<p>One advantage of a CC in these cases is that you can keep a closer eye on your student and monitor their progress in courses.</p>
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Missypie, that’s crazy! You must be so frustrated :(</p>
<p>I don’t know how the FERPA thing works with this, but many schools are requiring that 100 and 200 level courses put mid-semester grades online. I guess for privacy reasons, it is available to the students, and can be available to the parents if the student allows.</p>
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<p>Not directed at anyone in particular, but I think many people believe they cannot function in the morning simply because they don’t like to, or have not had any compelling reason to do so, given the flexibility college often offers. While CERTAINLY not all jobs begin early in the morning, MANY, many jobs do. I suspect that most people just learn to adjust. Or as swimscatsmom said, when you have to, you just “get on with it.”</p>
<p>My career (nursing) offers great flexibility for all lifestyles (not in college, though-most programs do clinicals during the 7am-3pm shift). I know nurses who absolutely love the night shift, while I got light headed and nauseated every morning at 2:00 am. I couldn’t wait to get enough seniority in my unit to move to the 7 am-7 pm shift.</p>
<p>College life is not the same as the workplace though it can be. Engineering students may have to work a lot of late hours on homeworks and labs and this may make it hard to get up early in the morning. In the work world, you go home at 5:00 PM (or 6, 7, 8, 9 at some places) and get enough sleep so that you can get to work on time.</p>
<p>My workplace has most coming in between 9:00 and 10:00 AM. Some people work on the other side of the world, in other states, etc. and they work out of their homes. We can all work from home or wherever there is a broadband connection.</p>
<p>I’m waiting on pins and needles. My son’s appeal to his school is today. They will let him know by email but I don’t know when. I know it is out of his control and we just have to wait but it is hard. He seems very upset by all of this. In HS when he would let work slide it didn’t really affect him. He knows now (a little late but…)that he may have to stay home next semester and attend CC. He does not want this and frankly neither do I. I’ll post when I know something.</p>
<p>I’m surprised that there are colleges that allow you to retake classes and have it substituted for your previous grade. My school (University of Texas at Austin and now University of Houston) do not allow you to retake classes to replace a grade.</p>
<p>The best thing for you to do is to talk to your son and ask him what he did wrong. If he is totally clueless (as in he doesn’t know), contact his professors and see what they say. If this fails, when school opens talk to an admissions officer or support staff.</p>
<p>Usually, in his situation he would be put on academic probation but I don’t know his school’s rules on situations like these.</p>
<p>Good Luck!</p>
<p>Just remember, it is what it is. And my guess is that if he stays home and goes to CC, he will not be the only one of his HS classmates who has come home. (My D has reported that two of last year’s senior drill team members are already home - one missed her BF too much and one “drank herself home.”)</p>
<p>I watched Toy Story 3 a couple of nights ago. It was so wild that Andy’s mom had him totally empty his room before he left for college. I thought, “hey, he’s a boy. There’s a pretty decent chance he’ll be back home.”</p>
<p>"One advantage of a CC in these cases is that you can keep a closer eye on your student and monitor their progress in courses. "</p>
<p>-If this needs to be done, then person is not ready for ANY college. This is not even part of HS, let alone very expensive privilige of having college education. But everybody is free to deal with responsibilities of course load for your student on top of responsiblity of paying for it, if that is what you enjoy doing.</p>
<p>Well, I firmly believe that my children (one out of college and grad school by now) were more than ready for college, even when they needed input from parents WRT course load, and in understanding unwritten expectations in any program. </p>
<p>In fact, the first thing I have always done (as recently as this past week) has been to go over the basics with them, when results have been disappointing. Which classes were they taking, did they seem to have “average” preparation for the class, did they have adequate times in their schedules to put extra hours into labs, go to office hours, meet in study groups with classmates to work on problem sets, and so forth…</p>
<p>These are all problems that can be fixed, but it might require a period of mentoring and coaching to fix these. No sense at all, at least in this neck of the woods, in throwing out the baby with the bathwater.</p>
<p>Stacey - He clearly blew off his classes and demonstrated he wasn’t ready for college. I would pull any funding for college and not wait to hear an explanation because it doesn’t matter. Once the funding is pulled and he is forced to come home, I would then explore any substance abuse, mental health, or physical problems.</p>
<p>He was denied his appeal to go back to school. He will have an opportunity to appeal in person next week. GTalum, his problems were simply not doing his work. He spent too much time playing games. He is a rare drinker, no substance abuse and has no mental health problems. He is obviously immature. He goofed around in HS but this didn’t really affect him. Now it did. He is devestated. My DH said if they don’t accept him next week he must join the military. Like that will help. Now I’m arguing with him too.</p>
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I sure hope that was an empty attempt at a threat. The military doesn’t need anyone to join who doesn’t want to be there. I say ‘attempt’ because your H can’t force him to join.</p>
<p>I’m sorry to hear about his appeal Stacey. Perhaps your H can be convinced that getting a job and possibly taking night classes can also teach valuable lessons. I admit, I didn’t read the whole thread. Does your son have a video game addiction? He may need to go cold turkey from the games.</p>
<p>Absolutely addicted to games. He has said he will pull all games from his computer and his other games. My suggestion is to go to CC for a semester, work and try to go back in the fall. Yes it will be hard to explain to friends and family but it’s a plan and if he works hard he can go back.</p>
<p>I’m so sorry. I agree with the cc/work scenario. Cognitive behavioural therapy might help.</p>
<p>My son was allowed to return to his school the second semester…without video games or even a TV in his room. The second semester was even a worse fiasco than the first. Perhaps CBT can help break the video game addiction.</p>
<p>All of the members of our family tried out various versions of the “story.” One was that he was going to try to get his harder core classes out of the way at cc. Or get his foreign language requirement out of the way at cc. I guess the version I’ve settled on is that he wanted to change majors and now doesn’t know what he wants to do, so he’s saving me $$$ by going to cc until he decides. You reallyu don’t owe anyone an explanation. I always want, however, to correct any impression that my son partied too hard, because that’s incorrect.</p>
<p>I always try to look at the glass of water half full. What was his major? Maybe exploring his passion for video games is a better track. Full Sail (located in Florida) has an online distant learning program. Many local cc’s have “video game design” etc. Maybe a revisit to studying his passion might prove to be successful.</p>
<p>My son could play video games all day every day but he doesn’t have anywhere near the engineering-type brain to design video games.</p>
<p>I think the attraction to video games (at least to my son and others on the austism spectrum) is that it’s a world they can control. The real world is chaotic and unpredictable. In video games they are in charge of what happens.</p>
<p>I would never send my child back to ANY school after .5 GPA. He knew exactly what he was dong. There are tons of tests and assgnments that he has failed one after another and again. I am not sure I understand why end result was shocking and devastating. It has involved so many little failures over long period of few months, they should have prepared person for waht is coming. Desperation at the end seems to me not very sincere. Passing grade cannot magically appear after he has failed every single little test/assignemnt. I am not for military either, it can break person like this. He needs to find the most boring and dirty job to appreciate the opportunity that he was given.<br>
But I am not a family member, just an outsider who do not believe in video game addiction, it is lack of discipline and sign of immaturity allowing to waste so much of family resources.</p>