<p>Shrink, are D3 sports out of the picture?</p>
<p>Hard to say. Not really applying with sports as a priority, and he has only applied to two D3 schools. He is supposed to be sending those coaches highlight videos, but he only has school videos right now. Club season resumes in a few weeks, and a major tournament in November. He is considering one NAIA, but since they didn’t make an offer yet, I am not a big fan. His top choices are D I and D 2, even though he knows that likely means club or intramural. We aren’t looking for money.</p>
<p>My son is done with out of school testing and waiting to hear back from the Oct. 9th SAT. He’s submitted 6 or 7 applications but the school has only sent out 3 transcript packets. It’s a little frustrating for me to be pushing son to do the essay’s and then realize that he could have polished them for another week while guidance does whatever they do.</p>
<p>Good luck to your daughter EmmyBet and for any other ACT test takers!</p>
<p>Yes the 3.3 - 3.6 group seems to be applying to much reachier schools then son is looking at. He is sort of in that camp but I feel much more comfortable with him applying to mostly match and safety schools.</p>
<p>“But has yours written her essays? If so, can I have her?”</p>
<p>yes, she is done…but remember, this is the kid that LOVES writing essays (and everything else)…it’s her testing that keeps her in this thread…(and usually just her finals testing in fact)…if there were no such thing as cumulative annual finals, she would actually be in the other thread by a long shot… </p>
<p>hoping that the semester system (where midterms and finals fall within six months) is better for the way she learns…we’ll see…</p>
<p>so far D’s first BF has not been anywhere near the distraction to her that I had envisioned. She is clearly not “twitterpated” over him…more like a friend who she hold hands with! (she has assured me that they have barely even kissed…apparently he is very shy!)</p>
<p>Oh, maybe it was hollie’s D who had the BF I was thinking of … it’s so hard to keep these triplets straight! </p>
<p>My D loves writing and will do great WHEN SHE STARTS. I think right now she’s a little gunshy because it’s so important and there are so many choices. I’ll just have to nail her to a chair one of these days. Social stuff is WAY more fun.</p>
<p>But she’s come through on 1) keeping up with grades even with 2 plays and 2) prepping for ACT without nagging. Her room’s a mess (so what’s new) but she’s also been very loving and great company.</p>
<p>She didn’t write the e-mails to colleges I suggested (a couple of reps were in town and sent her cards; she couldn’t go to the meetings, but I said an e-mail thanking them for the invite and explaining why she didn’t go would win her points - I’ve also said it’s never too late). I think anything that makes college very REAL is just a bit scary, but we’ll break through that this week. One thing at a time.</p>
<p>Her BF (officially her 3rd) is just darling and they’re having a ball. She’s had a super-needy one and a standoff-ish one in the past, and this one is just right. They have a good balance of both being busy with their own things and being busy with things that they share. I’m taking them to a play Sunday as a post-ACT treat, and all 3 of us are so excited.</p>
<p>emmy: no, you were right the first time…
although I didn’t realize that hollie’s d was in the mix as well…too funny…!!</p>
<p>rodney and emmy-definitely triplets separated at birth!</p>
<p>D left for ACT saying she wasn’t confident she was going to do better this time … she did prep, which will count for a lot, I’m sure, but of course there’s always more prepping that could have been done. She opted not to go to the Haunted Barn last night, didn’t want a disturbed sleep, and I made her come home 1/2 hour earlier than she wanted from a friend’s house. She got up and checked a few math formulas, and was worried. But she’s generally a pessimistic type -she says she’d rather be pleasantly surprised than be disappointed, and she knows what disappointed feels like, having gone down a point in her composite from the first ACT to the second. </p>
<p>She also said, “I’ll take it again if this one doesn’t work out.” I said, “Let’s just get through today - you’ll be fine.” I didn’t say what I was thinking: “OH NO YOU WON’T!” Not only will I not let her put herself through it again, but there is NO reason for her to keep taking it. She has a 27 (with a 32 in Reading) and a 26 (wah) and those are FINE. A smidge higher on this one would be gratifying, and there’s no reason why it won’t go up a little, especially because she DID prep. But that 27will make every school on her list plenty happy - I wish she knew that.</p>
<p>But I didn’t say it - we’ll have that discussion if/when the time comes. H didn’t even want her taking this one, but I left it up to her. I think it was a matter of pride, not wanting to go out with a whimper. And in a few minutes it will be all over!</p>
<p>That rolling/priority app acceptance can’t come too soon around here. I know she’s really worried she’s not acceptable.</p>
<p>But I think, hope, that the rest of the weekend she can enjoy herself … maybe jot a few essay ideas down? … I can always hope …</p>
<p>Someday these triplets (and all of their other virtual multiple birth siblings) could meet each other! That must be fun. Although I guess it’s also weird for the kids who never were on CC themselves. Why not, though? Some of them even have overlapping college lists.</p>
<p>Emmy, best of luck. I think the kids would be embarassed by the CC connection–but would wind up close friends</p>
<p>D came back from ACT feeling OK - she was pleased with her essay, feels she’s got the hang of what they want (creativity is NOT rewarded in this game). She was disappointed because she didn’t manage her time well on two sections and had to rush, guess, and fill in the dots to complete them (she knows that ACT doesn’t penalize for wrong answers so ALWAYS fill in everything). </p>
