<p>True character and success comes in the face of adversary!
Forget about your parents and anyone who has put you done, remember that failure is just another chance to learn something new and constantly improve your self as a person. Also, knowlegde is not gained by soaking it up like a sponge but rather by chip and chip fall in love with knowledge make discovers and benifit man kind- discover a cure for cancer- and improving and revising everything you just learnt, and remember that your parents don't control you, they are just there to guide you through life and give you support and unconditional love, its between you and God and after all that's all that matters, in the end.
p.s Good things are instore for you!!!!!!!!!
JUST LIKE EINSTEIN!!!!!! EINSTEINIUM!!!!!!!!!</p>
<p>don<code>t feel sad. I couldn</code>t get into my top choice colleges this year.But I will try next year again. I believe that there is always a second chance.</p>
<p>yea im going to try my best to transfer to my top college :)
and dufus im sad that your not going to post on cc anymore....i tried pm you but your pm inbox is full :(
hope you change your mind</p>
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no...i just found out today...just as i predicated, i got rejected :(
gl in rochester behappy
this bites so badly</p>
<p>Bestmiler1:
I have noticed an extremely large number of threads about people who were denied/waitlisted at all of what they thought were reach schools. I think people were mislead in one way or another about the kind of SATs that were needed. Even for the people who got into good colleges, most still seem to feel like failures somehow about not getting into what they thought were reach schools. I have yet seen anyone who did not blame themselves, but the whole culture this year screwed them up. There is a thread I started on this at:
<a href="http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/showthread.php?t=167507%5B/url%5D">http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/showthread.php?t=167507</a>
but it is closed now.</p>
<p>I'm sure you'll end up fine, probably President of the United States or something.</p>
<p>BestMiler, I am really sorry for you, but there're tons of chances ahead of you unless you give your dreams up. One/couple rejections mean nothing at all. If you have no regret for all you've done during the entire process, you have succeeded, an to be proud of yourself! </p>
<p>Wish you a very bright future! :)</p>
<p>Dear BestMiller1,
I hope you are feeling better. The stress in your posts is very disturbing. You have to know that across the country, there are thousands of families and students who are experiencing either joy or sorrow about colleges acceptances. Understand that this will pass for you as well, and hopefully, in a few years, you will be on a successful and happy path. It is so sad to me that so many parents are pressuring their children into feeling that they are failures if they cannot get into an Ivy League school. I feel sorry for students these days. Where is the time to be a child? So much of the EC's that are done, are done to fill in a blank on an application and not because the child is especially concerned or giving to humanity. Much of how we force our children to live now is artificial. What are we doing to students where we expect so much from them all the time, whether it be great grades, perfect SAT's, filling 100% of their time with clubs (and extra points for being a club officer...), and of course, then there is the additional pressure of excelling in sports at the same time. Unfortunately, I don't think we can stop the current climate of college stress. It is very sad and alarming and the pressures are starting at earlier and earlier ages. Children have no time to themselves and have no time for discovering who they are. Sometimes that discovery comes from failing something. There is so much to be learned from failing or having a disappointment. I am an Ivy League graduate. My family consists mostly of surgeons, including a Rhode Scholar and Harvard #1 medical school. All smart and accomplished. I went to Penn for graduate school. I say this only because, no one in my family displays their "Ivy League ness" to all they meet as so many people do. In fact, they are the most gracious, smart, understated, mannered people and all successful. I don't think any of them feel that you have to go to an Ivy League School to succeed in life. My dad grew up in a little town in Montana. He treats everyone the same, whether you are an Ivy League graduate or self taught. I am sickened by the pressures of my own friends in the town where I live. It's Ivy League or nothing. That is such a naive and pretentious view of the world. I hate it! Unfortunately, it is common. Please understand how ridiculous this is. There was a great article in the Economist that I found called "Who needs Harvard." It is on the internet. You should show it to your parents. The author is advising all parents to relax, and illustrates that it is the drive and confidence of the person that makes a successful individual and not the school. Please read it as he also list some very good schools that your parents may not have heard of.
