<p>Ironically, I graduated from UF in the very program he desires and have never worked a day of my life in Broadcast Journalism, in fact, I just got done being unemployed for 2 years. I am now a financial aid planner for a for-profit university, if anyone needs help filling out the fafsa, just let me know.</p>
<p>4gators - I feel for you. It is painful to struggle with your kids at a time like this.</p>
<p>I would advise you to stop looking back, and to allow “natural consequences” to happen to your S. It’s time for him to take charge of his life, for better or for worse. If you keep talking hypothetically, it only creates arguments and gets personal between you and him.</p>
<p>I would allow him to apply to a reasonable list of schools, including some reaches you fear he won’t get into. Let the schools tell him whether they’ll accept him, not you. If you push the “you won’t get in” message, and he doesn’t, then he’ll just feel worse about himself and about your feelings about him. If by some chance he does get in, then you just look like someone who didn’t have faith in him.</p>
<p>My motto has always been that I don’t want to take credit for my kids’ success nor blame for their failures. I have only very specific jobs in my D’s process: plan travel, pay fees, and order scores. I don’t tell her what her chances are, except to encourage her to make thoughtful choices, which includes taking reasonable risks. I have vowed not to say “I told you so” about anything in this process. She’ll feel bad enough if she gets rejected.</p>
<p>If your S had a totally ridiculous list and you really feared he wouldn’t get into college at all, that would be different. But he has gotten in. I’m not seeing that you’re refusing to let him go there, so why not celebrate and then quietly cross your fingers about the rest of the process?</p>
<p>good morning all…especially emmybet and holliesue…haven’t had time to PM you guys…</p>
<p>daughter #2 was accepted to Elon last night (ED)…we are beyond excited; couldn’t have survived this process without all of you on CC…</p>
<p>this is sooo much sweeter than my older daughter; there is something about seeing your “underdog” child achieve what they set out to do; and don’t be fooled; it was in doubt for quite awhile…</p>
<p>the best advice I could possibly give everyone on CC is don’t believe everything you see, read, hear etc…do your research and make sure you understand competitive advantage of certain aspects of your child’s application…Elon was certainly not a safety (or even a strong match) for my daughter based on her GPA; there were other strengths that she brought to the table…</p>
<p>for many schools, it is not all black and white…</p>
<p>good luck to all still waiting…</p>
<p>Yay, hurray, and all the best to rodney’s D! </p>
<p>What beautiful advice - definitely this shows that aiming high and taking risks can pay off. And if they don’t, there are always other answers. Definitely none of this is black and white.</p>
<p>Best wishes to you, rodney. I’ve enjoyed taking this journey with you. My “triplet” is hanging behind yours and holliesue’s a little, in terms of timing, but she’ll catch up eventually. I couldn’t be happier for you!</p>
<p>Wow - Big congrats Rodney!! Elon is such a nice College! It’s the only one that both my niece (hi storytime!) and my son applied to. They will hear on December 20 about their EA decisions. My daughter was accepted to Elon (with a bit of merit) 8 years ago and it was her number 2 choice by a slim margin. </p>
<p>All of you parents that are DONE can really breathe easier this Christmas and can start shopping for the dorm room!</p>
<p>This thread brings me great holiday cheer with I am sure more to come!</p>
<p>Congrats to your D!</p>
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<p>Wow ain’t that the truth. I have to agree that without cc S would not have applied to all the schools he did. But, based on what I learned here we found schools that would not only accept him, but would give him merit. It took work on our part though to get to this point. S has a list of 12 schools, anyone of which he claims he will be very happy to attend. And he already has choices this early in the game, something he would not have if we listened to his GC.</p>
<p>Congratulations to your daughter, Rodney! What a great way to start the holiday season!</p>
<p>Rodney, CONGRATULATIONS TO YOU AND YOUR FAMILY!!!</p>
<p>UVaHoo, Congratulations to your family too! I read about the first acceptance to Bama!</p>
<p>Normally I don’t correct anyone on CC, northeastmom, but given the rivalry between the two schools, I have to in this case. Son’s acceptance was Auburn. War Eagle instead of Roll Tide! :oD</p>
<p>Woops, my apologies! It must be too early in the morning for me!</p>
<p>Congrats to UvaHoo’s & Rodney’s families! Hooray!
Rodney, you now have something in common with Lafalum84,(Elon ED’s for DDs!) Try saying that ten times real fast!</p>
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<p>Note to self, read carefully! Congratulations on Auburn, UVaHoo!</p>
<p>Rodney- mazel tov!!! So happy for you and your daughter!!!</p>
<p>I know there will be ups and downs this year for all of us, but isn’t it lovely how parents who a year or two ago were saying “I don’t know if s/he can get into any college, let alone the one s/he wants!” are now telling us about all of these wonderful acceptances?</p>
<p>I am extremely confident that the good will far outweigh the bad this year - plus, no matter what the results are, it’s so much easier to be happy and confident when you understand what you are doing and have support and good company.</p>
<p>I think Rodney’s D’s acceptance reflects the karma due her being so generous with helpful advice to so many people and being willing to take a chance that applying ED, while helping the child’s chances, may result in less aid at some schools. May all the helpful folks on this thread receive equally good news!</p>
<p>NYsaavy–did the thrown beer bottle injure, or nearly injure someone? I imagine if your son had had been injured by a beer bottle thrown out a window you would want witnesses to identify the bottle thrower, rather than obstruct justice.</p>
<p>First EA decision came in - a deferral. Ughh. Now we must wait until March for that school. Hope better news comes from somewhere else.</p>
<p>Hang in there! Better times ahead!</p>