<p>We’ll be curious for a couple of weeks until she gets her score, but the most important thing is that it’s OVER. </p>
<p>Funny how time just keeps on passing … this weekend was such a landmark for us, the 2 plays over, the ACT over. Today we’ll finalize some app paperwork and make a plan to get the essays done this week. Really not so hard once she starts (how many times have I said that?). </p>
<p>The next landmark will be getting past the first week of November. Pretty much all apps will be in, and she should hear soon from her rolling/priority school. Not quite then just a waiting game for us; 4 more schools have to give us the go-ahead to schedule auditions, but for now that won’t be in our hands. </p>
<p>One thing that’s been nice to see with her is that she’s continuing to blossom where school is concerned. She used to be the type who’s bored in easy classes and intimidated in harder classes. Finding a mature comfort zone has been a long process. This year she’s finally more confident in the harder classes and also making sure she nails the easier stuff (she has Bs in earlier years in the dumbest classes - like Health - because she couldn’t quell her rebellious side about the “stupid stuff”). </p>
<p>This maturation process is impossible to predict, and I want to say to all of the younger 3.X parents that it can get better. I imagine often it’s sometime between later HS and college when things click. A lot of it is feeling comfortable in their own skin; another major piece is feeling comfortable in their environment. For some lucky reason my D has finally become friends with the smart, quirky kids I always thought she should hang around with, and I know that’s the kind of people she’s looking for in college. Whatever the “type,” eventually they do find a place where hard work and accomplishment - however defined - becomes important and feels right. For the 3.Xers it just takes a while, for them, and for us.</p>
<p>[A</a> Father’s Acceptance: His Son Won’t Follow His Ivy Footsteps - NYTimes.com](<a href=“A Father's Acceptance: His Son Won't Follow His Ivy Footsteps - The New York Times”>A Father's Acceptance: His Son Won't Follow His Ivy Footsteps - The New York Times)</p>
<p>I believe many of us would find this helpful</p>
<p>And after posting it, I saw that Rodney had started a thread about it, whcih has featured some very hot debate</p>
<p>@EmmyBet - speaking of BF/GF, my senior son has started dating a junior girl. I’ve lamented on CC elsewhere about how ‘hanging out’ is paramount to him his senior year. He wants to savor everything and all of his friendships before they all separate. Now he wants to hang out with GF in all his spare time. Turns out she’s actually more busy than him sports and academic-wise. Her sports are fall and winter (his is spring) and she’s passing him in two classes at school (she’s in AP and he’s in regular). IMO, it’s kinda a great arrangement - she can’t hang out as much as they’d like because of study time and homework. Of course he doesn’t feel that way, but DH and I secretly high-five when she’s busy on school nights. Or maybe she’s inspiring him. He came home today and said he got As on both a Physics lab and a Calculus test today, and As in those classes are really hard to come by.</p>
<p>I am having a hard time sitting on my hands and biting my tongue. (How’s that for a visual??) Son has deadlines of Nov 5 and Nov 10 for two EA schools. He’s started both applications, he’s sent in the paperwork necessary for Guidance to send out the transcripts and Rec letters, and we’ve authorized CB to release the SAT scores. But he hasn’t plugged in his essays! I know that it’s better to do a good essay then just send them in, but I would just like the darn apps submitted! </p>
<p>To top it off, I see that two of the schools take the common app, but he sent the paperwork to guidance as if they were not common app and I’m wondering if it makes a difference. That is, with the common app isn’t everything sent on-line, but if it’s done on-line throught the schools personal application, the GC stuff would be sent snail mail? He started the original apps on-line through the schools websites because they sent him special streamlined special apps that sounded easier. Now though when we looked at the common app supplements, THAT looks easier! One of the schools sent an e-mail when he started their app (but didn’t finish and there wasn’t a SAVE button) giving him a user code so he could finish. But if he hasn’t hit submit do you think he can drop that one and just use the common app??</p>
<p>I guess under those circumstances I’d give them a call, kathie. I’m sure it will all work out! I certainly feel your pain, though! I’m just waiting for whatever’s going to go screwy with our stuff to happen.</p>
<p>D did a lot of busywork on apps last night, started her last 2 non-CA apps, so we know everything we’re dealing with. Got the CA teacher rec stuff in line, too. </p>
<p>Now it’s essays. She says sure, she can get this “little” list of them done in a week-10 days. We decided to go RD on the one with the 11/1 EA deadline, because its supplement is the hardest, and all the rest are 12/1 officially; we’re just in “ASAP” mode right now. Luckily the 2 non-CA apps have essays just like the CA (the short EC one and the “big” one). Once she gets those essays written, she’s got most of her schools complete. </p>
<p>Definitely we’re having BF time as a big chunk of her schedule - but he is a busy, involved kid, and he cares about schoolwork (and so do his parents!). I’m guessing all those hours sitting in the car going to and from Minn this week might be her most productive time to work on essays … fewer distractions … </p>
