I just came to the U.S around 10 months ago, and right now I’m in a community college. I’m having no fun, and no real friends, s all of them go away when the semester is over. But, I am going to transfer to a university after one more year. So, I know that the people who have friends in community college, were from their high school, and they have had the most exciting time of their lives in high school. So, I coming late here at the age of 18, have missed all the fun. And I want to re-live it. I can’t right now because, most the people my age are just busy, and not looking for any friends just acquaintances. And the other people are much older.
So keeping the fact that I’m gonna transfer to maybe U of I after a year, in mind. Am I going to be able to re-live all the fun I could have had in school OR that was it, and I am too late…I remember that some people have told me that, universities are much more exciting than school, and that you make tons of friends and live those wacky adventures, even if you TRANSFER…So is this true?
Plz respond, as I’m getting really depressed.
Am I going to re-live the same fun as people did in High school and/or middle school OR that was it?
I’ve heard that community colleges have, ironically, less of a sense of “community”…you’ll definitely find that fun you’re looking for, it doesn’t magically disappear when you turn 18 and graduate. Don’t worry!! Keep working toward the goal of transferring.
Thanks for the comment. And so I will find that fun in a university, even though I transfer?
I transferred after spending two years at a commuter school. I went from having no friends and no social life to making tons of friends within a year. If you put yourself out there and try to be social you shouldn’t have trouble.
Right now I too am in a commuter college, but am planning to transfer after a year. So, even in this college I have made many acquaintances and even one or two friends, I even went to see a movie with a friends during the spring break. But still, those friends, I won’t see them after the semester is over. I am planning on joining the cross country team in summer. So, will I make friends in the cross country, who are around my age, and fun to hangout with?
You won’t know unless you try. Obviously you won’t make friends with everyone, but I’m optimistic there will be peers that are willing to become friends with you.
@TheSpartan After you transferred, you said that you made tons of friends. So, did you live in a dorm? If so, then were your friends freshmen, or did you also made some juniors and seniors also. I am a little concerned about transferring, because then I will be 20, and I want to live in the dorm, do parties and have fun, which I couldn’t right now, as I’m in a community college. So, living in the dorm and having fun, after transferring is okay right? It’s not like I’m gonna be too old (20 yrs old) for that, right?
And will there also be some juniors and/or seniors living at the residence halls?
And no, I will not be going to the transfer residence halls.
@danishnaseem05 I live in a dorm right now. I’m a junior but my friends from my dorm are a mix of freshmen, sophomores, and juniors. I the oldest person on my floor but it hasn’t been an issue, I mean there really isn’t THAT much of a difference between someone 21 and 18.
It does take some time to adjust as a transfer student, but if you live on campus, that should help you quickly meet and make new friends. Don’t despair. Take things one day at a time and focus on what you need to do to be successful.
Thanks. Your comments really helped me a lot. There are a lot things on the web about transferring, but I knew that those were just myths, which only had happened to the people who had lost their confidence, WAY before they transferred. So again, thanks for telling me that 18-21 isn’t old, and that I am STILL young.