<p>my question as well…got EA acceptance at first choice college (not harvard)…got very good aid package…still have one application pending…everyone says send your deposit asap to first school and pull app at second - but what is the RULE? It’s only that we’d love to know if D is accepted at second school since she went through the whole process including audition…???</p>
<p>Only ED has a withdrawal requirement. No other admission process requires you to withdraw your other applications. </p>
<p>EA schools give you until May 1st to accept. If you don’t accept, your admission lapses at that point.</p>
<p>Even if you accept your EA, you still have no withdrawal requirement from other schools. Non acceptance by deadline is considered good enough. If you just want to make sure someone on waitlist gets admitted, you notify them sooner than May 1st.</p>
<p>Thanks - I had never understood there to be a requirement to withdraw with EA acceptances, but when I mentioned to our college counselor that we had not withdrawn our open app even though we are ready to accept the offer of the first choice school she pretty much said “you have to.” It may say more about our counselor than the process.</p>
<p>Some high schools will no longer support a student who has accepted a EA school–Exeter, for example, makes it clear that if you accept a college’s offer, as far as College Counseling is concerned, unless there is a compelling reason (financial aid) you are done. And if you do have a FA issue, they would strongly suggest you don’t formally accept the EA until the RDs come out.</p>
<p>They also strongly discourage holding more than one offer if you have the FA packages–they want you to inform the college you will not attend that you are withdrawing…it is a breach of Exeter ethos to “hog” offers.</p>
<p>I think Exeter’s policies and customs are ethical and correct. I knew too many kids when I was a college applicant (many years ago) who liked holding a bunch of offers for purely egotistical reasons without regard to other applicants who might be wait listed because of their selfishness.</p>
<p>@etondad Everyone has a threshold for some factor in the admission process or the other. I agree with you that if it is for purely egotistical purpose it is unethical. I for one is faced with the dilemma with an EA at a school and other ones that are rolling in. Each one of them with different levels of FA and Honors program packages. </p>
<p>I am torn between telling my D to accept her $60,000 EA vs her $$25,0000 Honors program admission in State. I am sure you have have a clear cut answer but people like me just don’t.</p>
<p>AT the end of the day it is important to hold as many offer and play one against the other to see what works best for the individual in question. You might call it selfish but I call it self interest!</p>
<p>I am a bit lost on how many exeter students would need or qualify for FA packages but that may be just me.</p>
<p>Since Exeter’s pretty wealthy, there are at least a few students there on scholarship. The only one I know there currently pays no tuition.</p>
<p>So exeter ethos applies to poor scholarship kids on their campus? </p>
<p>It would make sense if everyone gives up their admissions not just those with scholarships. Otherwise, it is a bunch of rich guys making up ethos for poor kids on campus.</p>
<p>I believe Exeter offers financial aid.
OP, I wouldn’t withdraw your applications, just in case you may change your mind for some reasons. You’ve already paid for those applications.</p>
<p>Over 50% of Exeter is on financial aid–many of them on full assistance…the stereotype of the rich kid at Exeter is as outdated as Ryan O’Neill and Ali McGraw in Love Story. </p>
<p>And that’s right-- that is the Exeter policy without regard to scholarship status–if you ACCEPT an EA you’re done-- if you hold it but haven’t accepted, waiting on FA offers, that is fine and the Office will still work with you-- but when you say YES to an offer, then Exeter college admissions says goodbye to you. The Academy wants to maximize the chances for its students both in the applying class and in the years to come-- that is why they have little tolerance for egotism or self aggrandizement, the Academy wants the colleges to know that its students play fair and that their word means something – also it flies directly in the face of “Non Sibi” which is the Exeter creed.</p>