<p>Another nice piece of news is that she wrote a killer paper for English class so now has the “submit an example of your work” she needs for a couple of apps.</p>
<p>Kathie- Although most of S’s take the common app and you can submit everything on-line, at S’s school the teacher recs are still mailed. S got several of the snap/priority/free apps. His GC said they prefer using the common app when possible, it is just easier to keep track of everything. In most cases the snap apps were not really that much easier. S had one school that would only accept one teacher rec, if you sent two they would not read them and it had to be mailed with the transcript or it was discarded. I suppose it makes it easier to get all the school stuff in one envelope, but I will bet that many students over look that requirement or the teacher forgets and the rec is sent in separately. Details, details…</p>
<p>Going through S’s common app applications and the suppliments last night and I was surprised at some of the schools that really only use the suppliment to determine legacy and do not require another essay.</p>
<p>Yes, that was a great feeling for us, too! Every time we open a supplement that just gives you a couple of new boxes to check, we cheer!</p>
<p>Greetings all,</p>
<p>I realize I’m late to the party, but hoped it might not be too late to find some friendly advice:</p>
<p>My D’s current GPA 2.8UW/3.5W and SAT score M/V < 1000 limit her options. Worse, however, are the mixed messages I get. I’ve read many, but not all, of the posts here, and it appears that the kids of most posters are at least SOMEWHAT self-motivated. </p>
<p>My D swings from being petulant, irritable & demanding she be allowed to “do things herself” – to showing absolutely no interest in doing anything at all about college applications. When I try her suggested “hands-off” approach, I’ve noticed that she does NOT step up to the plate. </p>
<p>I started a “professional” Yahoo! account for her to send/receive college correspondence. She checks this email only sporadically, and when she does, routinely mass-deletes college emails without opening them – even from schools to which she’s actually applied. She resists change and has a tantrum if a college I’ve initially recommended, I suggest after additional research might not be a good fit. She never wants to discuss “changing the list.”</p>
<p>At this point, we’ve canceled every scheduled campus visit this fall for one reason or another. She has packed her weekly schedule with work/play practice/forensics/Other activities, and has suddenly discovered rabid school spirit, requiring her to spend every afternoon at school for one reason or another. She wants to drop an academic class next semester, to work as a social studies aide.</p>
<p>I’d encouraged her to complete a (customizable) college essay over the summer which allowed me to twist her arm into applying to 3 schools early on. Of those three, she’s been accepted to 2 and is awaiting a decision from the 3rd – but they’re not the schools she identified as her “top choices.” THOSE (top choices) are among the remaining 5 for which she’s dragging her feet on completing the application process. She’s just missed the 11/1 Early Action deadline on several (by not following up w/her GC to get xcripts).</p>
<p>I don’t understand her mixed signals. It almost seems as if she doesn’t WANT to go to college. I certainly don’t want to expend any more emotion, money, or time on a search for the “perfect fit” for her. Indeed, I CAN’T really do so without her involvement!</p>
<p>Here’s the kicker – we’re at a point where we can no longer tolerate each other. While she’s a well-behaved ANGEL to others, at home, she’s mouthy, attitudinal, and insists she’s “practically 18” (while ignoring chores, forgetting homework, and having a room worthy of its own pig sty reality show). Having her stay home to attend a community college or work next year is NOT AN OPTION (I’d surely kill her!) – and she’s indicated she’s not interested in those alternatives either.</p>
<p>Am I being unrealistic about her college viability? Anyone else have this issue? “The List” (in its current iteration) follows:</p>
<p>Fordham
U Dayton
Ohio U
James Madison
Appalachian State
Salisbury U
Towson U
Iowa State
U Northern Iowa</p>
<p>SuperMom, I feel your pain…went through similar balking tendencies esp with test prep this summer (one time he circled random answers on practice test so I’d think he’d finished it…ugly blowup when I caught him, luckily before his tutor saw it). Dealt with him for college apps to be done because he wanted to play hockey on night school had an application session…had to get it done by himself or he couldn’t go (license suspended so we have the car power for now). </p>
<p>He’s happy with the 6 he applied to, said even if only gets in 1, will go there and be happy there. I wanted him to apply to another Catholic university because he seemed so impressed with UDayton when we visited and then he was pleasantly surprised to find out it was Catholic. I suggested another common app school within his distance requirements, SLU…heels dug in…picked up guidance form while volunteering yesterday, filled it out for him…he had to turn it in and did, and did the common app button pressing to add another school while in the guidance office…not visiting there unless admitted and not until hockey season is over in March.</p>
<p>Got a big envelope from one of the rolling admissions schools that has had his info for a few weeks now…so excited! met him at school so he could open…just another “we’ve seen your info and here’s another brochure to tell you how great we are”…felt so bad getting hopes up for it. Why do they keep sending promo material after you’ve already applied, esp when letter tells you to visit (we have) and apply (we have)! ARRGH!</p>