http://www.esquire.com/news-politics/a33751/occidental-justice-case/
That is only semi-correct. She testified that she remembered giving John oral sex. She also remembered telling him that she had thrown up and needed gum. She testified that she remembered asking him again if he had a condom. I personally don’t find those the actions of someone who is incapacitated but I can understand how someone else would, because it is not too far from where I would draw the line.
From the Esquire link…
@TV4caster, I am glad you got your act together. Thanks for sharing your story.
I guess it is a matter of defining “heavily intoxicated”. I view slurring words and stumbling as drunk (or intoxicated), not heavily intoxicated. I also am prone to disbelieve the one or two people who said she was slurring her words. Others said she was not slurring her words (IIRC- and I am pretty sure I do). Someone who is slurring their words is incapable of typing coherent texts without any misspellings. If you don’t believe me just go to a bar and find someone who is slurring their words and ask them to text you.
The Esquire story is incomplete. The witnesses were following her around. Trying to protect her.
All these “line drawing” discussions you all are having are irrelevant. It really does not matter exactly where any of these lines about consent or incapacitation are drawn by courts or by various college policies. It is a complete waste of time to discuss them. Why?
Because there is never any evidence. Even mattress girl gets this. From this Sunday’s NY Times:
"Sulkowicz has concluded that “the system is broken because it is so much based on proof that a lot of rape survivors don’t have.” Ding ding ding ding!!!
I’d be more inclined to say all systems have a baseline requirement for proof. If you want to go with Emma and say the system is broken, fine.
But recognize that it is impossible to fix the system. You can never have a system that does not require proof, and victims never have proof. You’ll never have proof unless you require students to wear body cameras or have sex in front of witnesses. There simply is no solution to this.
If there’s no proof, it doesn’t matter what your adjudication procedure is or what your policy book says.
That’s why it makes so little sense to address this by tinkering with adjudication procedures.
I found this survey linked through the Esquire article. It is a survey of men and women’s attitudes towards issues surrounding sex (and sexual harassment/assault):
http://www.esquire.com/lifestyle/sex/a33555/esquire-cosmopolitan-sex-survey/
The sections on rape and sexual assault are particularly interesting, especially when alcohol is introduced into the equation.
If you read the entire report you see that basically everyone around her thought she was really really drunk.
@Cardinal Fang do you have a link to the actual report and not just articles about it? I would like to read it but don’t see it in a quick search
@Bearpanther, some of these assault numbers are very high.
Also, what people think the percentage of men capable of rape is is very high.
The thinking of campus rape doesn’t look good either.
Tv4 I’ll link the report when I get home if no one beats me.
A few other things in that article really caught my eye. First of all: the author of the original 1 in 5 study had this to say.
That is pretty incredible.
Secondly: the President of the rape advocacy group RAINN had this to say about incapacitation versus intoxication:
There should really be no argument that Jane could speak and would have been able to resist considering that her roommate found her immediately afterwards essentially giving a lap dance to another guy and making jokes.
The ones that stood out to me were the ones concerning “are these behaviors rape?”
So it was good to see that almost everyone, men and women, thought forcing your spouse or partner to have sex is rape. Considering marital rape did not exist in some states a few years ago this is a positive sign education has worked.
The question “sex wherein either party expressed sexual interest only while intoxicated”—46% of women said this was rape, compared to 38% of men. Still less than half of both sexes.
But this one–“sex wherein either party is intoxicated but had expressed sexual interest when sober”–only 38% of women and 27% of men said this was rape.
This indicates to me that people think a “Yes” given before the first beer is still good after the 5th beer.
And this might be born out also by the result that over 1/4 of both sexes had not even heard of Yes means Yes (28% of women and 25% of men claimed not to know what that was).
That survey has some replies that surprised me.
1- ~80% of women think police would take their accusation seriously in they made a complaint. That sure isn’t what I expected.
2- ~50% of women do not think it is a reasonable expectation for a man to get a yes before sex.
TV4caster, some of your posts are bizarre. I’m sorry. You shouldn’t have mentioned your prior habits.
I told you a true story about what happened to me. A gay woman was all over her brother. I was there. You weren’t. Yet… You have an opinion that she was able to give consent. Ok.
You don’t know the Oxy story. I guess the guys trying to protect this women were wrong. Ok.
I know that I think that. A woman can clearly change her mind at any point, but absent her saying that she is not longer interested then I would think it is reasonable to expect that they are still consenting. I’m betting at least a few people here disagree.
That is because you are making an assumption that she wanted to have sex with her brother and that therefore she must be too wasted to consent. I never in a million years would see something like that and think what you did. I would think that she was trying to make him uncomfortable, for whatever reason.
I know the story quite well. I have read many different articles about it. You are conflating people being concerned about someone with them being too drunk to give consent. The two are not necessarily linked.
You weren’t there.
I thought the most amusing suggestion was to encourage more marijuana smoking instead of drinking. I think John has a good case for him being raped by Jane… Yes, there were witnesses, but she blew them off. At some point you make your own bed.