<p>I would love to get your opinion on something:</p>
<p>We have 2 boys, one in college already and one weighing his admissions currently. We are full pay. We have told the kids that we will pay for their undergraduate school. Further, any money they receive in scholarships, they can use half towards graduate school (if they decide to attend someday). Other than that, they should not count on us to contribute toward graduate school. (Our thinking was that maybe we would give them a little living money during grad school, but we don't want them to count on it.)</p>
<p>Both kids college options are basically $60K per year, to use round numbers for comparison purposes.</p>
<p>DS1's top choices were: 1) a top 15 school which is one of the top 5 for his major and 2) a top 25 school which has his major but is not known for it at all, with a $22K per year ($88K total) merit scholarship. I think he actually liked the lifestyle at the school not known for his major very much, but recognized the opportunities that would be available at a top school in his major and choose the school with no merit $.</p>
<p>DS2's now has several great choices, many top 15-25 schools with strong programs in his major. It looks like he may choose the one that has offered him a full tuition scholarship. It is one of his top 3 choices and he does not feel he is not giving up anything by choosing this school. (He does have some more highly ranked in his major, but they are not among his favorites.) If he chooses this option, he would be getting a scholarship valued at $45K per year ($180K total). So, based on our agreement, he would have $90K to use towards graduate school. </p>
<p>It is equally likely that both kids will attend graduate school. </p>
<p>My question is: do you think we should offer DS1 some amount towards graduate school? We are saving $180K from DS2's education costs. DS2 will get the $90K we promised him for grad school. DH and I feel that DS1 absolutely made the best choice of schools by picking the school very strong in his major that didn't give him any scholarship money.</p>
<p>We are considering offering DS1 $45K toward grad school.</p>
<p>Thank you for your opinions. We have the money, but have always felt that the kids should take ownership of their education after undergrad. But now that we are giving one kid $90K, I am thinking it would be nice to give the other $45K.</p>