@Publisher I already studied abroad in Madrid Spain my spring semester and am currently in the process of writing a senior project so transferring is definitely not an option since I don’t want to repeat a year of school.
@Lindagaf I’m sorry if I sound defensive but I did indeed try other avenues of meeting people. I became a Spanish tutor, joined this literary magazine, volunteer at a legal center in the city, tried reaching out to people in my dorm and still NADA. For me I really tried getting out of my comfort zone and still didn’t have any luck.
@gardenstategal For law school I’m definitely choosing larger schools in urban areas with more diversity because the homogenous boondocks is not my cup of tea at all. Studying abroad in Madrid definitely helped me realize I’m a city girl.
@Empireapple The only good thing that has come out of this experience is that I know what kind of people I don’t click with and what kind of environments I don’t fit in. I’m hoping to move to the city after graduation and go to law school there or in another’s urban area.
Visiting for a semester is not the same as transferring to a different school.
Realizing both where you don’t want to be as well as where you might be happy are important steps. It would have been great if you hadn’t made that discovery through misery, but be grateful that you got SOMETHING out of your unhappiness.
Just the fact that you are going to graduate means you are NOT a failure.
Take a more positive attitude and you’ll feel better about life. You will also become a person that others will want to get to know.
I am so sorry to hear what you have been going through!! I think you should try to explore either taking a gap year OR try looking for a job in a field you ENJOY!! It is KNOWN that working in a field you enjoy is the best way to work, as you are doing something you actually LIKE!!! GOOD LUCK!
Thank you all for the comments. It is difficult to talk about something so personal. I still feel defeated because even after trying volunteering, tutoring, joining clubs, etc I still didn’t make any friends.
@Lindagaf I did try really hard to take the advice given. I became a Spanish tutor, joined more clubs, tried volunteering and NADA. I’m sorry to sound defensive but I’m a little insulted that it seems like I do not try when I have tried really hard to get out of my comfort zone and keep having bad luck.
Hang in there! Just keep swimming! Stay positive (I know it can be hard) and great things are ahead.
One ore thought…if you are a dog person maybe at some point in your future (if you have time, space, and money) you could get a dog. Dogs are amazing companions and they are also a wonderful bridge to meeting people.
@paoluchsinger It sounds like you have done a good job putting yourself out there and like others have said the school was just a poor fit. I applaud you for having the tenacity to gut through this and be this close to graduation.
Take a movie critique class (usually in the English section) and /or join a book review club. These seem to be things you enjoy.
Your almost out of there. Better things will happen in “real life” not in school. FYI - lots of people have pseudo friendships or acquaintances in college. Not real friendships. Your situation is not as unusual as you might think. The schools been a bad fit, no question.