I feel sorry for admissions officers colleges these days. They have a very hard job. I think that applications must be up 20% or higher this year. I have heard that more children applied this year than ever before. With the common application, it is standard to apply for 10 -15 colleges. Think what that did to the numbers and how that reduced your chances. I am sorry that this is so long. I have a lot of feelings on the subject and yes, we experienced the joy and sorrow of acceptances and rejections this week with my child. Rejections from schools that were supposedly "matches" is tough. It hurts. Especially after working so hard for four years. It is so different from the day when my mother called USC in July and was able to get me admitted. I had never heard of the school.... she thought I was having too much fun at home my senior summer. USC was a blessing and I will be eternally grateful.... even though they recently denied my 4.4 gpa, solid wonderful, child. So life does not always take us on the path we think we are following. Sometimes we find ourselves on new roads. That is what is now happening to you. Take advantage of this. Understand that you will land on your feet if you have confidence in yourself. Hold your head high and feel proud. You are going to be just fine. Good luck and best wishes to you and all the students out there.</p>
<p>BM1 it appears from your recent posts that you have "resigned" yourself to attending the schools that have accepted you as of now. It may have been lost in the numerous posts, but both I and another poster have recommended that in mid-May you check out NACAC's list of colleges that still have availability and are accepting applications. The list isn't magic -- if a school was a reach to begin with, it won't suddenly be a safety. But in all likelihood there will be schools on this year's list that are very good schools, and good choices for you. I would particularly encourage you to cross-reference the NACAC list with the list of SAT-optional schools at fairtest.org. To see last year's space availability list, go to <a href="http://www.nacac.com/survey/results.cfm%5B/url%5D">http://www.nacac.com/survey/results.cfm</a> </p>
<p>Now, there's nothing I can do or say (nothing anybody on this forum can do or say) to convince your parents that there are some excellent schools on the NACAC list. I wish I could. All I can tell you is that last year's list contained schools that were in Loren Pope's "Colleges That Change Lives", Jay Mathews "Hidden Gems" list, and Princeton Review's "Best 361 Colleges and Universities". </p>
<p>I hope you do check out the NACAC list. Rather than heading off in the Fall to a school that you feel you've "settled" for, it would be great if you could find a wonderful school that you are excited to attend (even if you are planning on attempting to transfer to UCB -- the more excited you are about your first school, the better chance that you'll do well and enhance your transfer application). Best of luck.</p>
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thank you very much mam. And to let you know, im doing fine and i have moved on
what you said, is the reason, i have been stumbling on the all time. I cant believe i got rejected from my safety/match/reach...i got striked out in all three category. I have worked so hard, for four years, and i didnt get what i wanted. YOUR SUPPOSED TO GET WHAT YOU WORK HARD ON....guess not all the time. I spent all those countless nights staying up late, with tension, anxiety, and being tired, working on a IB hw. I put a lot of hardwork, and i wasnt really successful with college application process
at this point, any school i go to, is against my will and i am just settling for it.....i have no motivation or desire to go to the college i got in, but i must, if i want to transfer</p>
<p>at this point, any school i go to, is against my will and i am just settling for it.....i have no motivation or desire to go to the college i got in, but i must, if i want to transfer</p>
<p>Dear BestMiller1,
You are not going to succeed in anything you do without a better attitude.
Where have you been accepted?</p>
<p>well i was hoping all i do is just study all night and day
i got in penn state (my second campus choice) not university park campus and i just got in SUNY Albany</p>
<p>does anyone know the difference betweed Penn State UP campus versus Second Choice Campus versus SUNY BUffalo versus UDEL</p>
<p>Its college, and some kids, due to family situations, no money at all, having to work, etc can't even go to a college AT ALL</p>
<p>I understand this is not your fantasy, and I am sorry for that</p>
<p>But take what you have a run with it, to do otherwise WILL be a waste</p>
<p>BM1. I'm sorry. Truly, I am. But all these nice people have given you some good suggestions. Most of us have done it in a kindly manner. It's clear now that you didn't start this thread to get suggestions, but simply to whine and complain about how unfair life is (you're what, 17? 18?) because you didn't get exactly what you wanted and what you worked for. If you don't deal with this -- NOW -- I shudder to think what's going to happen when you're 35 and don't get that promotion you worked so hard for. And that will happen, because it happens to all of us sooner or later. </p>
<p>This has become ridiculous. My God, it's like talking to Eeyore. Sorry for the tough love, but you really, really need to re-read this thread and all the great suggestions that people have graciously given you and stop acting like your life is over.</p>
<p>^^ i am very grateful to everyone for the wonderful advice they gave me. You have to understand one thing, im still getting pressured from my paretns, which has not stopped. At this point im just disgusted. I know what I have to do and that is go to a college and do well. I think I just need to be far away from my parents, so I can just relax and think about my future. I know life isnt over me, though it seems like it, I am still working really hard and Im just a little upset thats all. I agree with EVERYONE....i must go to a college and do well and realize that its not the end of world. I know that. But its not like something that will happen overnight. It still hurts me for getting rejected, but im getting it over it day by day and actually looking forward to the future. For you its easy to say "this has become ridiculous"...and IM NOT GOING TO LIE, maybe it did, but i just cant get over something like this so quickly, something that i worked so hard for. but am i, and everyday i look forward to the future. Remember one thing, when you live with your parents, there is always that constant reminder. Lot of us are not as fortunate to have parents who say "try your best and thats all it count" or video taping you while your playing a sport....so no matter how you much you try to look over past that, its still hard sometimes</p>
<p>for example....the other day i told my mom i am still waiting for udel decision to come. And out of know where she starts LAUGHING at my face, saying "your so stupid, your actually waiting for these school. there is none left to look forward towards"
at that point, i felt like hitting her, but i will never do that, so i just stay shut and listened to her...
