB or MOG wore. My mother chose a (short) dress that was in our wedding color (was the color of the MOHs dress). My MIL, who was … zaftig, wore a long, loud purple dress with huge flowers. Enough said.
My DiL told me to wear whatever I wanted, but I ended up with two sale dresses (one was actually a ponte sheath; let’s discuss undergarments!!! ) that she and I showed the bridesmaids to choose. Her mother refused to shop so DiL bought a couple dresses that were the same navy as mine, and eventually they got her to choose. We both looked great. Not matching the wedding colors is the current expectation; theirs were dark dark red and gray, so DH got a new navy suit (again, Kohls) and wore a red/navy tie. I got sparkly red bows to clip on my black heels and that was the best part. I have noticed that guests often wear something to match, as massive group photos become popular. So the parents stick out in the group in a nice way.
I do not do heels much, and walking past our pastor from the altar, he whispers “you can take them off and I won’t tell” . Photographer took a snapshot and everyone thinks he was giving me profound insights…
Haven’t been on CC in about 100 years but have to join this thread with DD’s recent engagement. @“Youdon’tsay” I tried on dresses at Dillard’s & Macy’s a couple of weeks ago. Brands that I’ve liked & dresses I’ve pinned are from Adrienne Pappell, R&M Richards, JS Collection, Jessica Howard, Tahari, Kay Unger, Alex Evenings, Ignite Evenings, Komarov, Rickie Freeman.
Questions after initial dress shopping: why is there so much BLING?! Why isn’t tie dye a MOB trend? How strong do Spanx get?
Spanx get very strong, but really strong undergarments can get uncomfortable a few hours in!
Congratulations on the engagement!
@BunsenBurner what is the name of the shapewear you suggested, that others bought and raved about?
I use spanx for smoothing out only. I get one size large than my usual size and it’s good. Spanx isn’t really designed to make you a couple of sizes smaller (unfortunately).
Welcome back @RobD and congrats!
I’ve talked about this before but my god daughter was to have a ceremony/reception Mother’s Day weekend. They ended up still marrying with parents only and have a ceremony/reception planned for August 22.
It sounds like from her social media comments that all of this is still planned. It was suppose to be a pretty big wedding/reception. I’ll be honest, at this point in the game, I am not comfortable going to any event with that many people inside. NO WAY will my H go. I feel awful about this because we are her godparents!
I keep waiting to hear if there are more details. At the very least MY thought is they need to re-reach out to all guests who RSVP’d months ago to re-RSVP - we can’t be the only ones who would be uncomfortable with this situation. Has anyone done that - rereached out to guests???
@thumper1 - the brand is Simone Perelle. There is a shaper dress, and there are boyshorts and slip skits:
https://www.amazon.com/Simone-Perele-Womens-Model-Shaper/dp/B00FOIKLAW
https://www.nordstrom.com/s/simone-perele-top-model-high-waist-shaper/4490321
I recommend getting your shapewear from a place that offers easy exchanges or returns, because it is so personal (especially when it comes to comfort).
@abasket why don’t you reach out to the brides mother or father. We had planned to do so for our Colorado wedding also innAugust, but that was postponed two years the day before I was going to make that call.
I was going to explain that while we RSVPd yes, we were having to reconsider for a variety of reasons. There was also the potential that CO was going to be eventually added to our state quarantine list. I was going to just say no now…so they wouldn’t incur our per person cost.
As it happens, the MOB called me yesterday afternoon. Apparently they had received a number of calls and emails expressing concern over this event, and saying that the guest likely would not attend now. These calls were part of the reason for the postponement.
So…reach out to them. Let them know your concerns. It might actually help them to know.
Yeah, I could reach out to them. Her parents can be a little overwhelming to deal/speak with. I’m going to recheck her wedding page and see if there are any updates. And if I don’t hear anything in a week or so (that would be a little more than a month out) I’ll reach out to them.
It just seems to be that this would be something they would plan to do? The rescheduling of the wedding was only announced on Facebook or the like, nothing “official”. I think it’s odd.
My daughters wedding was scheduled for 3/28. Early March was crazy and things seemed to change every day. We got lots of calls, emails, etc… before we cancelled. Which we totally understood and expected. The wedding websites have features where the bride and groom can post updates or email all of their guests at once.
@RobD Funny you mention tie dye. I was married 40 years ago this month, and my mother wore a yellow and white tie dye dress! Not even the wedding colors; the bridesmaids wore a pink/lavender color and the groomsmen in brown.
Oh, and while I was the one getting married, at the ripe age of 23, this was my mother’s wedding; everything was what she wanted. It really didn’t matter to me, as I was clueless and somewhat a tomboy, so flowers and such were of no interested to me; my have I grown! The only thing I insisted on was for the wedding invitation to be printed with the paper sideways and in brown, not black ink. I though my mother was going to have a heart attack with my request, but she gave in.
We pulled the plug on D’s wedding early enough that we had time to mail out postponement notices to everyone who got a Save the Date card. They also updated their website for the new date.
Both D and S were notified by text of a friend’s wedding postponement and I got an email about a friend’s child’s postponement.
H and I said no to a wedding that we felt uncomfortable attending – we felt badly but our friend’s understood. I go out to my elderly parents regularly and our D’s micro-wedding (9 guests including D and FSIL) is only a couple of weeks after theirs.
It is a very frustrating time for brides, grooms, and their parents (not to mention guests). Sending love and good thoughts that everyone can make the best of this difficult situation.
Congrats, @RobD !!
Friend’s D & SIL are to be in a wedding TODAY. Friday, the bride’s BIL tested positive --and he had been living with wife and bride’s parents. Family got rush tested, all negative and they are going ahead with wedding.
Outdoor ceremony, reception and dinner all following guidelines. Guests asked to wear masks during ceremony and reception; sanitizers and masks will be available. And then they are moving indoors for dancing!?!?! 110 people are expected.
Friend’s D & SIL very torn, but as they are in the wedding party, relented.
My friend is sad as they will now not be seeing the D & SIL for awhile as her H is high risk…
^^^ OMG.
@gosmom, seriously! I think that takes the cake
If they knowingly go ahead with that large a wedding, with what is being described, and didnt inform other guests, that is not good. They may end up as yet another event that makes the news if there is an outbreak. I personally would not plan or attend an event of that size right now, but that is just me. I’m no lawyer, but when I hear things like this, I’ve even started to wonder what lawsuits could start coming out related to not disclosing possible exposure. Hope all goes well!
I am not sure whether guests were informed prior or not. A month ago, the wedding website was all about the precautions that were being taken by them and the venue (indoor dance in a 2400 sf area), and in our county, restrictions are strict. And B&G were very open and understanding “don’t come if you are not comfortable …”.
I’ll be anxious to get the scoop on how it went…and if there were that many attending and if they all stayed to dance.
I feel for my Friend. She’s pretty close with D & SIL and I know they are bummed about not being able to see them for awhile…
@gosmom i agree this story takes the cake. It is beyond irresponsible to have a wedding knowing that someone tested positive who has been with family members.
All the weddings we have been invited to in 2020 have been cancelled (although it did take a while for the CO one to get there). And this is without anyone who has been close to guests or the wedding families testing positive.
What is the matter with these people?
Our venue (a restaurant with an outside patio ( for events) had told us in March that they would refund our deposit ($750) for my Daughter’s 3/28 wedding. We finally received it today. They just reopened for outdoor dining this weekend.