<p>Marite:</p>
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Class and race are highly intertwined. The black actress was treated as an honorary white in many countries. There used to be such a category in South Africa.
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I need you to understand something before I say what I am about to say. There are whites in this world whom I love with my whole heart. I love them more than I love myself. Nothing here on earth matters to me more than they, no black guy, no red, yellow, or blue guy no nothing. I would be completely and forever lost were these whites no more. Just to be very clear on this, I say again, were these people to exist no more, the black person who now speaks to you would come to an immediate end. He may go on in body, but the thing that makes him what he is will die, leaving something else behind.</p>
<p>Yet being considered an honorary white represents to me a kick to my face. I just dont think any self-respecting black guy would enjoy being considered an honorary white, as if being white is an innate honor beyond being black. That is why I think this actresss reception as white by other cultures is superficial. They are not accepting the black woman at all. They are in fact attempting to erase her blackness and replace it, albeit symbolically, with innately superior whiteness.</p>
<p>That is kind of sad to me. I do understand how history affects us on this issue, and I dont walk around in bitterness or with a chip on my shoulder about it. In fact, to meet me in person youd likely be completely shocked that I hold the views Ive shared here. But I just want to expose my view because I think the woman we are discussing here, like many blacks, perhaps does not yet see the need for a change on this point. I happen to think we blacks need to take the responsibility to change it by adding to the value of our metaphorical currency in the world. But, my goodness. LOL. We cant even begin here as long as this honorary white stuff pleases us. There is something kind of sick about it. Dont you think?</p>
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A friend of ours was asked to go to SA by his British multinational company. He was asked about his race: Chinese, he said. A pity, he was told, if he were Japanese, he would have honorary white status, but not a Chinese. He declined to go.
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I intensely wonder if he would have gone had being Chinese conferred upon him the same advantage.</p>
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I can tell you far too many stories of French racism to even start. But there was a movement many years ago called "Touche Pas a Mon Pote" and SOS Racisme aimed at defending the rights of Africans and Muslims. By the way, one of my nieces is married to a Senegalese, so I hear these stories from inside the family. The US has a long history of racism, but other countries do, too.
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Well, now Im once again shaking in my boots here, marite. Haha. The French have my kid! What a little roller coaster Im on.</p>
<p>But seriously, I recall reading an article about how when certain people would enter a restaurant or hotel or apply for a job, if they didnt have a certain look (i.e. if they looked ethnic) they didnt stand a chance. I also followed French politics for some time awhile back, and it seems to me I remember being enough alarmed by what I saw that I decided visiting the country was not exactly wise. But, despite it all, I am happy that my daughter went on ahead and did her thing anyway because it seems the French are showing their best selves to her.</p>
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Oh, and French schools were told, in the midst of riots, that they were to teach about the benficial aspects of colonial rule.
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Whoa! You have GOT to be kidding! Now that is not something I have heard at all, not that I am that plugged into French society. But whew!</p>
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As for the schizophrenic French attitude toward McDo, as it's called in France, check out today's NYT. I recall my brother's horror when his daughter refused his offer to treat her to lunch at a 3-star restaurant and decided to have a Big Mac instead.
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Humans. Your niece was perhaps so accustomed to fine food that she just wanted a little trash at that time. I dont get out a lot these days, but I have had my share of the best restaurants in the world and I am solidly with your brother. I just cant see the attraction to McDonalds or any of the fast food joints America has produced. If given the choice between a three star restaurant and McDonalds, well, you can just hang it up. Ill see stars every single time.</p>
<p>Ive tried making French stuff myself, and hope my daughter can show me a thing or two when she returns. But yall French are too crafty for me. Im like a bull in the kitchen. Too heavy handed and spirited, which is to say I am just amazing at southern Italian food.</p>