a very personal topic.

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<p>Im pretty sure this is in the wrong section lol but i didn't know where to place it. So I'm most likely going to take my offer for a triple. Problem is I don't know how comfortable my roommates will be with me. Why? Cause I'm bisexual. It's a main reason I wanted a single or at least double because I want to be myself but if I room with other people I feel it will make them uncomfortable and make the whole living in a dorm thing incredibly awkward. So what's your take people?</p>

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<p>bisexual people are awesome!</p>

<p>are you hot? (in the bisexual context…are you hawt)</p>

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<p>Yep. I agree.
Aside from certain preferences, people are all generally the same. I’m sure you’d find something in common with your room mates (1 word?). My guess is you’re a guy, am i right?</p>

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<p>Sadly, despite being the 21st century and being in a (somewhat) liberal college environment, a lot of people are still closed minded and afraid of things they don’t understand. So being in a triple room, you are taking your chances. You may get lucky and have cool roommates that are totally fine with it, or you may get someone who is conservative an will feel uncomfortable. My advice would be to just be yourself and make sure everyone is respectful of one another. If you don’t want to, you don’t even have to tell them your orientation. After all, it’s really none of their business. If you want to be open about it though, just go ahead and tell them from the beginning and hopefully it wont cause any discomfort. Good luck :)</p>

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<p>@ lucy: nope im a girl.
@ anonymous: hawt? lol. iono im on the ucla transfer connect fb. u can judge there. im one of 200+ members. lol.
@ jane: i have no plans of doing anything while any of my roommates are there just because I respect everyones privacy and space.
@ciao: well im most likely going to have to tell my roommates cuz i have a gf that plans to visit me. so they’ll be wondering who the chick is that keeps visiting me lol</p>

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<p>When you really think about it…it’s not like THEY’RE going to call a group meeting to tell you that they’re straight, so why should you.</p>

<p>Hopefully you’ll end up with understanding roomies.</p>

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<p>you best post up some vids making out with your roomates ;)</p>

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<p>bisexual people are usually 57% hawter than straight people and 256% hawter than ghey people.</p>

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<p>I say that it’s all cool. It’s college after all. Plus, since you’re a girl, I think it will be ten times easier to room with two other girls. Guys can act homophobic even if they say they aren’t (not stereotyping! just know some guys that get the heebie jeebies around other gay or bisexual guys). Where is your housing assignment? I have a triple in Rieber Vista and if ever you feel uncomfortable we can look each other up. I’m not bisexual but my best friend is and she likes to vent to me.</p>

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<p>^ true lolll</p>

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<p>@lucy; yeah thats true its jus when my gf comes to visit from norcal shell want to stay at my place and i dnt want my roommates to be like *** lol
@anoymous; is that fact now lol?
@gpa; lol my gf wud kill me if that happnd
@fram; im in rieber vista too triple with a shared bath. Really ur bestfriend vents to u alot lol</p>

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<p>I really hope my roommate isn’t some homophobic jerk. That’d suck.</p>

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<p>I think you will be okay. Don’t sweat it. Most people here are pretty chill.</p>

<p>If you do end up in some sort of tension filled environment as a result of your sexuality, just report it. The university is obligated to help you out if you’re discriminated against.</p>

<p>Most likely, though, they wont care if you and your girlfriend are hanging out in the room or whatever. They may even care less than if you bring a man around… who knows?</p>

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<p>@evan: i feel u on that!
@sophee: i hope so ive jus had really bad experiences with people not being comfortable with my sexuality. At work ive felt alot of ridcule n the ppl i work with are all in their middle or late 20s so much for maturity</p>

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<p>I’m assuming you’re doing on campus housing which I have no idea about but, another option to consider would be posting a craigslist ad to find a gay friendly roomie (thats what I did). Good luck!</p>

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<p>One presumes the people you meet in college would be a little more open minded than the people you are stuck with at work. One presumes.</p>

<p>As one of the other posters said, be yourself. Keep the private things private, and the public things public.</p>

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<p>@balagan: i would do that but i dont want to go through all the trouble. I’m all the way in the bay area
@jamesinho: thats true but sometimes when your living with other people its hard to live your kind of lifestyle sometimes esp if you think other people arent comfortable</p>

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<p>Davis is a progressive school in a liberal town. You shouldn’t face much animosity, but there could be some minor uncomfortability between you and your roommates. I say it’s worth a try, though. You can always change your housing situation if it doesn’t work out.</p>

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<p>Yeah. I mean, honestly, I would appreciate my roommate letting me know from the get-go if she were bisexual or lesbian. Not because I hate, definitely not, but I think I would feel more comfortable knowing (and she, clearing the air). I’d rather not go through the trouble of being all awkward with her when I sense something’s up or hear ‘gossip’ from a third party source. Just not my thing.</p>

<p>If your roommates don’t accept who you are (in general), they don’t deserve having the privilege of knowing you.</p>

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<p>@Dark; im actually going to ucla and i have no idea how westwood is. Im from sf and ppl here are pretty open so im hopin itll be the same.
@ edel; oh no defintly im goin to let my roommates know. Once the info of my roommates are out in aug im going to email them. The last thing i want is awkwardness. If they feel uncomfortable they can ask for a reassignment</p>