Am I crazy to be considering a gap year?

<p>Before writing anything else, I need to make clear that my Princeton rejection played a very small part in this thought process. I've considered taking a gap year for a while, and this is as good a time as any to decide whether there's any merit to the idea.</p>

<p>For those who haven't been following this -- and I don't blame you -- these were my college admissions outcomes. The dollar amounts in parentheses represent the amount of grant money each school offered me (I don't count loans as financial aid).</p>

<p>ACCEPTED: Bryn Mawr ($21,000), Dartmouth ($25,000), Wellesley ($3,000)
WAITLISTED: Swarthmore, Williams (I doubt I will be taking spots on either)
REJECTED: University of Chicago, Princeton
PENDING: Amherst, Macalester, Middlebury</p>

<p>I have a 6.3 GPA out of 7 in the Bilingual (English and French) IB Diploma program, my SAT score was 2270 (800CR, 760M, 710W), and my Subject Tests were French (800), Literature (750), Chemistry (710), Biology-M (710), Math II (700), and Spanish (700). I doubt that matters, really, but since taking a year off would probably entail applying to some colleges again, I'm throwing it out there anyway.</p>

<p>My family is from Europe, where gap years are relatively common; my mom spent a year working as an au pair in France after graduating from high school in Sweden and has actually suggested (long before I heard from any colleges) that I take one. I've suggested it to my dad, more as a theoretical possibility than anything else, and he seems relatively supportive. I'm already young for my grade since I started school a year early -- my parents determined that I was ready; I'd learned to read at two and a half -- and don't turn eighteen until late November this year. </p>

<p>Aside from the age issue, I've spent six years at a competitive private school in northwest Washington, courtesy of my parents' (ex-?)employer, and arrived at its logical conclusion: acing the IB Diploma and enrolling at a prestigious college. I've achieved everything I've supposedly worked for, but instead of being elated, I feel sheltered and restless. I'm utterly unsure of what I'd like to major in, work with, or really any important decisions pertaining to my future, but more than that, there are so many more things I want to do that don't fit into the trajectory of prestigious high school-->prestigious college-->prestigious corporate job. I've lived in North America and all over Western Europe, but I've never visited Africa, Australia, Asia, South America, Eastern Europe besides Russia-- or even the less affluent parts of my own city (the city I can call mine despite only ever having borrowed it). I've never held a job besides tutoring, babysitting, and teaching riding lessons to kids even more privileged than I am, and for someone who's about to turn eighteen, I'm shockingly inexperienced. I'd also like to revert back a bit to the person I was before high school, CC, the IB, and college applications... I was more genuine, I think, and probably more passionate (it's been tiring). I want to read and learn for pleasure and think in ideas instead of abbreviations. This is getting pretentious and oh-so-literary, so I'm going to stop, but I think I do have a few semi-legit reasons for considering a year off.</p>

<p>I've thought of a few ideas, but it's far from a complete or extremely detailed list, and many of the options aren't mutually exclusive.</p>

<ul>
<li><p>Work full-time at a menial job; earn money for travel and a digital</a> camera; volunteer in Africa, Asia, or South America (if the latter, working can be combined with taking a not-too-expensive Spanish course to continue the independent study I started in high school; if the former, I'm fluent in French and would probably choose a francophone country) -- I've heard of Madventurer programs, and they're enticing enough to make me want to sign up on the spot, but I'm not sure if there are others I should look at</p></li>
<li><p>Work and/or volunteer for a local nonprofit organization, probably environmental or human/animal rights; volunteer at local public schools or charities; start my own volunteer project; once I'm eighteen, volunteer at an animal shelter</p></li>
<li><p>Find an internship or somewhat-less-menial job, possibly journalism- or publishing-related; write a book?!; write some articles; write anything...!</p></li>
<li><p>Contact the Georgetown professor who flaked on me last summer after virtually promising me a research internship in neuroscience; ask if he's still interested</p></li>
<li><p>Work as an au pair in an interesting country (I have several years' experience babysitting and have worked as a riding instructor at my stables' summer camp, so I suppose I'm qualified, but I'm not very good at entertaining people unless it's with 'razor wit and dazzling repartee,' to quote my very tongue-in-cheek "Why Chicago?" essay ;)) ... my mom went to Paris and took evening courses at the Sorbonne in her time off, but there are many other options</p></li>
</ul>

