I posted this in another section recently and got NO replies. I think with the new design people are lost more easily and not reading as broadly as before. At least that is true for me! Mods, please let it stay here if possible. (?) I tried to shorten a little.
D20 has struggled with school since day 1. Around age 8 she was diagnosed with inattentive ADHD and dyslexia. She had an IEP in elementary school then converted to 504 for middle and high school. Her accommodations have been very generic, things like extra time if needed and extra clarification of assignments. On a few occasions she required modification to assignments.
D has never accepted the idea of a learning disability. She has fought with us on this since the first day we mentioned it to her. She won’t talk about it EVER, with us or teachers. She has had testing 3 times with different psychologists over the years and the results are always very similar. Her last round of testing was around age 14 at her request, because she was so sure the previous testing was all wrong and wanted to prove that she didn’t need accommodations. She was furious at the results (same ADHD + dyslexia) and says she will never be tested again.
She insisted on terminating her 504 because she hated the idea that teachers would get a document stating she needed anything that other students don’t need and she believes in universal accommodations (give everyone enough time on tests, which most teachers actually do).
She works very, very hard in school. Pedal to the metal 100% of the time. She has an A- average but every point is hard earned. Her main compensation for her very slow reading speed is to give herself extra time and she remains baffled (but accepting) that she requires so much longer to do homework and projects compared to her friends.
With an out of date 504, she has continued to receive accommodations unofficially. In 10th and 11th grade (after 504 was gone) her GC and I spoke with her various teachers to explain her learning style. Teachers readily note that she is bright with great ideas but has trouble with output (tests and writing). I have gone behind her back a few times, emailing teachers about specific assignments.
The one nut that was too hard for her to crack was the ACT. She studied, and studied, with a tutor, and totally bombed the first try. That shook her up and she did ask for help because she realized that without extra time she could not finish the exam. We were able to get it and she did much much better on her second try.
She is interested in 4 year colleges and her list is realistic with lots of matches at least based on Naviance. We think she’ll get in to some of them, but we are more worried about what will happens once she actually goes. She does not speak up about needing anything out of the ordinary, and she does not acknowledge a learning disability.
Here is where we are stumped:
- Do we need to re-instate her official 504 before college? Is this a document she will need if she requires any extra time accommodations in college? She has refused til now, wondering how hard we should push her to reconsider.
- Anyone dealt with a kid like this? She has so much shame and lack of insight into WHY school work is always so hard for her.