<p>I am wondering what the protocol is after the receipt of an acceptance? The letter comes (or phonecall, whatever..) and then what? Does a response need to be sent to the school acknowledging the acceptance? That seems appropropriate, but having never done this before, I want to make sure we handle it all correctly. S still has 6 more auditions, so obviously, he will be going through the whole process before making a final decision. Thoughts? Thanks! </p>
<p>In my opinion, there is not a true need to acknowledge an acceptance. An applicant has until May 1 to decide where to enroll and at that time, let all other schools know if they turning down their acceptance. If they know before May 1 that they are going to turn down an acceptance, it is good to let schools know too. I haven’t really heard of acknowledging acceptances along the way. My kids never did. </p>
<p>We didn’t get any this early - so by the time they started rolling in - we didn’t acknowledge per se - some were phone calls - so those, obviously get acknowledged right there on the phone. It might not be a bad idea to send a thank you email with a note about how you remain interested, but wish to complete the other auditions on your schedule before making a final decision. Just so they know you got the mail, and are still considering them - since it is still pretty early in the process!</p>
<p>Yes, kategrizz, we have been advised by professionals to do the same. Send a nice acknowledgement of thanks if an offer comes. However, if you are accepting another offer, or have eliminated that school from your list, then let them know about that out of consideration for others.</p>
<p>I’m with soozieVT. I just don’t think it’s necessary at all. Maybe if a department head for example spent a lot of time with you and you want to write to that person and say you were pleased to be accepted into their program, why not. Otherwise, the schools know the drill about the May 1st deadline.</p>
<p>On the flip side, D had friends with early offers who felt they got quite a bit of “hard sell” from schools that had offered early acceptance</p>
<p>^^^I’ve heard of examples of that too. It might be a reason to maintain a healthy distance so that you buy yourself the time you need to see the process through until the end. There is a school that is notorious for making that very hard (talked about in this forum every year… maybe this is the year things will finally change) but they are not the only ones who do it they just happen to be willing to be more overt.</p>
<p>One of D’s schools just asked her to acknowledge the email and to keep them informed, like “I’m still interested” or “Take me out of consideration” if/when they decided to go elsewhere. I thought that was reasonable. </p>
<p>I did feel badly for D one time when a school called with an acceptance the very next day after her audition, and she called them back the very next day declining (because she had just heard from her number one). To me, I thought the school would think that D never had any intentions of going there in the first place, which was far from the truth. </p>
<p>After she heard from #1 in March, she quickly informed the others. Not a necessity, but as a courtesy so that they could move forward as well. </p>
<p>@glee4life- re: “not a necessity” -I do think students should feel an obligation to call schools and decline as soon as they are sure that school is no longer in the running for them. There are many students anxiously waiting on hold that could benefit from someone declining. It also helps the school know what to look for if they still have additional auditions. But of course, only decline when you are absolutely positive you do not want to attend that school. </p>
<p>Ok…silly question - but is it ok to publicly post acceptances while you are still auditioning? I don’t want the acceptances to think they aren’t valued, or the schools that are being auditioned for to think they are just one of many. I know everyone is going by an “alias” on here…but you never know who is reading posts?</p>
<p>@mommabears26 not a silly question and one worth thinking about. I think it boils down to tastes and preferences and there isn’t a right or wrong answer. I can say I myself never posted them including after it was all over and one of the reasons was exactly what you just wrote in your last sentence. </p>
<p>I can’t imagine a school would think one thing or the other or take any kind of offense at all by your posting acceptances here. They know they are one of many, as they should be, because all these programs are so darn hard to get into, and then there is the financial aid package of each to consider, even if they DID know who you were. I mean, unless you go on here and say, “X school accepted my child but we are still waiting to hear about scholarships, but we don’t really care because this school sucks. And BTW my screen name is the same as my real name and we live in nowheresville, Idaho” – I don’t think announcing an acceptance hurts you in the least. And it can help other people a lot who are home biting their nails to know that X school started making offers, not to mention the kid a year from now who might be looking back to see when people started hearing from X school. I started reading CC when my daughter was a freshman in high school (maybe before) and learned SO much that I had a profound sense of wanting to give back when it was our turn. And really, I don’t THINK I said anything about any school that I wouldn’t have said to their admissions office directly, if they asked. </p>
