<p>I am now very very scared and anxious. One of my classmates, she hates me a lot. And I heard from one of my best friends ( who was her friend too) that she mailed to admission officer of schools I will apply for(in particular Yale and Cornell) bad things about me that she made up.
Although I know that there are many people doing like that and admission officer will say that "dont worry, we dont care", but why shouldn't they believe that made-up information?
My friend told me that it would hurt my chance a lot because everyone had flaws and weakness and it was very hard to not to make mistakes, so if that classmate did bad things to me, who knows what she would send. And if she just bombards bad things about me, admission will look at my application with very careful and cynical consideration. Should they take risk of accepting student who doesn't have good relationship with friends? If 2 profiles are similar, I believe admission staff wont choose me.</p>
<p>What should I do now?</p>
<p>This sounds like a school issue that you should review with your GC.
If you are in a position to get an offer of admission, and the information seems relevant and was not elsewhere in your application (undisclosed disciplinary action, etc), the college will likely reach out to your GC for clarification.</p>
<p>I am an international student and my school doesn’t have GC :(. So worry</p>
<p>bump anyone has the same position</p>
<p>Without any proof that what she has sent is true, the colleges are likely to think that your classmate is vindictive or mentally ill. This isn’t likely to hurt your admissions chances.</p>
<p>In the absence of a GC, who is the contact at your school who is responsible for sending transcripts, writing recommendations, etc? The university must have a point of contact where you are receiving your secondary education. This is the person they would contact if they have any question regarding your character. If they don’t check, it wasn’t taken seriously.
More and more, student rivals do this sort of thing. Admission offices are sent stories about fellow applicants, even encouraged to check their facebook page (another good reason to clean it up!). If you are very concerned, find out who the contact at your school is and talk to them. You don’t know if what you were told was a rumor, but you will feel better knowing how the person handles such things. In the event that they have never encountered such an inquiry, talking with them about it beforehand may help. Most GC’s in the states are familiar with this unfortunate trend and respond in a fair and honest manner. I would by no means confront the person you think may have done this, or talk with friends about it for that matter. It simply feeds gossip. If someone happens to mention it to you, shrug it off as inconsequential. It is very, very hard, but the less fuel you give it the better.</p>
<p>The most important point is that in my country we don’t have any admission counselors. We just have our transcripts signed by our principal; recommendations are written in our native language and the recommendation writers (our teachers) have these translated into English by a translator. So how can admission staff can contact my teacher if she doesn’t know any English at all.
@Northstarmom: Thank you for your helpful comment. It is true that she cant give any proof but sorry for my over anxiety, I think that admission staff will look more careful to my profile and google everything about me. Moreover, as I said, they may think that my classmate is vindictive but to make sure that they wont accept bad students, they may also think even rumor is partly true. Admission is not fair and a dark spot like this may hurt my chance. Ivies are competitive and there are many kids have the same profile like me. They have very little time to mail and wait response from my teacher who doesn’t know English at all. Should they accept me instead of receiving " pure students" who are not involved things like this? I believe a “no”. </p>
<p>Sorry again for being so desperate like that. I am kind of losing my mind right now. Any more comments</p>
<p>From what you’ve written, OP, it doesn’t seem that you have anything to worry about since there’s no proof of what your classmate allegedly is telling admissions. For all you know, your classmate also may be lying about notifying admissions about you.</p>
<p>I was accepted to Harvard even though one of the teachers who wrote my recc told Harvard that I was not Harvard material. The teacher told me that after I was accepted to Harvard. I had done very well in the teacher’s class, and had no idea that she would not give me a good recommendation. In fact, I suspect that my discussing in my interview a research paper that I had done for that teacher’s class was one of the things that helped tip me in.</p>
<p>My advice is to do the best you can with your applications and don’t worry about the lying classmate, who I don’t think is likely to hurt your application. I bet that admissions also are used to having to deal with vindictive/envious or mentally ill classmates of applicants, and don’t put weight on what such people say unless there really is some proof. After all, why should the college believe unsubstantiated allegations by a high school student whom admissions staff doesn’t even know.</p>
<p>Your classmate also may realize this and may be hoping that by simply saying she’ll tell admissions lies about you, she’ll upset you so much that you won’t be able to submit optimal applications. Don’t let her get to you.</p>
<p>In these sorts of situations, colleges will look to verify the information. If you have no GC, the questions will likely be directed to your principal. These are false accusations with no backing–you’ll be fine, and your friend will be exposed as a vindictive liar.</p>
<p>Thank you Northstarmom.
@ glassesarechic: As I said before, no one related to my application ( recommendations writer, principal,etc) knows English so I doubt colleges can find ways to verify this</p>
<p>Are you sure that the best friend who told you this is really your friend? Is this the same friend that told you that your chances of admission are doomed?</p>
<p>Admissions officers will not give any credence to unsolicited negative letters from high school students. If anything, they will see you as a victim of cruelty–but more likely, they will just throw the letter away. Also, if Yale sends your principal a letter, he can use the same translators your teachers do to have the letter and his response translated. </p>
<p>It is easy for me to say this, I know, as I’m not the one going through it. However, here it is: it sounds like the other two girls want you to be worried and anxious. Please do not give them the satisfaction! Also, don’t tell them where else you plan to apply.</p>
<p>That is my question, how did any one knows where are you applying? If you are the one telling, that is your own fault, you should not brag about you are applying Yale etc. I would not worry about those unsolicitated letter to adcoms about you, they have better things to do.</p>
<p>I wouldn’t really worry about it. I mean, the admissions person should definitely not take what she said into account, if that’s even true. What low life would do something like that?</p>