A story that will hopefully offer some comfort...

<p>Hey everyone,</p>

<p>As a former Tufts student who was deferred ED round 1, I thought I would share my story to hopefully offer some comfort to those were deferred as well as those who were rejected.</p>

<p>After touring more than 15 schools (Tufts three times), I decided that Tufts was my top choice and decided to apply early decision. I came from a very small, very competitive public high school and out of 135 kids in my graduating class, 5 students applied early decision. My first quarter Senior Year, I made sure to challenge myself with 4 AP's, pursued a wide variety of extracurriculars, leadership roles, etc...basically I felt that I was a competitive applicant and spent hours upon hours perfecting my personal statement, the "why tufts" question, and every detail of the application.</p>

<p>I worked my tuchus off throughout high school, and my grades in 4 of my 5 classes first quarter were all A's. However, to my chagrin, my AP Calc AB teacher was extremely difficult and despite being a very strong math student, my first quarter grade in Calculus was a 79. It was just one of those classes where the teacher was infamous for not being the most personable (for example, as someone who was qualified for extended timing during exams, this teacher would force me to hand in the exams before my alloted time and did not accommodate to my needs, obviously resulting in a less than optimal grade). This simply seemed unfair- after all, I tried my hardest, yet there was an obvious disparity in my teacher's approach that resulted in me getting screwed. </p>

<p>When December 15th rolled around, I was almost expecting the deferral...I felt like my application was qualified, with the exception of that one fat C+. I knew admissions would find it suspicious that I had an A in AP Stats, did very well on the SAT and SAT II Math, yet had this lower grade in the quarter that is arguably the most important for me to prove myself academically.</p>

<p>My initial reaction was extreme frustration, to the point that I began to simply place Tufts out of the picture. Yet, particularly now in retrospect, I think that Tufts made a very accurate call. They essentially agreed with me, that my application was strong enough to be considered for admission during the normal round, yet they would like more time for me to show them that I could improve the math grade. </p>

<p>I wasn't going to let this challenge, particularly this one math teacher's bizarre teaching habits, get in the way of my future. As a result, I made time each week to meet with her and go over the material, making sure that we were both on the same page, that she knew how much I cared about grasping the material and that I was able to get to know her and make her understand that my documented extended timing was not a luxury, but rather a necessity for me to reach to my potential.</p>

<p>However, independent of this one math class, being deferred allowed me to reflect a lot on what I wanted out of college. I realized that, while I really really liked Tufts, there were several schools that I would be perfectly happy to attend. I think that this realization is essential- that a truly successful college experience is extremely individualized, and while it certainly involves taking the time to do the research on what school is the "best fit," what I believe to be the most important indicator of a successful college student is a student who comes into college with the passions and drive to take advantage of available resources and create their own success. The latter is something that you have each already developed throughout your lives, and to say that there is only one school that will allow you to thrive is simply ridiculous.</p>

<p>Being deferred was also a blessing in disguise because it kept me on my A-game and I completely avoided the "Senior Slump." (It still makes me laugh, by the way, to think of the students who were accepted early to their first choice and attempted to acquire pity through saying how "difficult it is to motivate myself to do work now that I've already been accepted." PLEASE- it's like the kid who is the first among your friends to be done with finals and wanders around saying how bored they are with nothing to do...give me a break). I ended up bringing my math grade up and maintaining strong grades in my other courses, and my senior year was the by far the most challenging yet the most rewarding.</p>

<p>When late March came around, I had a completely different outlook. Out of the 14 schools to which I applied, (low self esteem at time of deferral and over-paranoid guidance counselor results in this), I had expanded my list of "perfect match dream schools" from just Tufts to 5 schools, and realized that even if those 5 did not work out, I would still be quite happy and make the most out of the others. </p>

<p>Long story short, I ended up getting accepted to 13 out of the 14 schools, Tufts included. Was I ecstatic about Tufts? Of course. However, my academic and personal growth during those 3 months as a result of being deferred undoubtedly made me a stronger person, regardless of whether I was accepted to Tufts or not. My work ethic was stronger than ever and that very same teacher who I couldn't stand earlier in the year ended up giving me a math achievement award during graduation. I'm not saying any of this to brag, but rather to show the importance of not letting initial setbacks dictate your future outlook and actions. It is during these times of extreme challenge that you have the opportunity to turn things around and experience the most growth. </p>

<p>I am confident that whether you were accepted, deferred, or rejected, that you can each go on and make the most out of your college experience and do incredible things. If, for whatever reason, the admissions committee feels that you are not the right fit, you have to take it with a grain of salt. I know such an outlook may seem quite difficult at the moment, but just remember that whatever college you get into and attend is lucky to have you and things will work out in the end!</p>