<p>I've come up with some limitations, some of which could probably be circumvented fairly easily, but others might not.</p>

<ul>
<li><p>This is a significant issue: I don't know, and won't know for a while, whether I will have a visa to the United States next year; if I can't get a new visa, I'm essentially exiled. I have a European Union passport and can live and work anywhere within the EU, but the prospect of applying for jobs across the Atlantic intimidates me, and I'm not sure what to do about living arrangements. Most of my ideas are contingent on my staying in the DC area.</p></li>
<li><p>I don't turn eighteen until November; I'm not sure who would hire a seventeen-year-old, or that I would be taken seriously. On a similar note, I'm a skinny little thing and not very imposing, which I suppose may limit my options for travel somewhat.</p></li>
<li><p>I'm not considering this specifically because I want to reapply to Princeton, but if I were to do it, I would reapply to Princeton and some others (I hope that makes sense). I'm not sure that any of my colleges would allow me to defer matriculation for a year if I apply to another university during that time, and the idea of taking a year off without anything to come back to feels dangerously reckless.</p></li>
<li><p>Turning down an Ivy League acceptance with significant financial aid for some ill-defined notion of a gap year is not, in many people's eyes, a very rational course of action.</p></li>
<li><p>My family immigrated (at least temporarily; the possibility of an extension is still pending) to the United States in 2001-- we have no "contacts" in high places and few possibilities for networking. Money is scarce, and expensive programs are not an option.</p></li>
<li><p>I'm vegan (I don't eat meat, eggs, or dairy), and I'm not sure if there are any programs for volunteering abroad that accommodate that, or if it would limit my options for au pair placements. I don't want to be uptight, but it's something I believe in very strongly and is not negotiable.</p></li>
<li><p>I don't have a driver's license, but I might be able to arrange that if I start soon enough.</p></li>
</ul>

<p>* This shouldn't matter, but I have to mention it for honesty's sake: I'd probably still be rejected from Princeton. It would be a more mature, more worldly, more decisive? me getting rejected, though, so maybe it's still worth it.</p>

<p>This is an absurdly long-winded dissertation of a post, but am I completely crazy to be thinking about this? </p>

<p>As a bit of an aside, I want to thank everyone on this board for being so supportive and helpful throughout this process. Without you, I doubt I would have had the courage or knowledge to apply to American colleges at all, let alone the caliber of schools I applied and was accepted to. I'm so incredibly grateful, and I hope I've managed to convey that properly.</p>

<p>Gosh, you have an interesting dilemma to make. I have been home schooled for about 2 1/2-3 of the last 4 years and spent time traveling, living in another country etc. so I have in effect experienced a lot of the 'gap' year that most people would want to take. I enjoyed it but at the same time I knew I had to plan things appropriately so that it would fit with my high school education and college application.</p>

<p>Though you should do whatever would make you happy, I would strongly discourage taking a gap year without accepting an admission offer from a college. The reason is simple: you aren't guaranteed anything next year, and you could find yourself with no place to go to after the gap year ended.<br>
The only reason why I would take a gap year without getting into a college would be if I didn't get into any of them, or only one or two of my safety schools.</p>

<p>Dartmouth is a great school (I went to a special one-semester program called The Mountain School about 30 min from Hanover, in VT) and the fact that they are giving you a significant amount of financial aid in grants - and that is key - means that they really want you as a student.</p>

<p>So I would accept Dartmouth's admission offer. (Or one of the other colleges if you choose otherwise.)</p>

<p>However, this does not mean that you can't take a gap year! Colleges will usually always allow you to defer your admission for a year; in other words, you take Dartmouth's offer, spend your gap year traveling to a new place and doing something interesting (and hopefully productive!), and then going to Dartmouth and graduating with the class of 2012.</p>

