a friend problem....

<p>This is long, so be prepared!</p>

<p>Alright, so, there's this girl, and her and I have been best friends since 6th, grade, and she's been acting, frankly, like a huge ***** lately. Last night, me and her were talking, and the something came up, and it had reminded me of something she had been joking about regarding me, and it had reminded me of a rumour from last year (which was about me, whilst me and her were in the midst of a huge fight). The joke was pretty funny at first, I admit it, but after a couple days, it started to get tedious and annoying, so I told her, "Hey, stop talking about that thing, it's getting really old now, and you know after last year, stuff like that kinda ****es me off ", and she promptly hung up, and didn't answer my texts for about an hour.</p>

<p>I texted her, "Hey, I didn't mean to offend you, etc., etc.,", and she said, "OMG I knew this would happen, why are you such an elitist/snobby/rude/other adjective?". I can honestly say I have no clue what she was talking about. I racked my brains trying to figure out if I had done anything along those lines, and one thing came up, and it was something really dumb, like I went to the movies with someone I hadn't seen in a while (like 4-5 months) instead of hanging out with her and canceled the morning of it, and that was a while ago. She was like, "If you can't forget about last year, how can anyone else? I told you, we should be acquaintances (from last year), and stop calling me your best friend, since last year killed it."</p>

<p>Needless to say, she's called me her best friend like every day, done "best friend" stuff, etc. I apologized for offending her or whatever I did, and she was like "yeah, sure, you're only apologizing since you don't want to lose your other friends" and some other bull*****. This morning, she comes up to me and is like "Hey, are you mad?" acting like nothing happened. I was flabbergasted that she pretended there was nothing wrong, and didn't sit with her at lunch, but she had other people to sit with, so there shouldn't have been an issue. Now she texts me, "Oh, i figured you dont want me to feel better, thanks a lot", after I mistakenly sent a text her that was meant for a friend since he had gone home sick.</p>

<p>What is her deal? Should I forget about her, and move on or what? She pulls stunts like this like every 9 months or something, but later comes back saying she was just PMSing or whatever, and I'm sick of it. What should I do?</p>

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What is her deal? Should I forget about her, and move on or what?

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Eh, I don't know all the details but I'll try to help. One thing about high school that I never really liked was how people felt obligated to keep the friends they had just to be nice. Some were too nice to simply say they didn't want to be friends, or they put in a lot more than what they got out of the friendship. They were usually the ones others took advantage of, which sounds like what your friend is doing. You don't have to hang out with her, and you certainly don't have to keep apologizing for something like a misdirected text message. You might've been close once, but sometimes it's just easier to say how you feel. It decreases passive-aggressiveness, too. ;)</p>

<p>You're going to get out of high school and start meeting new people. Now is a good time to learn how to filter out the ones you don't want to keep in your life.</p>

<p>Hope this helps,
Alex</p>