<p>^Agreed. My alias is not terribly well constructed to hide my identity… and I posted it all here. I found the Final Decision Background thread each year so informative - gave me insight into the overall process. I felt I needed to post to “pay it forward” so to speak. Again - as long as you don’t post anything you wouldn’t say directly to a school - I don’t believe you have anything to worry about. </p>
<p>I certainly get the idea of giving back but I’m not sure how posting an acceptance gives back other than perhaps building excitement and signaling movement at a particular school? I think it’s largely a matter of preference and as I said, there is no right answer. Do it, don’t do it, up to you. I don’t think it will bring the house down.</p>
<p>I run on the upper end of the cautious scale. @Calliene, you and I have both been reading this forum long enough to know there ARE posters who write things like your exaggerated sentence above about “X school” above. It’s strategically foolish so why risk it? I’ve seen college reps suddenly pop up following some comments that I had no idea were even reading. </p>
<p>A completely inadvertent and innocent example. I made what has become a very good friend outside of CC last year by reaching out privately to urge caution following a post that said something along the line of, “X school is the only school my kid cares about.” I learned that it wasn’t meant to be interpreted as I interpreted it, but if I did, so could any college rep who might read it and this friend’s kid still had more auditions and applications ahead of them. I further freaked her out by also saying that it took me no more than a minute to figure out who her kid was because of some of the specifics in prior posts. She probably thought I was a paranoid nut at the time but she was also new to CC and I think appreciated that I cared to reach out. I don’t think at the time the notion of college reps reading the forum had occurred to her. </p>
<p>I’m sure college reps who read this forum (some whom occasionally pop up and contribute to it as well) have way better things to do with their time than keep score about who said what especially at this busy time of year. But what if they are a cult that all band together and play “Name the CC parent” as a drinking game over the holidays? :-)</p>
<p>^^ I agree, and each person should do what feels the most comfortable. My son was admitted to two relatively small programs on the same day and we are in a state that doesn’t send many students to audition BFA programs so it wouldn’t be hard to figure out who my son was. I gained so much knowledge and support here that I wanted to share and pay it forward.</p>
<p>Lol @halflokum !! I think you should market that…“Name the CC parent” game! :)) :)) </p>
<p>I’m an easy target… but despite conversing with @halflokum for years - she is like Spiderman or Superman, and guards her secret identity well! ;-)</p>
<p>Lol, halflokum, that is why I don’t post on the colonoscopy thread, the “Say it here…” thread, etc. :)</p>
<p>D had a friend who got an early acceptance a couple years ago - and had posted it on FB, along with standard “yea, so exited” type stuff. At a later audition, another school asked “I see you have already been accepted at X and say you are really excited about it- so why are you still auditioning?” They had obviously checked FB. The student was not offered a place at the second school- which could have been for a MILLION reasons, but to this day kid thinks it was b/c of the post.</p>
<p>I’m imagining a game like Monopoly where at one end, you have the occupants of Mediterranean & Baltic Avenues which include anyone with a CC name that is their actual name plus use their actual picture for their profile. On the other end you have Broadway and Park Place. Fishbowlfreshman is laughing at us all from a penthouse there. In jail, we have a few folks that have been kicked out of here over the years as well a few that visit jail from time to time by posting inappropriately but later clean up their acts. I’ve seen some fairly whiny posters too. They occupy waterworks. You’ll find me in “luxury tax” because I’m one of the crazies paying for NYU. Drink every time someone calls their daughter their D. That sends my son into titters as he swears no one under the age of 30 would ever think of the letter D as standing for daughter. OK this is getting silly.</p>