<p>That is a very feasible option, and Dartmouth will probably let you do it. And you don't spend the whole gap year wondering what you will do afterwards; you know where you will go, and of course Dartmouth offers one of the best undergraduate educations in the nation and arguably the world.</p>

<p>I have go to go now but feel free to private message me if you have any questions. I haven't taken an official gap year but I have had to reconcile gap-like activities that I did in my college applications, and I also had to choose between going to college early (at 15) or waiting (I waited and will be going to Princeton this fall) so I know a little bit what you are thinking about.</p>

<p>Gosh, I wish I could have convinced my d. to do a gap year. But since she was homeschooled before college, she thought of all her time as having been "gap years". Sigh.</p>

<p>Take the time now. There is no rush to go anywhere. Any of the schools you are accepted at will love to have you a year from now. (Doesn't matter which one you take.)</p>

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Turning down an Ivy League acceptance with significant financial aid for some ill-defined notion of a gap year is not, in many people's eyes, a very rational course of action.

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<p>I'd suggest accepting either Bryn Mawr or Dartmouth (both having the largest finaid packages) and asking for deferred matriculation. You won't be turning down great acceptances, merely gaining some more experience and maturity. I'm not sure how colleges view not matriculating after deferring entry, but I suspect it's not uncommon. You could re-apply to Princetonin that case.</p>

<p>^I like marite's advice. Enroll in a school.</p>

<p>This is Dartmouth's policy, apparently:

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If you are accepted for admission and for personal or educational reasons wish to defer entrance for one year, you may do so with prior permission of the Admissions Office. Requests for such deferrals should be sent, with supporting reasons, to the Dean of Admissions and Financial Aid no later than July 1.</p>

<p>Deferred students will be classified as accepted Early Decision candidates for the next year and will not have to reapply or complete new forms. Deferred candidates may not initiate application to any other colleges or universities. Additionally, it is each deferred candidate's responsibility to write to the Admissions Office before January 1 to provide an update of experiences, activities, and course work, if applicable.</p>

<p>The Admissions Committee reserves the right to review the activities undertaken in the interim and to rescind the offer of admissions if a student's academic or personal record does not remain satisfactory in all respects.

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Bryn Mawr's is much less specific, but I don't know if there's more to it than this:

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A student admitted to the College may defer entrance to the freshman class for one year, provided that she writes to the dean of admissions requesting deferred entrance by May 1, the Candidates' Reply Date.

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<p>I agree with Marite. I came from a very similar background, young for my age (different DC private school), childhood in Africa instead of Europe. So I spent my year in Europe. I think another year - especially when you are on the young end of the class is a great idea. Finding work though may be difficult as would finding vegan friendly placements, but I am sure it can be done. Do enroll somewhere now and ask for deferred admission. Come next fall things may look different.</p>

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<li><p>Marite's advice is really good.</p></li>
<li><p>I'm sorry you didn't get into Princeton. You have a fabulous resume, and you write beautifully. But don't stake anything on re-applying to Princeton. </p></li>
<li><p>Take a deep breath. You have been accepted at three wonderful schools (maybe more, by now, but it doesn't matter), two of which have offered you substantial grants. People -- people as smart and worldly as you -- love love love Dartmouth and Bryn Mawr. Love love love. Why don't you give yourself a chance to think positively about them? Neither one is anything like a booby prize.</p></li>
<li><p>Deferring matriculation for a year may be a great idea, especially given your age, regardless of where you ultimately go.</p></li>
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<p>I'm hearing in your post that you are not too thrilled with the idea of college because you feel it will be more of the same, same grind, same striving fellow students, just another rung on the same ladder.</p>

<p>This may not be the case. Perhaps the people will be more your cup of tea. You could get a part-time job or do volunteer work at college without taking a gap year. Maybe there would be another professor of neuroscience who won't flake on you.</p>