well I have learned a valuable lesson from all this: is to tolerate anger. Not let anger dictate my actions</p>
<p>and if your getting frustrated with me...I am sorry, am I truly am.
Just my advice: Dont let anger and frustration dictate your actions :)</p>
<p>Dear BestMiller1:
You are the perfect candidate for a gap year. I think you would benefit immensely. You should look into - either working or volunteering with Habitat for Humanity (Katrina homes... perfect). You will feel better about yourself, have a clearer idea of what you want in life, grow up a lot (I mean this in a positive way!) and give yourself some distance from your parents. You should be grateful to have the list of colleges that you do. You aren't. So you should give your spot there to someone who will appreciate how blessed they are to be attending such a fine school. Give it away and take a year off working for others. You will be happier.</p>
<p>^^ i know lots of people have been saying that to me...BUT I REALLY DO WANT TO GO COLLEGE....I WANT TO BE IN COLLEGE</p>
<p>Dear BestMiller!,
Did your mother really say that? Is all of this a fake posting? If not..... choose the school that is farthest away from your parents. Smile at them and be polite. Do not get angry. They sound very insecure about their own lives. Tell them you love them. Go out and prove them wrong. It's up to you.</p>
<p>I SWEAR TO GOD....IM NOT TROLLER....MY MOM DID SAY THAT....this is why everytime i try to be happy, i end up miserable...im just quiet and im not arguing anything with my parents. im just lettign all sit. I WILL PROVE THEM WRONG...I WILL...i already tell them, not ever call me in college unless its a emergency, and my parents thinks im actually joking around
I mean I DO LOVE THEM ALL, but this is one thing, we seemed to not to be connecting at all. I think they just need to be away from me, that will good for all of us</p>
<p>BMI, you got into Penn State, it took me some hunting through stuff to see you go into a great school, perhaps not your fave, but you applied there.</p>
<p>So, while I understand the need to vent, believe me I support it, but you need to realize that you are lucky...yes lucky...to have at least a college, I know it doesn't help to hear that, but look around you, some great kids don't have that</p>
<p>My D has a friend, a wonderful kid, whose parents can't/won't pay for anything, so he has to do community college for a year and work to save money, get independence, etc. </p>
<p>So vent away, but buck up a bit </p>
<p>You have the chance of a lifetime, a chance to</p>
<p>prove your parents wrong
get away from your parents who are letting you get away (some parents won't let their kids go away at all)
you can get a great education, and you have options in life</p>
<p>so, keep posting the very supportive posts and its time to move on</p>
<p>start planning, start looking, start shopping, talk to Penn State students, start thinking of a wonderful future</p>
<p>with that said, thank you for being so gracious to other posters, in that , you have been a Gentleman, rare these days</p>
<p>mam your right.....and i really do fill the pain of kids who cant get into colleges. I would really give my spot at SUNY Albany to you d's friend, i really would do, if the adcoms let me. I know there are some people who are worse than me, i would do anything to help them.
as you said "you have the chance of a lifetime, a chance to prove your parents wrong". i will prove them wrong. i will do the best....for now i just plan on going on with life...i talked to my gc and by monday im sending out my uc appeal. My gc told me to go all out and I wil go all out, my last chance, at this point i have nothing to loose. if i get in then that wonderful, if not oh well, i will try as a transfer applicant....so i set a sail full speed for the horizon :)</p>