Am I creating a conflict that isn't necessary or is my point of view valid?

If you are willing to send her to SUNY Buffalo, why don’t you consider SUNY Plattsburgh? It has a direct entry nursing program that is well regarded. my D’s best friend came to it as an OOS student and received scholarship money. She graduated in 2014 and immediately got work as a travel nurse. She worked in several different states but has now settled down in the last place she went to because she met a man there and is probably going to marry him.

Plattsburgh itself is a very nice school - 2 of my 5 kids went there.

The main difference between Buffalo and Plattsburgh (other than size) is that Buffalo is not a direct entry program. Students have to compete with students from other schools and programs at the end of sophomore year to get in and many don’t. I have 2 friends whose D’s had to give up their dreams of becoming nurses because they didn’t make it into the program at Buffalo and weren’t accepted anywhere else.