<p>You strike me as a very intelligent and thoughtful person, so being with your peers and working your mind might end up being more fun than you think -- and some stop gap jobs, such as working as an au pair, can just be drudgery.</p>

<p>Camelia,
have you been to Dartmouth? I would give VERY serious thought to accepting Dartmouth's offer....that money is excellent....and you will get a tremendous education there.....sophmore year you spend the summer on campus and have a different semester off (D plan) so you will have a great opportunity to "travel" or do a gap semester when you are older.... go to the accepted students session...if you need $$ call the office and see if they will provide some funding for it..... try it on one more time.....</p>

<p>If you were my kid I'd want you to pick a school and go. Ask yourself a question, if you had been accepted to Princeton, would you have made this thread?</p>

<p>(I'm curious why Wellesley has offered you so much less need based aid. ???)</p>

<p>As always, thank you for your insight. :)</p>

<p>I have visited Dartmouth and liked it very much, so I don't know why I'm feeling so reluctant and indecisive. Maybe I'm approaching this from a different perspective since it's much less common to go straight from high school to college in Europe than it is in the US; my cousin graduated from his Swedish high school last year with top marks in the hardest possible curriculum but chose to take a year off to work and travel before deciding on a course of study. Despite the generous financial aid our EFC of ~$22,000 is still a significant investment (and I would need to take on significant debt), and I'm not sure I can justify that when I'm so aimless about my educational and career goals. Regardless of what happens with Princeton -- because that really isn't the most important part -- I'm wondering if a gap year may help me grow up and "settle down" a little.</p>

<p>Who said you had to be perfectly grown up and settled before going to college? My 45 year old mom wants to be more grown up and settled ;)</p>

<p>"(I'm curious why Wellesley has offered you so much less need based aid. ???)"</p>

<p>All 100% of need schools, too, with a difference, top to bottom of $88k over four years. That might be an all-time record.</p>

<p>I'm not actually sure about that either. At first I thought they'd just interpreted my family's somewhat unusual financial situation differently from Bryn Mawr, but since Dartmouth's estimate was so close to Bryn Mawr's, I'm honestly not sure what happened.</p>

<p>If it makes a difference to you, you should talk to Wellesley. </p>

<p>You can accept Dartmouth (for example, but whom are we kidding?), defer matriculation for a year, and get more mature and focused. The likelihood that you would have a better educational option in a year is pretty small (since, really, there may not be better educational options, period). If somehow it becomes completely clear that you want a different educational option, that will almost certainly be OK, too.</p>

<p>I think taking a gap year could be wonderful -- if you are taking it for the right reasons. You've listed several good reasons, and also several significant obstacles. You need to do some more research before making a decision. Go and do that research -- have all your facts in front of you before you make a decision.</p>

<p>MomOfFour asks a really good question. How much of this is a reaction to that Princeton decision? I don't think you can answer that question yet. You need some time to recover from your raw emotions. You should make this decision rationally, not emotionally. I would also encourage you to visit Dartmouth and talk to staff there. Find people who have taken gap years and get some feedback. And I totally agree that you should accept one of your colleges and then make a decision on the gap year.</p>

<p>See if you can find a couple folks <em>at Dartmouth</em> who have taken a gap year and see what they have to say...</p>

<p>What if Wellesley matched/exceeded the packages of Bryn Mawr & Dartmouth?</p>

<p>From my following of your posts over the years, here's just a gut level piece of feedback.</p>

<p>Yes. Take a gap year if you can find something that doesn't require a lot of decision-making and agonizing. Make a plan. Go bump around the world. Let that high-frequency at which vibrate slow down a little bit. Bring a journal. Blog. Take photos. Earn some money here and there. Find out what it's like to be not the youngest somewhere.</p>

<p>Oh yeah, and accept one admissions offer if you can because who knows if Princeton will be such stinkers next time or not:). BTW, there was a poster, nopoisonivy, whose boy did take a gap year and did get accepted to Princeton the next time around. He was a graphic artist. His portfolio apparently clinched the deal next time around.</p>