<p>Best of luck :-)</p>

<p>Thank you so much for writing that, gojumbos :). It made me feel really good.</p>

<p>dude, that was a great story, and probably qualifies for a good college essay also lol.</p>

<p>May we ask what the schools were?</p>

<p>and what exactly is it that u life about tufts so much... i hope to get into Tufts, but I also am accepted at BC right now, so knowing more about tufts may help.</p>

<p>I'm glad you enjoyed the story- I have actually contacted NBC (where Ben Silverman, Tufts grad, is the co-chairman) and they are in the process of creating a made-for-TV movie called "Jumbo Setback, Jumbo Growth." haha I am of course joking but that would be pretty funny...</p>

<p>Anyway asking me why I love Tufts is like asking someone why they love ice cream...I love it for it's variety of flavors, good taste, and it makes me smile. Ice cream is quite good, too. In all seriousness, Tufts has really changed my outlook on how I can incorporate my passions with what I feel to be a responsibility to give back to my local, and even global, community in a meaningful way. It has shaped my interest in social entrepreneurship, documentary film making and media advocacy, cause marketing, educational policy...the list goes on. I entered Tufts with an interest in Math and Psychology, and I graduated with several more, many of which I didn't even know existed (for example- social entrepreneurship fuses traditional, private business practices with the socially-conscious, sustainable characteristics of a non-profit to show that you can "do well by doing good"- how cool is that?)</p>

<p>Most importantly, what made Tufts so special for me was the people. My peers, professors, and all members of the Tufts community were so passionate about a multitude of areas that I couldn't help but be inspired. I have never been around people who are so intellectual, globally-minded, down to earth, and fun. Tufts provided me with the strong academic platform to constantly question, "why?" with the supportive network and confidence to then ask, "why not?" It is this combination of academic inquiry and socially conscious innovation that made me who I am today.</p>

<p>For a fun look at what makes Tufts so special, check out this previous post: <a href="http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/tufts-university/241470-why-i-like-tufts.html#post2989337%5B/url%5D"&gt;http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/tufts-university/241470-why-i-like-tufts.html#post2989337&lt;/a> </p>

<p>Jorr- the other "dream schools" were Colby, Middlebury, and Colgate. Tufts was actually the largest school to which I applied, because I wanted the same sense of community and close interaction with professors as a smaller liberal arts college, yet Tufts still offered that as well as the resources of a research university. I am sure that I would have been quite happy at any of those schools- they are all excellent and everyone I know who attended had a wonderful experience.</p>

<p>This reaallllllllly made me feel good. I got deferred back in December and I think it might have been my quarter grades (I pretty much had all B's and 1 A), but like you, I kept my drive going and I ended the semester in January and reversed my quarter grade to final grades of all A's and 1 B. The deferral definitely kept me going for the rest of the semester as opposed to falling into the "senior slump" you were talking about. Hopefully I will have the same fortune as you did with the letters coming back in less than two weeks. Anyways, thanks for your story, it really helped!</p>

<p>i just bookmarked that story so i can refer back to it if i start to feel discouraged when the rest of my decisions come in. thanks.</p>

<p>The best thing about this story is that you can apply it to any school that you either don't get into or get wait listed at. It's important to know that your college experience depends on how you want it to be, despite the college you are attending. Thanks again</p>

<p>True dat, dhlee. I applied early to Penn and got deferred. I was devastated...but over the course of two months realized that I probably wouldn't have been happy at Penn - it's too big, right in the city, etc. I then gravitated toward Dartmouth, which was my obsession - now, after 3 years at Tufts, I shudder to think about going to Dartmouth, because I couldn't go to college in the middle of nowhere, where there's basically nothing to do for socialization except frathouse basement drinking. </p>

<p>And not to perpetuate Tufts as the Ivy League Reject school, but really, I wasn't seriously considering it until my acceptances came in, and even then we sent in our deposit hoping that I'd get into Dartmouth or Columbia off the waitlist. When those proved to be a bust, I finally had to think to myself, I AM GOING TO BE A TUFTS STUDENT. But as the summer progressed and I started talking to some of my friends that were headed to Tufts, and heard how excited they were, I started looking more at the school I had chosen and realizing that it really was for me.</p>

<p>And while I think to myself, "I'm SO glad I didn't go to NYU-Stern or William and Mary," I'm sure that had I gone there, I would have found things to love - in the former, being so close to my family; in the latter, the beautiful campus. Or something. Just stay positive!</p>

<p>haha wow bluirinka... my top three are dartmouth, tufts, and upenn... something tells me that admissions will choose which one for me. And who knows, maybe I'll end up at Villanova.</p>

<p>My daughter graduated 07 from tufts and really loved her 4 years there.Enjoyed reading your post</p>